Paxus
Gen X (45-60)
Male
Speed of commitment:
In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Activist commune supporting shared work, Ecovillage or agrihood
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC resident: I am already in an established IC and looking for members to join. This may or may not include housing, a business partnership, or work trade.
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
Less than half
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Rent a room as a trial run
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens)
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Clutter doesn't bother me, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions:
U.S. southeast region
Population density:
Rural, Small town
State, province, or region:
Virginia (VA)
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150
Gender + number:
Male
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, A topic not discussed by the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue), Children are welcome if 8 or older and well-behaved (e.g., remote work group without childcare)
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) not okay, Outdoor dog(s) not okay
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) not okay, Outdoor cat(s) not okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Noise level:
A lively social environment should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Off-grid:
Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is not workable, Is okay but not so important