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Millennial

Female + male + dependent(s)

SouthWest US

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Cottage industry in community (e.g. biz partners or recreation venture teams), Artist collective & live work space, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Resource-sharing commune, Off-grid commune

Food production:

Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.

Service-based IC (population):

Low income families with children, Low income elderly

Service-based IC (description):

Permanent residence

Residential proximity:

House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood)

Ownership types:

Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Whatever the group can agree on, Multi-house collective (shared resources, but houses have separate ownership or are separate rentals)

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Helping each other with childcare, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities, Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)

Décor of shared areas:

Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable), Decisions based on practical utility and durability

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

Medical need for a regularly disinfected environment, Medical need for a dust-free environment, All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests

Yard or landscaping:

Paved walkways and driveways, Mowed, trimmed, manicured outdoor space, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Covered space for storage, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Gardens and edible landscaping

Neighborhood or scenery:

Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for, Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

SouthWest US

Nation(s) of current residence:

United States

Preferred regions:

Pacific Islands, Pacific Coast U.S., Rocky Mountain U.S., Upper Midwest U.S., Southeast U.S., Southwest U.S., Mexico & Caribbian

Population density:

Suburban or exurban, Small town, Rural, Remote

Duration of my current location:

Would relocate if group decides to try another location together, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area within the next few years, Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future, Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future

Resource sharing:

Time bank, Car share, Child care swap, Pet care swap, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts, Meal preparation, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives

My socioeconomic status:

Substantial assets but lower income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures

Leadership availability:

I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team

Roles and responsibilities:

Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged

Practical skills:

Cooking for groups, Childcare, Cleaning, Gardening or crop cultivation, Permaculture, Carpentry & repair, Farm animal care, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, First responder (first aid) or EMT

Experience or schooling:

Food preservation (e.g., cheesemaking, home canning, drying, smoking), Activism & organizing, Medicine - alternative, Horticulture or permaculture, Architecture, Natural building, Carpentry & construction, Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation, Finance, economics, timebanking, Security (may include experience with weapons), Event planning & management, Computer science, Psychology, Sociology, Ordained minister or religious scholar, Experience teaching adults, Animal training or care, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Sports or physical recreation, Travel, Filmmaking, Musical performance, Performative dance, Social dance, Standup comedy, Theater, Visual art, Writing, Website design, Marketing, Business management, Public speaking, Group therapy or processing, Mediation or dispute resolution, Consensus facilitation, Short term rentals and hospitality, Long term rentals and maintenance, Food handling certification trainer

Languages:

English and American Sign language

Occupation(s) and expertise:

Food related, Interpreting, Transportation and Logistics

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, No experience, but determined to make it work

Professional certifications or degrees:

Commercial Driver

Generation:

Millennial

Generations intended in IC:

Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954)

Number of infants and preschoolers:

Number of grade-school children:

Number of working adults:

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes, Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should require that community is informed of planned visits, Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should not be restricted

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences

Required disclosures:

Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment, Background check for landlord/tenant disputes

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Spiritual but not religious, Christian (universalist), New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)

Practices welcome in IC:

Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Taoist, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet

Size of community:

Under 6, 6 to 10, 11 to 20, 21 to 50

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships

My gender + number:

Female + male + dependent(s)

Genders welcome in IC:

Non-binary, Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm in committed partnership

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Not applicable

My sexual orientation:

Monogamous, Straight

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic not discussed by the community, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Other

Physical affection:

I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well, I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends

Other ICmatch members in my household or IC:

https://icmatch.org/members/?user_id=564

My availability for physical intimacy:

Not currently open to a new relationship

Children in IC:

I have dependent child(ren) living with me and I am only seeking community with other families with children, Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue), Children are welcome if 8 or older and well-behaved (e.g., remote work group without childcare)

Children present in household:

Full time

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, Parents shouldn't be so untrusting that they consider all adults a potential child abuser, I prefer a community in which there are on-site designated childcare facilities to allow other adults to work, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them, Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings

I prefer that children not be exposed to

sexual behavior or images, drug use

Screen time (acceptable rules):

Screen time and content limits are up to individual families, Screen-free locations agreed on as a group, Screen-free times agreed on as a group to encourage outdoor play with peers, Parents should agree on online content allowed (e.g. video games, social media) because minors will share with each other, No screen time or content limits

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Pets or farm animals I have or want:

Chickens, rabbits

Plant-based or not:

Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Conventional eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay, Conventional milk products okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional meat products okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

Organic non-certified is okay, All food choices are accepted, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury

Pandemic norms:

Vaccinated, Unvaccinated, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Masks only when in public and mandated, Keep good health practices for good immune function, Whatever results from group decision-making process, Not applicable

Noise level:

One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, A lively social environment should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain

Sleep:

I’m an early riser, I’m a late riser, I keep an early bedtime, I keep a late bedtime, I often stay up past midnight, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night, My sleep is not easily disturbed

Comfort & convenience:

I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures

Tech savvy:

I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech

Wifi:

I can work without consistent internet connection, We have reliable wifi

Off-grid:

Is a workable favored option, Is workable for a part time location, Is okay but not so important, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with

Leisure time:

Gardening, Media Consumption, Video Games, Intellectual Conversations, raising children.

Political orientation:

Stressed sideliners

Culture influencers:

Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, Food Forest Heaven, Oliver Anthony, Avi Kaplan

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

ADA

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Rebel

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

ISTP : The Problem Solvers

Enneagram type:

TYPE 6

Astrological sign(s):

Leo

Dealmakers:

Mutual Child Care