Moon
Millennial (30-45)
Non-binary + dependent(s)
Frederick, MD
Speed of commitment:
In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Activist commune supporting shared work, Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Ecovillage or agrihood, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Single-parent shared housing, Tiny homes community, Van life co-travelers
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC resident: I am already in an established IC and looking for members to join. This may or may not include housing, a business partnership, or work trade.
ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:
LGBTQ+
Service-based IC (population served):
Addiction recovery, Aged out foster teens, Animal rescue, Chronically homeless, Escaped from sex trafficking, Ex convicts, Gang-involved youth, In-system foster kids, Learning disability, Low income LGBTQ+, Low income families with children, Low income racial or ethnic minority, Mild to moderate mental illness, Physical disability, Refugee resettlement, Runaway or homeless minors
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Roommates (okay to share bedroom), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Multi-house collective (shared resources, but houses have separate ownership or are separate rentals), Rent a room as a trial run, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained
Décor of shared areas:
Decisions based on practical utility and durability, Not applicable (planning an IC that does not include shared residence, common buildings, nor homeowners association), Not important, Other, Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable)
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Clutter doesn't bother me, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important
Yard or landscaping:
Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping, Paved walkways and driveways, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Yard aesthetics are not a priority
Neighborhood or scenery:
Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for, Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for, Not applicable
Current city, town, or county:
Frederick, MD
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions:
U.S. northeast region
Population density:
Nomadic, Remote, Rural, Small town, Suburban or exurban
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Other, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Want to experience a variety of communities and locations, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together
Relocation capacity:
Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future, Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future, Other, Ready to move from my general area within the next few years
Resource sharing:
Child care swap, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
No income (or extremely low) but will trade work for room, meals, and/or learning
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership, I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities"
Common practical skills:
Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Farm animal care, First responder (first aid) or EMT, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, Permaculture
Experience or schooling:
Activism & organizing, Animal training or care, Computer science, Experience teaching adults, Food preservation (e.g., cheesemaking, home canning, drying, smoking), Horticulture or permaculture, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Website design
Languages:
Russian, Spanish
Occupation(s) and expertise:
former Federal IT Contactor, Navy veteran
Years lived in an IC:
1-5 years in IC, Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives
Experience in community:
military housing, blended families
Professional certifications or degrees:
Bachelor's computer Science
Generation:
Millennial (30-45)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024)
Number of infants and preschoolers:
I
Number of grade-school children:
1
Number of working adults:
4
Number of non-working adults:
I
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should not be restricted, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Required disclosures:
On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Astrology, Atheist, Pagan, Spiritual but not religious, Tarot
Practices welcome in IC:
12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Pagan, Rastafarian, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Wiccan
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Belief-related practices:
< I hour
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 6 to 10, Under 6
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles
Gender + number:
Non-binary + dependent(s)
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Non-binary, Trans AFAB, Trans AMAB
My current couple situation:
I'm available, I'm in committed partnership
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not applicable, Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Non-monogamous, Not necessary for others to know, Other, Pansexual, Polyamorous
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, A topic not discussed by the community, Other, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending, Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement
Socioeconomic status:
I Lost my Contracting Job for Identifying as trans non-binary in February. I sold my home in July and moved to Frederick, MD.
Gender and sexuality:
I am only interested in diverse and affirming spaces
Queer or LGBTQ:
They/them trans non-binary
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue), Children are welcome if 8 or older and well-behaved (e.g., remote work group without childcare), I have dependent child(ren) living with me and I am only seeking community with other families with children
Children present in household:
Full time, Full time during summer, Part time, approximately half, Part time, less than half, Part time, only weekends
Other people’s children:
Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, Parents shouldn't be so untrusting that they consider all adults a potential child abuser
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Children sheltered from:
Adult nudity, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics
Screen time (acceptable rules):
Parents should agree on online content allowed (e.g. video games, social media) because children will share with each other, Screen time and content limits are up to individual families, Screen-free locations agreed on as a group, Screen-free times agreed on as a group to encourage outdoor play with peers
Schooling:
Homeschool, Public school
Learning method:
Montessori and experience-based learning
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Farm animals or pets:
Chickens, Ducks, Fish pond, Rabbits
Special food needs:
Avoid over-processed foods with unpronounceable ingredients, Severe food allergies, Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation
Plant-based or not:
Cage-free eggs okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional meat products okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together, Fish okay, Mostly vegetarian, Small local dairy products okay
Organic:
All food choices are accepted, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Vaccinated, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Severe allergies:
Antibiotics
Accommodations needed:
Mental health disability or condition, Severe mold sensitivity
Noise level:
As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I keep a late bedtime, I often stay up past midnight, I’m a late riser, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is not easily disturbed
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Internet connection & phone signal:
I can work without consistent internet connection, We have reliable wifi
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is okay but not so important, Is workable for a part time location
Astrological sign(s):
Aries, Leo, Virgo rising
Dealbreakers:
Bigots, transfobes, conservatives