Padme OM
Millennial (30-45)
Male
Boulder, CO
Speed of commitment:
Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Ecovillage or agrihood, Life partner also into community, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), RV or mobile home park, Resource-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Shared metropolitan housing
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Roommates (okay to share bedroom), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Rent a room as a trial run, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained
Décor of shared areas:
A consistent aesthetic theme is important, Not important
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity)
Yard or landscaping:
Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping, Mowed, trimmed, manicured outdoor space, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight
Neighborhood or scenery:
Not applicable
Current city, town, or county:
Boulder, CO
Preferred regions:
Pacific Islands, U.S. rocky mountain region, U.S. southwest region
Population density:
Remote, Rural, Small town
Ideal location(s):
Colorado/New Mexico
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Want to experience a variety of communities and locations, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together
Relocation capacity:
Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future, Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area within the next few years
Resource sharing:
Car share, Child care swap, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Pet care swap, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Close to median income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Common practical skills:
Carpentry & repair, Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Group facilitation
Experience or schooling:
Business management, Carpentry & construction, Event planning & management, Group therapy or processing, Marketing, Musical performance, Public speaking, Social dance, Sports or physical recreation, Standup comedy, Website design
Years lived in an IC:
1-5 years in IC, Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s)
Professional certifications or degrees:
Basic EMT, Consensus 101, Facilitation, Conflict Resolution, Construction,
Generation:
Millennial (30-45)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated areas only
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)
Required disclosures:
On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Astrology, Buddhist, Hindu, Pagan, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist
Practices welcome in IC:
Agnostic, Astrology, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Muslim/Islam, Pagan, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Wiccan
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Size of community:
21 to 50
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles
Gender + number:
Male
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
I'm available
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not applicable, Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Monogamous, Polyamorous, Straight
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community
Physical affection:
I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Other people’s children:
I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Special food needs:
Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation
Organic:
Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Noise level:
As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work
Sleep:
I’m an early riser
Comfort & convenience:
I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I like my cushy life
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Internet connection & phone signal:
I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours
Off-grid:
Is the definite only plan