Padme OM
Millennial
Male
Boulder, CO
Speed of commitment:
Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Ecovillage or agrihood, Retreat or event hosting as community, Life partner with community values, RV or mobile home parks, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Resource-sharing commune, Shared housing in metropolitan area
Food production:
Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.
Residential proximity:
Roommates (okay to share bedroom), House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood)
Ownership types:
Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Whatever the group can agree on, Rent a room as a trial run
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Helping each other with childcare, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities, Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained
Décor of shared areas:
Not important, A consistent aesthetic theme is important
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity)
Yard or landscaping:
Mowed, trimmed, manicured outdoor space, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Covered space for storage, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Gardens and edible landscaping
Neighborhood or scenery:
Not applicable
Current city/town and state/province:
Boulder, CO
Preferred regions:
Pacific Islands, Rocky Mountain U.S., Southwest U.S.
Population density:
Small town, Rural, Remote
Ideal location(s):
Colorado/New Mexico
Duration of my current location:
Want to experience a variety of communities and locations, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family
Relocation capacity:
Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area within the next few years, Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future
Resource sharing:
Time bank, Car share, Child care swap, Pet care swap, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts
My socioeconomic status:
Close to median income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Practical skills:
Cooking for groups, Childcare, Cleaning, Carpentry & repair, Group facilitation
Experience or schooling:
Carpentry & construction, Event planning & management, Sports or physical recreation, Musical performance, Social dance, Standup comedy, Website design, Marketing, Business management, Public speaking, Group therapy or processing
Years lived in an IC:
Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), 1-5 years in IC
Professional certifications or degrees:
Basic EMT, Consensus 101, Facilitation, Conflict Resolution, Construction,
Generation:
Millennial
Generations intended in IC:
Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946)
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated areas only
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use
Overnight guests (tolerable rules):
Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)
Required disclosures:
Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Spiritual but not religious, Buddhist, Hindu, Spiritualist, Pagan, Taoist, Astrology
Practices welcome in IC:
Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Jainist, Astrology
Ecological preservation ethics:
Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet
Size of community:
21 to 50
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles
My gender + number:
Male
Genders welcome in IC:
Non-binary, Male, Female
My current couple situation:
I'm available
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Not applicable
My sexual orientation:
Monogamous, Straight, Polyamorous
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community
Physical affection:
I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Other people’s children:
I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them, Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Special food needs:
Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation
Organic:
Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category
Pandemic norms:
Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Keep good health practices for good immune function, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Noise level:
One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain
Sleep:
I’m an early riser
Comfort & convenience:
I like my cushy life, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I can tolerate extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Wifi:
I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours
Off-grid:
Is the definite only plan