Looking4Community
Younger boomer (60-70)
Female + male
Nomad, U.S.
Speed of commitment:
In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Artist collective & live work space, Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Mobile home park or RV spot, Off-grid, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC seeker: I’m seeking residence in an existing household or IC with a stable culture and/or established norms.
Service-based IC (population served):
Animal rescue, Low income elderly
Residential proximity:
Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained
Décor of shared areas:
Not applicable (planning an IC that does not include shared residence, common buildings, nor homeowners association), Not important
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Dusting is not so important
Yard or landscaping:
Not applicable, Yard aesthetics are not a priority
Neighborhood or scenery:
Scenery is not high on the list of property characteristics that's worth paying extra for
Current city, town, or county:
Nomad
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions:
Oregon, U.S. California, U.S. Washington state, U.S. northeast region, U.S. rocky mountain region, U.S. southeast region, U.S. southwest region
Population density:
Nomadic, Rural, Small town, Suburban or exurban
Commitment to my current location:
Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well
Relocation capacity:
Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future
Resource sharing:
Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Close to median income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Roles and responsibilities:
Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities"
Experience or schooling:
Architecture, Business management, Carpentry & construction, Computer science, Electrician, Event planning & management, Finance, economics, timebanking, Marketing, Natural building, Political science & history, Public speaking, Travel, Visual art, Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation
Occupation(s) and expertise:
Computer Engineer, Conctruction, Home remodel
Years lived in an IC:
No experience, but determined to make it work
Generation:
Younger boomer (60-70)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Number of working adults:
2
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should not be restricted, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Required disclosures:
On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Agnostic, Atheist, Spiritual but not religious
Practices welcome in IC:
12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Pantheist, Rastafarian, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Theosophical Society, Wiccan, Zoroastrian
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Under 6
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings
Gender + number:
Female + male
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
I'm in committed partnership
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Non-monogamous, Straight
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Heterosexual (straight), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well
My availability for physical intimacy:
Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending, Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
No dependent children
Other people’s children:
I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, Parents shouldn't be so untrusting that they consider all adults a potential child abuser
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings, Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior
Children sheltered from:
Drug use, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics
Screen time (acceptable rules):
Screen time and content limits are up to individual families
Schooling:
Charter school, Homeschool, Private school, Public school
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Farm animals or pets I have or want:
2 Bassett Hounds
Plant-based or not:
Conventional meat products okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together
Organic:
All food choices are accepted, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, Maintain strict social distancing and masks outside the IC, Masks only when in public and mandated, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Vaccinated, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Noise level:
A lively social environment should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I’m a late riser, I’m an early riser, My sleep is not easily disturbed, Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Internet connection & phone signal:
I can work without consistent internet connection, We have reliable wifi
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is okay but not so important, Is the definite only plan, Is workable for a part time location
Leisure time:
Photography, music, ohiking, basket making, turning wood bowls, movies
Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:
Water for Elephants, Many lives, many Masters
Political orientation:
Progressive left
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
65
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
80
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
80
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
25
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
84