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IdealisticTanguera

Gen X

Female

Carbondale, CO

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Retreat or event hosting as community, Life partner with community values, Shelter for homeless, Ethnic culture-focused (e.g., BIPOC)

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.

ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:

Ecohouse & Healer Cooperative

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

Less than half, No can do

Residential proximity:

Roommates (okay to share bedroom), House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen)

Ownership types:

Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Rent a room as a trial run

Reasons for shared housing:

Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Friendship and sharing activities, Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)

Décor of shared areas:

Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable), Decisions based on practical utility and durability, A consistent aesthetic theme is important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Super tidy at diagnosable OCD level, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests

Yard or landscaping:

Not applicable

Neighborhood or scenery:

Scenery is not high on the list of property characteristics that's worth paying extra for, Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

Carbondale, CO

Nation(s) of current residence:

United States

Preferred regions:

Rocky Mountain U.S.

Population density:

Small town, Rural, Remote

Ideal location(s):

rural or semi-rural location within the Roaring Fork Valley of Colorado

Duration of my current location:

Other

Relocation capacity:

Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future

Resource sharing:

Car share, Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Meal preparation

My socioeconomic status:

Substantial assets but lower income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures

Leadership availability:

I'm currently in IC leadership, I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team

Roles and responsibilities:

Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict

Practical skills:

Cooking for groups, Cleaning, Gardening or crop cultivation, Farm animal care, Grant-writing, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Humanitarian work, Ecological science, Nutrition, Political science & history, Psychology, Sociology, Experience teaching adults, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Travel, Social dance, Theater, Writing, Website design, Business management, Short term rentals and hospitality, Long term rentals and maintenance

Languages:

Spanish, minimal German

Occupation(s) and expertise:

writing, dissertation coaching & editing, mediation, foster care management

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, Less than a year in IC

Experience in community:

4 months living on site at ecovillage; volunteered there for 9 months prior

Professional certifications or degrees:

M.A. in psychology; mediation certification

Generation:

Gen X

Generations intended in IC:

Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946)

Number of working adults:

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, even if its legal in our location, Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes, Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should require that community is informed of planned visits, Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC)

Required disclosures:

Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment

Prohibitions:

people need to take responsibility for their effect on others, including guests of the community

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian (universalist), Spiritualist, Taoist, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body

Practices welcome in IC:

Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Jainist, Astrology, Pantheist, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Zoroastrian, Kabbalah, Tarot, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix), 12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.)

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet

Belief-related practices:

It's fine to have and express your beliefs but not impose on others. I enjoy walking weekly with a friend, discussing topics of emotional growth. In the past I've enjoyed meeting monthly for ceremonies including smudging and other symbolic gestures.

Wisdom sharing:

I believe in very few one-size-fits-all principles. I believe sometimes we may be in other's lives to learn from each other even if it's not a long-term situation. With authenticity and compassion we can live peacefully and part amicably when that becomes the best way forward. I believe living in community is both extremely challenging and often worth it.

Size of community:

Under 6, 6 to 10

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships

My gender + number:

Female

Genders welcome in IC:

Non-binary, Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm single or divorced, I'm available

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship)

My sexual orientation:

Monogamous, Straight

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic not discussed by the community, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Other

Physical affection:

I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well

My availability for physical intimacy:

Never would I ever be interested in casual sex, Want to take it really slow to be sure a commitment can last

Socioeconomic status:

I've got skill sets that have provided me a high income in the past, but currently I'm working for non-profits. Voluntary simplicity. I have zero debt.

Queer or LGBTQ:

I'm comfortable interacting daily with people who have gender nonconforming identities.

Diversity beliefs or intentions:

I have friends from many ethnic backgrounds. I speak Spanish. Dual language would be workable.

Children in IC:

Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community)

Children present in household:

No dependent children

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings

I prefer that children not be exposed to

violent images or lyrics, guns, adult nudity, sexual behavior or images, vulgar language, drug use

Screen time (acceptable rules):

Screen time and content limits are up to individual families, Screen-free locations agreed on as a group, Screen-free times agreed on as a group to encourage outdoor play with peers, Parents should agree on online content allowed (e.g. video games, social media) because minors will share with each other

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers, Outdoor dog(s) not okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) not okay, Outdoor cat(s) not okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Pets or farm animals I have or want:

I don't have pets currently. Because we have guests at the resort, and team housing is small, one outside dog at the place could be okay if not a barker. Next to wilderness, an outdoor cat would be in danger. An indoor cat would have too little space for comfort.

Special food needs:

Strongly prefer home-processed foods

Plant-based or not:

Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, All food choices are accepted, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC

Pandemic norms:

Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Masks only when in public and mandated, Keep good health practices for good immune function

Severe allergies:

none

Health conditions:

My feet and hands get cold easily because of low blood pressure. I can handle being in cold only with big boots & mittens.

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, A lively social environment should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain

Sleep:

I’m an early riser, I’m a late riser, I keep an early bedtime, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night

Sleep needs & noise:

I wake most nights between midnight and 4, get up for 30 to 45 minutes, then go back to sleep.

Comfort & convenience:

I like my cushy life, I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Wifi:

I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure

Off-grid:

Is not workable

Leisure time:

side work projects, walking

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

documentaries mostly; podcasts on business, mindset, spirituality, politics

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

RFK Jr., Brene Brown, Nic Askew, Ezra Klein, Jamie Weinstein, Bari Weiss, Nick Hanauer, farmer Joel Salatin

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

Avaaz, local land trusts for conservation easements, Kiva microcredit lending

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

INTJ but also, after a 1.5 year volunteer work, retested as F, more empathic than T

Enneagram type:

1w2

Astrological sign(s):

taurus

Weaknesses and superpowers:

very absorbed in work projects; I'm super productive but this can detract from enjoying leisure time

A note about me/us:

While personality tests can be fun and useful, I believe we still need to recognize individual differences beyond the labels.

Dealbreakers:

I don't like snarky commentators. I don't want to be around mean-spirited people who I have to be on guard around and hold firm boundaries with. However, if they are part of the community already, there need to be ways of making sure they don't cause too much grief to others.

Dealmakers:

A tidy living and working space, healthy eating, being close to walks in nature, minimal plastic, eco-friendly products