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IdealisticTanguera

Gen X

Female

Carbondale, CO

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Van life co-travelers, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Ecovillage or urban agrihood, Small farm or ranch, Retreat or event hosting as community, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Life partner with community values, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Trial run: Join a household, Resource-sharing commune, Off-grid commune, Tiny homes community, Activist commune supporting shared work, Shelter for homeless

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Not involved in farming or gardening

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.

ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:

Conscious Living Collective in Carbondale CO (no website yet; getting non-profit ID)

Service-based IC (population):

Animal rescue, Physical disability, Learning disability, Low income families with children, Low income 2SLGBTQIA+, Low income ethnic minority, Refugee resettlement, Low income elderly, Low income with high medical risk, Chronically homeless, Mild to moderate mental illness, Mental illness involving delusion or dementia, Addiction recovery, Escaped from sex trafficking, Runaway or homeless minors, Aged out foster teens, In-system foster kids, Gang-involved youth, Ex convicts

Service-based IC (description):

Short term shelter, Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s), Provides housing while attending external college or vocational training

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

About half, Less than half

Residential proximity:

House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood)

Ownership types:

Rented with shared housing or shared land, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Whatever the group can agree on, Multi-house collective (shared resources, but houses have separate ownership or are separate rentals), Rent a room as a trial run

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities, Not applicable (shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing)

Décor of shared areas:

Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable), Decisions based on practical utility and durability, A consistent aesthetic theme is important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Super tidy at diagnosable OCD level, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

Medical need for a regularly disinfected environment, Medical need for a dust-free environment, All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important

Yard or landscaping:

Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Gardens and edible landscaping, Xeriscape

Neighborhood or scenery:

Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for, Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

Carbondale, CO

Nation(s) of current residence:

United States

Preferred regions of North America:

Rocky Mountain U.S.

Population density:

Urban, Suburban or exurban, Small town, Rural, Remote, Nomadic

Regions of world:

North America

Ideal location(s):

I enjoy living in a semi-rural location with many wilderness trails.

Duration of your current location:

Committed to current location because of work or studies

Relocation capacity:

Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future

Resource sharing:

Time bank, Car share, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts, Meal preparation

My socioeconomic status:

Close to median income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Current work or personal demands leave little time for leisure

Leadership availability:

I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team

Roles and responsibilities:

Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged

Practical skills:

Cooking for groups, Cleaning, Gardening, Farm animal care, Grant-writing, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Humanitarian work, Ecological science, Nutrition, Political science & history, Psychology, Sociology, Experience teaching adults, Outdoor survival skills, Travel, Social dance, Theater, Writing, Website design, Business management, Short term rentals and hospitality, Long term rentals and maintenance

Languages:

Spanish, minimal German

Occupation(s) and expertise:

writing, dissertation coaching & editing, mediation, foster care management

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, Less than a year in IC

Experience in community:

4 months living on site at ecovillage; volunteered there for 9 months prior

Professional certifications or degrees:

M.A. in psychology; mediation certification

Generation:

Gen X

Generations intended in IC:

Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946)

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be allowed only in a legal supervised therapeutic setting, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should not be restricted

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)

Required disclosures:

On sex offender registry

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian (universalist), Spiritualist, Taoist, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body

Practices welcome in IC:

Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Jainist, Astrology, Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Zoroastrian, Kabbalah, Tarot, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet

Belief-related practices:

I enjoy walking weekly with a friend, discussing topics of emotional growth. In the past I've enjoyed meeting monthly for ceremonies including smudging and other symbolic gestures.

Wisdom sharing:

I believe in very few one-size-fits-all principles. I believe sometimes we may be in other's lives to learn from each other even if it's not a long-term situation. With authenticity and compassion we can live peacefully and part amicably when that becomes the best way forward. I believe living in community is both extremely challenging and often worth it.

Size of community:

Under 6, 6 to 10, 11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, Over 150

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships

My gender + number:

Female

Genders welcome in IC:

Non-binary, Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm single or divorced, I'm available

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship)

My sexual orientation:

Monogamous, Straight

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Pre-determined by proscribed religious doctrine, with community accountability, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community

Physical affection:

I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well

My availability for physical intimacy:

Never would I ever be interested in casual sex, Want to take it really slow to be sure a commitment can last

Queer or LGBTQ:

I'm comfortable interacting daily with people who have gender nonconforming identities.

DEI commitment:

I have friends from many ethnic backgrounds. I speak Spanish. Dual language would be workable.

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)

Children present in household:

Not applicable

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them, Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings

I prefer that children not be exposed to

violent images or lyrics, guns, nudity, sexual behavior or images, vulgar language, drug use

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers, Indoor dog(s) not okay, Outdoor dog(s) not okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay, Indoor cat(s) not okay, Outdoor cat(s) not okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Other creatures:

I've kept chickens before and lived on a farm 10 months helping care for other animals.

Special food needs:

Strongly prefer home-processed foods

Plant-based or not:

Primarily vegetarian, Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, All food choices are accepted, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)

Shared meals:

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC

Pandemic norms:

Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Masks only when in public and mandated, Keep good health practices for good immune function

Severe allergies:

none

Health conditions:

feet and hands get cold easily because of low blood pressure; can handle being in cold only with big boots & mittens

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, A lively social environment should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet

Sleep:

I’m an early riser, I’m a late riser, I keep an early bedtime, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night

Sleep needs & noise:

I wake most nights between midnight and 4, get up for 30 to 45 minutes, then go back to sleep.

Comfort & convenience:

I like my cushy life, I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Wifi:

I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure

Off-grid:

Is a workable option, Is workable part time, Is okay but not necessary, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is not workable

Leisure time:

side work projects, walking

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

documentaries mostly; podcasts on business, mindset, spirituality, politics

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

RFK Jr., Brene Brown, Nic Askew, Ezra Klein, Jamie Weinstein, Bari Weiss, Nick Hanauer, farmer Joel Salatin

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

Avaaz, local land trusts for conservation easements, Kiva microcredit lending

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

INTJ but also, after a 1.5 year volunteer work, retested as F, more empathic than T

Enneagram type:

1w2

Astrological sign(s):

taurus

Weaknesses and superpowers:

very absorbed in work projects; I'm super productive but this can detract from enjoying leisure time

A note about me/us:

While personality tests can be fun and useful, I believe we still need to recognize individual differences beyond the labels.

Dealbreakers:

I don't like snarky commentators. I don't want to be around mean-spirited people who I have to be on guard around and hold firm boundaries with. However, if they are part of the community already, there need to be ways of making sure they don't cause too much grief to others.

Dealmakers:

A tidy living and working space, healthy eating, and time in nature are really important to me and my teen.