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IdealisticTanguera

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity)

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Van life co-travelers, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Ecovillage or urban agrihood, Retreat or event hosting as community, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Life partner with community values, Neighborhood mutual aid or resource-sharing group, Resource-sharing commune

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Not involved in farming or gardening

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.

Residential proximity:

House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Neighborhood mutual aid project or "cooperative housing cluster" (shared resources, houses aren't adjacent)

Ownership types:

Rented with shared housing or shared land, Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Whatever the group can agree on, Shared project but not shared housing, Rent a room as a trial run

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities, Not applicable (shared land, community hub, or project but not shared housing)

Décor of shared areas:

Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable), Decisions based on practical utility and durability, A consistent aesthetic theme is important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Super tidy at diagnosable OCD level, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

Medical need for a regularly disinfected environment, Medical need for a dust-free environment, All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important

Yard or landscaping:

Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Gardens and edible landscaping, Xeriscape

Neighborhood or scenery:

Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for, Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

Shawnigan Lake BC

Nation(s) of current residence:

Canada, United States

Preferred regions of North America:

Canada, Pacific Coast U.S., Rocky Mountain U.S.

Population density:

Urban, Suburban or exurban, Small town, Rural

Regions of world:

North America

Ideal location(s):

BC is amazing and I enjoy living in a semi-rural location with many wilderness trails.

Duration of your current location:

Want to experience a variety of communities and locations, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Must stay in current location for childrens school or co-parenting

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my general area within the next few years, Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future

Resource sharing:

Time bank, Car share, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts

My socioeconomic status:

Close to median income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures, Current work or personal demands leave little time for leisure

Practical skills:

Cooking for groups, Cleaning, Gardening, Farm animal care, Grant-writing, Group facilitation

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Humanitarian work, Ecological science, Nutrition, Waterworks & sanitation, Political science & history, Psychology, Sociology, Experience teaching adults, Outdoor survival skills, Travel, Social dance, Writing, Website design, Business management

Languages:

Spanish, minimal German

Occupation(s) and expertise:

writing, dissertation coaching & editing, mediation, foster care management

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, Less than a year in IC

Experience in community:

4 months living on site at ecovillage; volunteered there for 9 months prior

Professional certifications or degrees:

M.A. in psychology; mediation certification

Generation:

Gen X

Generations intended in IC:

Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)

Alcohol:

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking:

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis:

Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics:

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be allowed only in a legal supervised therapeutic setting, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs:

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use

Overnight guests:

Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access:

Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should not be restricted

Nudity:

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)

Required disclosures:

On sex offender registry

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian (universalist), Astrology, Spiritualist, Taoist, Near-death experience or out-of-body

Practices welcome in IC:

Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Astrology, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Jainist, New Age (mix), Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Zoroastrian, Kabbalah, Tarot, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction)

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet

Belief-related practices:

I enjoy walking weekly with a friend, discussing topics of emotional growth. In the past I've enjoyed meeting monthly for ceremonies including smudging and other symbolic gestures.

Size of community:

Under 6, 6 to 10, 11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, Over 150

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships

My gender + number:

Female + dependant(s)

Genders welcome in IC:

Non-binary, Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm single or divorced, I'm available

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship)

My sexual orientation:

Monogamous, Straight

Sexual orientations welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender normative), Monogamous, Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+, Polyamorous, Polygamous (married to more than one)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Pre-determined by proscribed religious doctrine, with community accountability, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well

Other ICmatch members in my household:

BabyActivist

My availability for physical intimacy:

Want to take it really slow to be sure a commitment can last

Children in IC:

I have dependent child(ren) living with me and I must be in community with other families with children

Children present in household:

Full time

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their children for the benefit of adults around them, Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers, Indoor dog(s) not okay, Outdoor dog(s) not okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay, Indoor cat(s) not okay, Outdoor cat(s) not okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Other creatures:

I've kept chickens before and lived on a farm 10 months helping care for other animals.

Special food needs:

Strongly prefer unprocessed foods

Plant-based or not:

Primarily vegetarian, Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, All food choices are accepted, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)

Shared meals:

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who are in a high-risk category and need strict precautions from people in their IC

Pandemic norms:

Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Masks only when in public and mandated, Keep good health practices for good immune function

Severe allergies:

none

Health conditions:

feet and hands get cold easily because of low blood pressure; can handle being in cold only with big boots & mittens

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, A lively social environment should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet

Sleep:

I’m an early riser, I’m a late riser, I keep an early bedtime, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night

Sleep needs & noise:

I wake most nights between midnight and 4, get up for 30 to 45 minutes, then go back to sleep.

Comfort & convenience:

I like my cushy life, I can not tolerate extreme temperatures, I can tolerate a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Wifi:

I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure

Off-grid:

Is workable part time, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is not workable

Leisure time:

side work projects, walking

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

documentaries mostly; podcasts on business, mindset, spirituality, politics

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

Brene Brown, Nic Askew, Oprah Winfrey, Nick Hanauer

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

Avaaz, local land trusts for conservation easements, Kiva microcredit lending

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional stability (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

INTJ

Enneagram type:

1w2

Astrological sign(s):

taurus

Weaknesses and superpowers:

very absorbed in work projects, which can detract from enjoying leisure time

Dealbreakers:

I don't like snarky commentators. Don't want to be around mean-spirited people.

Dealmakers:

A tidy living and working space, healthy eating, and time in nature are really important to me and my teen.