HappyDancer
Mixed ages
Female
Denver CO
Speed of commitment:
Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Life partner with community values, Trial run: Join a household, Shared housing in metropolitan area, Expat residential communities
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
No can do
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen)
Ownership types:
Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on, Rent a room as a trial run
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Friendship and sharing activities, Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained
Décor of shared areas:
Not important, Decisions based on practical utility and durability, A consistent aesthetic theme is important
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests
Yard or landscaping:
Paved walkways and driveways, Mowed, trimmed, manicured outdoor space, Gardens and edible landscaping
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for, Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for
Current city/town and state/province:
Denver CO
Nation(s) of current residence:
United States
Preferred regions:
Rocky Mountain U.S.
Population density:
Urban
Ideal location(s):
Denver CO
Duration of my current location:
Committed to location because of owning a unique property
Relocation capacity:
Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future
Resource sharing:
Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Meal preparation
My socioeconomic status:
Close to median income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership, I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged
Practical skills:
Cooking for groups, Cleaning, Gardening or crop cultivation, Permaculture, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling
Experience or schooling:
Food preservation (e.g., cheesemaking, home canning, drying, smoking), Nutrition, Horticulture or permaculture, Natural building, City planning, zoning, & compliance, Psychology, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Sports or physical recreation, Travel, Performative dance, Social dance, Consensus facilitation, Short term rentals and hospitality, Long term rentals and maintenance
Occupation(s) and expertise:
Home and garden maintenance
Years lived in an IC:
Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), 11-20 years in IC
Experience in community:
I have lived in community in my house for many years.
Generation:
Mixed ages
Generations intended in IC:
Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954)
Number of working adults:
3
Number of non-working adults:
1
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes, Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnight guests (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC)
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Spiritual but not religious, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Spiritualist, Pagan, Taoist, Astrology, Pantheist, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Tarot, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)
Practices welcome in IC:
Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Jainist, Astrology, Pantheist, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Zoroastrian, Kabbalah, Tarot, Mediumship, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), 12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Rastafarian
Ecological preservation ethics:
Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted
Wisdom sharing:
Prefer some spiritual and self awareness
Size of community:
Under 6
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles
My gender + number:
Female
Genders welcome in IC:
Non-binary, Male, Female
My current couple situation:
I'm single or divorced, I'm available
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not applicable
My sexual orientation:
Straight, Not necessary for others to know
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic not discussed by the community, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Other
Physical affection:
I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well, I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side
Other ICmatch members in my household or IC:
There are 3 other members in the community but they aren’t ICmatch members
My availability for physical intimacy:
Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement
Queer or LGBTQ:
We welcome non-binary people
Diversity beliefs or intentions:
We are open to all people
Children in IC:
Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community)
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) not okay, Outdoor dog(s) not okay
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Pets or farm animals I have or want:
One cat, one dog currently. I would love to have farm animals but don’t have space
Special food needs:
Celiac's or gluten sensitivity, Strongly prefer home-processed foods, Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation
Plant-based or not:
Primarily vegetarian, Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together
Organic:
Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, All food choices are accepted
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, Not applicable
Noise level:
A quiet serene living space should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain
Sleep:
I keep an early bedtime, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes
Sleep needs & noise:
Everyone has their own schedule
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Wifi:
I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure, We have reliable wifi
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is not workable
Leisure time:
Alone time is important in community
Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:
I like anime. Everyone has their own preferences
Political orientation:
Outsider left
Culture influencers:
Bernie Sanders
Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:
Indivisible
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
Introverted
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
When I came back to enter results, the previous ones had disappeared. I won’t take the tests again
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
Agreeable
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
Conscientious
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
Open - seeks new experiences
Astrological sign(s):
Libra Leo rising Taurus moon
Weaknesses and superpowers:
Slightly ocd. Want everyone to be happy
A note about me/us:
A calm and happy living environment is important
Dealbreakers:
People who don’t contribute to the community
Dealmakers:
People who love gardening and a clean house