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FarmsActivist
Mixed ages
Female + male + dependent(s)
Santaquin, UT
Speed of commitment:
Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Small farm or ranch, Trial run: Join a household
Food production:
Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
Householder: I am looking for one or more members to join a household that is NOT located in a larger IC. This may or may not include a business partnership or work share.
Service-based IC (population):
Low income elderly
Service-based IC (description):
Permanent residence
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
All
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen)
Ownership types:
Rented with shared housing or shared land, Rent a room as a trial run
Reasons for shared housing:
Lower cost of living, Sharing meals and chores
Décor of shared areas:
Decisions based on practical utility and durability
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important
Yard or landscaping:
Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Gardens and edible landscaping, Yard aesthetics are not a priority
Current city/town and state/province:
Santaquin, UT
Nation(s) of current residence:
United States
Preferred regions of North America:
Rocky Mountain U.S.
Population density:
Small town
Regions of world:
North America
Ideal location(s):
we're on family farm
Duration of your current location:
Committed to location because of owning a unique property
Relocation capacity:
Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future
Resource sharing:
Garden (share work and produce), Meal preparation, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives
My socioeconomic status:
Low income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Very frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership
Roles and responsibilities:
In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict
Practical skills:
Gardening, Farm animal care
Experience or schooling:
Political science & history, Psychology, Writing, Business management, Short term rentals and hospitality, Long term rentals and maintenance
Occupation(s) and expertise:
foster care caseworker, mom was a 1st & 2nd grade teacher
Years lived in an IC:
Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, Less than a year in IC
Generation:
Mixed ages
Generations intended in IC:
Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954)
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises, even if its legal in our location
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be grounds for expulsion from the community
Overnight guests (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be allowed in designated guest areas
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be restricted, Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC)
Required disclosures:
Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment, Credit check, Background check for landlord/tenant disputes
Prohibitions:
Mom/grandma is socially conservative and tends to feel uncomfortable with non-mainstream behaviors.
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
Mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Agnostic, Christian (universalist), Christian (evangelical)
Practices welcome in IC:
Christian
Ecological preservation ethics:
Gray water recycling where permitted
Belief-related practices:
We grew up Mormon. Household ranges from agnostic to true believer.
Size of community:
6 to 10
Sense of togetherness:
I do not want to be required or pressured to share feelings in a group setting, I do not want obligatory group work where we are expected to help resolve disputes, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles
My gender + number:
Female + male + dependent(s)
Genders welcome in IC:
Male, Female
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship)
My sexual orientation:
Monogamous, Straight
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
Pre-determined by proscribed religious doctrine, with community accountability, A topic not discussed by the community
Physical affection:
I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side
My availability for physical intimacy:
Never would I ever be interested in casual sex
Children in IC:
Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community)
Children present in household:
Full time
Other people’s children:
I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
I prefer that children not be exposed to
violent images or lyrics, guns, nudity, sexual behavior or images, vulgar language, drug use
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Outdoor dog(s) okay
Cats:
Outdoor cat(s) okay
Other creatures:
indoor (in one residence) & outdoor dogs, outdoor cat, chickens, pigs, horses, cows
Special food needs:
Strongly prefer home-processed foods
Plant-based or not:
Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together
Organic:
All food choices are accepted, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)
Shared meals:
Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who are in a high-risk category and need strict precautions from people in their IC
Pandemic norms:
Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Keep good health practices for good immune function
Noise level:
One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain
Sleep needs & noise:
one member of household is on call EMT so noisy alert can happen any time
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Wifi:
I must have wifi on 24/7
Off-grid:
Is not workable
Culture influencers:
for prior question, mix here is faith & flag, outsider left, populist right
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
mix
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
middle
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
mom/grandma too agreeable; others middle to ornery
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
all high conscientiousness
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
varies
Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:
upholder, questioner, rebel
Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:
ENFJ, INTJ, ISTJ
Weaknesses and superpowers:
mom/grandma is main person to get along with; very kind, strictly religious, socially conservative
Dealmakers:
Mormon
On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:
middle
On scale of 0 (prefers calm & predictable) to 20 (sensation seeking):
middle