Korey B
Gen X (45-60)
Male
Conesus, NY U.S.
Speed of commitment:
Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Activist commune supporting shared work, Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Disaster prep or timeshare cabin, Ecovillage or agrihood, Ethnic culture-focused (e.g., BIPOC), Expat residential community, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Life partner also into community, Mobile home park or RV spot, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Senior cohousing or shared house, Shelter for homeless, Single-parent shared housing, Spiritual or religious focus, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.
ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:
Mission Conesus NY
Service-based IC (population served):
Chronically homeless, Escaped from sex trafficking, Learning disability, Low income elderly, Low income families with children, Low income racial or ethnic minority, Low income with high medical risk, Physical disability, Runaway or homeless minors
Service-based IC (services offered):
Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides housing while attending college or vocational training, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s), Short term shelter
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
More than half
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Roommates (okay to share bedroom), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Rent a room as a trial run, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing or land:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained, Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)
Décor of shared areas:
Decisions based on practical utility and durability, Other, Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable)
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Super tidy at diagnosable OCD level, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Medical need for a dust-free environment, Medical need for a regularly disinfected environment
Yard or landscaping:
Mowed, trimmed, manicured outdoor space, Space for kids and/or dogs to run
Neighborhood or scenery:
Not applicable
Current city, town, or county:
Conesus
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions worldwide:
U.S. northeast region
Population density:
Nomadic, Remote, Rural
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to current location because of work or studies, Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family, Committed to location because of owning a unique property, Must stay in current location for childrens school or co-parenting, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well
Relocation capacity:
Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future, Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future
State, province, or region:
New York (NY)
Resource sharing:
Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated, Child care swap, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Meal preparation, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Not applicable or prefer not to say
Leisure and lifestyle:
Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership, I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", To keep situations fair, to a reasonable extent accountability should be established through written agreements
Common practical skills:
Bookkeeping, Carpentry & repair, Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Farm animal care, First responder (first aid) or EMT, Gardening or crop cultivation, Grant-writing, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, Permaculture
Experience or schooling:
Activism & organizing, Animal training or care, Architecture, Business management, Carpentry & construction, City planning, zoning, & compliance, Computer science, Consensus facilitation, Electrician, Event planning & management, Experience teaching adults, Finance, economics, timebanking, Food preservation (e.g., cheesemaking, home canning, drying, smoking), Horticulture or permaculture, Humanitarian work, Legal practice, Long term rentals and maintenance, Marketing, Mathematics, Mediation or dispute resolution, Medicine - alternative, Musical performance, Natural building, Nutrition, Ordained minister or religious scholar, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Psychology, Security (may include experience with weapons), Short term rentals and hospitality, Sociology, Sports or physical recreation, Travel, Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation, Website design, Welding, Writing
Years lived in an IC:
1-5 years in IC
Experience in community:
I have been managing a loose IC in Conesus NY for five years (in an old Catholic school on 53 acres)
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Number of infants and preschoolers:
2
Number of grade-school children:
2
Number of teens:
1
Number of working adults:
5
Number of non-working adults:
5
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes, Should be allowed only in a legal supervised therapeutic setting
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)
Required disclosures:
Background check for landlord/tenant disputes, Credit check, Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Agnostic, Astrology, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian Catholic, Christian evangelical, Christian fundamentalist, Christian universalist, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist
Practices welcome in IC:
12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian universalist, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Theosophical Society
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Size of community:
21 to 50, 51 to 150
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings
My gender identity:
Male
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
I'm single or divorced, It's complicated
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Monogamous, Non-monogamous, Straight
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, A topic not discussed by the community, Celibate community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well, I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending, Want to take it really slow to be sure a commitment can last, Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
Part time, approximately half, Part time, less than half
Other people’s children:
Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, Parents shouldn't be so untrusting that they consider all adults a potential child abuser
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings, Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Children sheltered from:
Adult nudity, Drug use, Guns, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics, Vulgar language
Screen time (acceptable rules):
Parents should agree on online content allowed (e.g. video games, social media) because children will share with each other, Screen time and content limits are up to individual families
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) not okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Farm animals or pets I have or want:
Chickens, fish, dogs
Special food needs:
Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation, Strongly prefer home-processed foods, Strongly prefer raw foods
Plant-based or not:
Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional eggs okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together, Small local dairy products okay
Organic:
All food choices are accepted, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Unvaccinated, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Noise level:
A quiet serene living space should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I keep a late bedtime, I often stay up past midnight, I’m a late riser, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is not easily disturbed
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Internet connection & phone signal:
I can work without consistent internet connection, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is okay but not so important, Is the definite only plan, Is workable for a part time location
Political orientation:
Stressed sideliners