Tywiggle
Gen X (45-60)
Female + Male + dependent(s)
Virginia, VA U.S.
Speed of commitment:
In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Activist commune supporting shared work, Cottage industry in community (e.g. biz partners or recreation venture team), Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Shelter for homeless, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:
Closer to Eden/WiggleCulture
Service-based IC (population served):
Aged out foster teens, Chronically homeless, Runaway or homeless minors
Service-based IC (services offered):
Long term shelter, Short term shelter
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
Less than half
Residential proximity:
Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)
Décor of shared areas:
Not important
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important
Yard or landscaping:
Gardens and edible landscaping, Yard aesthetics are not a priority
Neighborhood or scenery:
Not applicable
Current city, town, or county:
Virginia
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions worldwide:
U.S. northeast region, U.S. southeast region
Population density:
Remote, Rural
Ideal location(s):
Close by in rural Central Virginia
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to location because of owning a unique property, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well
Relocation capacity:
Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future, Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future
State, province, or region:
Virginia (VA)
Resource sharing:
Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Not applicable or prefer not to say
Leisure and lifestyle:
Current work or personal demands leave little time for leisure
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership
Roles and responsibilities:
Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track
Common practical skills:
Carpentry & repair, Farm animal care, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Permaculture
Experience or schooling:
Business management, Carpentry & construction, Ecological science, Electrician, English language proficiency, Horticulture or permaculture, Humanitarian work, Marketing, Medicine - alternative, Natural building, Nutrition, Ordained minister or religious scholar, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Psychology, Security (may include experience with weapons), Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation, Website design, Welding, Writing
Occupation(s) and expertise:
Lifetime entrepreneur, former contractor/builder, current ecommerce retailer, IC founder and planner
Years lived in an IC:
1-5 years in IC
Experience in community:
Taken in many people over the years, they come and go. Currently own an ecovilla looking for other ecovillage neighbors or a nearby joint startup.
Professional certifications or degrees:
none
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Number of working adults:
5
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC)
Required disclosures:
Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Prohibitions:
“I am socially conservative and tend to feel uncomfortable with non-mainstream behaviors.” Adhere to the created natural order in public areas with a family friendly degree of modesty..
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Spiritual but not religious
Practices welcome in IC:
Agnostic, Native American / First Nations, Spiritual but not religious
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Belief-related practices:
voluntary and non forceful/dogmatic interactions at whatever time
Wisdom sharing:
Patience, effective communication, effective listening/understanding, similar worldview and goals, similar work ethic as in actual work, kindness, generosity, scripture for wisdom but not religious practice
Size of community:
11 to 20, 6 to 10, Under 6
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, I do not want obligatory group work where we are expected to help resolve disputes, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles
My gender identity:
Female
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male
My current couple situation:
I'm in committed partnership, I'm not available
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Straight
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Not currently open to a new relationship
Significant other(s):
Male
Dependent(s):
+ dependent(s)
Children in IC:
Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community), Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue), Children are welcome if 8 or older and well-behaved (e.g., remote work group without childcare)
Children present in household:
No dependent children
Other people’s children:
Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I don’t have the time/skill/interest to share in others' child care responsibilities, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings, Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Children sheltered from:
Adult nudity, Drug use, Guns, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics, Vulgar language
Screen time (acceptable rules):
Screen time and content limits are up to individual families, Screen-free locations agreed on as a group, Screen-free times agreed on as a group to encourage outdoor play with peers
Schooling:
Unschooling
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) not okay, Outdoor dog(s) not okay
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) not okay, Outdoor cat(s) not okay
Farm animals or pets I have or want:
cattle, goats, poultry and non-meat rabbits on site
Farm animals or pets:
Chickens, Cows, Ducks, Fish pond, Goats, Rabbits
Special food needs:
Avoid over-processed foods with unpronounceable ingredients, Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation, Strongly prefer home-processed foods, Strongly prefer raw foods, Strongly prefer raw milk
Plant-based or not:
Cage-free eggs okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional eggs okay, Conventional meat products okay, Conventional milk products okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together, Fish okay, Small local dairy products okay
Organic:
Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Unvaccinated
Noise level:
A quiet serene living space should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I’m an early riser, Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Internet connection & phone signal:
I can work without consistent internet connection, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure, We have ethernet cord to connect to internet without wifi, We have nearby library or cafe with wifi, We have no wifi and spotty to no mobile phone signal
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is the definite only plan
Culture influencers:
not really into politics or mainstream media
Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:
none, other than my ecovilla
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
Balanced but in the end people are mostly draining.
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
not emotional in the negative, can be passionate in discussion but not pushy, peaceful but not harmless, patient until hulk shows up after ample warning
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
Quite agreeable on small matters and daily life, very contrary concerning morality or forceful beliefs, agreeable to voluntary interactions that do not involve harm or force of any kind
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
Pretty easygoing unless a button gets repeatedly pushed, then quiet and indifferent and eventually apathetic if there is a major issue
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
Learning and changing all the time, new experiences can be good opportunities to learn
Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:
Do much worry about what others expect.
Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:
didn't do this one
Enneagram type:
healthy 8
Astrological sign(s):
nope
Weaknesses and superpowers:
visionary and dreamer, hard worker, strong starter bad finisher, high personal standards for myself and others, passion/confidence/experience/wisdom comes off as arrogance, low tolerance for laziness/dishonesty/fakeness/stupidity/status quo/religion/politics/immorality
A note about me/us:
If you don't me by now then you probably won't get to know me better.
Dealbreakers:
lazy, taker, deceitful, strong religion or politics, addict
Dealmakers:
visionary and hopeful, hard working to make the world a better place, hates living with fiat currency, free thinker willing to investigate and change based on new evidence, morally upright but not a shred of religion
On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:
not sensitive to criticism or personal attack, do have compassion but not much for enabling
On scale of 0 (prefers calm & predictable) to 20 (sensation seeking):
Probably in the middle, prefer peace most of the time, new experiences can be good, especially if intellectually challenging or interesting