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Younger boomer

Male

NOLA

Speed of commitment:

Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity)

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Farm or ranch, Retreat or event hosting as community, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Life partner with community values

Food production:

Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Not involved in farming or gardening

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.

Residential proximity:

House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources)

Ownership types:

Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Rent a room as a trial run

Reasons for shared housing:

Lower cost of living, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Friendship and sharing activities

Décor of shared areas:

Decisions based on practical utility and durability, A consistent aesthetic theme is important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests

Neighborhood or scenery:

Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

NOLA

Nation(s) of current residence:

United States

Preferred regions:

Pacific Coast U.S., Rocky Mountain U.S., Southwest U.S.

Population density:

Rural, Remote

Ideal location(s):

Northern Arizona: Sedona, Flagstaff, Prescott

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future

Resource sharing:

Joint business (share work and profits)

My socioeconomic status:

Close to median income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Current work or personal demands leave little time for leisure

Roles and responsibilities:

Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged

Practical skills:

Cooking for groups, Cleaning, Gardening or crop cultivation, Grant-writing, Group facilitation

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Nutrition, Event planning & management, Psychology, Sociology, Ordained minister or religious scholar, Sports or physical recreation, Travel, Musical performance, Social dance, Visual art, Writing, Website design, Marketing, Business management, Public speaking

Occupation(s) and expertise:

Community-building, creative cultural educational program development, event production and promotion, branding, conceptual ideation, naming, copywriting, hiring, staff coordination. and organizing.

Years lived in an IC:

No experience, but determined to make it work

Experience in community:

I have lived in numerous house/apartment sharing situations.

Generation:

Younger boomer

Generations intended in IC:

Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954)

Number of working adults:

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should require that community is informed of planned visits, Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should not be restricted

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC)

Required disclosures:

Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment, Credit check, Background check for landlord/tenant disputes

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Buddhist, Hindu, Pagan, Taoist, Astrology, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Tarot

Practices welcome in IC:

Atheist, Agnostic, Buddhist, Hindu, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Astrology, Pantheist, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Kabbalah, Tarot, Theosophical Society

Ecological preservation ethics:

Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle

Belief-related practices:

All of life is yoga.

Wisdom sharing:

Fantastic question I will return to.

Size of community:

Under 6, 6 to 10

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships

My gender + number:

Male

Genders welcome in IC:

Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm single or divorced, I'm available

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)

My sexual orientation:

Monogamous, Non-monogamous, Straight

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

A topic not discussed by the community

Physical affection:

I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side

My availability for physical intimacy:

Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement

Children in IC:

Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community)

Children present in household:

No dependent children

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) not okay, Outdoor dog(s) not okay

Cats:

Outdoor cat(s) okay, Indoor cat(s) not okay

Special food needs:

Strongly prefer raw foods

Plant-based or not:

Primarily vegetarian, Fish okay, Conventional meat products okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC

Pandemic norms:

Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Keep good health practices for good immune function

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet

Sleep:

I’m an early riser, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night

Comfort & convenience:

I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work

Tech savvy:

I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech

Wifi:

I must have wifi on 24/7, I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours

Off-grid:

Is a workable favored option, Is workable for a part time location, Is okay but not so important, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with

Leisure time:

Fitness-recreation-yoga, writing-reading, enjoying great music, dialog-conversing with others, contemplation-meditation.

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

I write and read almost exclusively nonfiction and prefer documentaries, education media, and international films.

Political orientation:

Progressive left

Culture influencers:

TBD

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

TBD

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

ENFJ

Weaknesses and superpowers:

I'm a high-energy thinker-creator-doer-go-getter and to some that can be intense.

A note about me/us:

TBD

Dealbreakers:

1. Secret agendas 2. Strange beliefs 3. Negativity 4. Egocentricity and narcissism 5. Shallow materialism

Dealmakers:

1. High intelligence-consciousness 2. Cultural creativity 3. Health-wellness 4. Growth orientation 5. Socially aware