LuckynLimbo
Gen X
Female + dependent(s)
Crystal Lake IL
Speed of commitment:
Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Retreat or event hosting as community, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Life partner with community values, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Resource-sharing commune, Off-grid commune, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC curious: I’m new to this, so I’m investigating what might be a fit for me.
Service-based IC (population):
Low income families with children, Refugee resettlement, Runaway or homeless minors, Aged out foster teens
Service-based IC (description):
Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s), Provides housing while attending external college or vocational training
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
About half, Less than half, No can do
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood)
Ownership types:
Rented with shared housing or shared land, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Whatever the group can agree on, Multi-house collective (shared resources, but houses have separate ownership or are separate rentals)
Reasons for shared housing:
Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities
Décor of shared areas:
A consistent aesthetic theme is important, Other
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests
Yard or landscaping:
Mowed, trimmed, manicured outdoor space, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Gardens and edible landscaping
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city/town and state/province:
Crystal Lake IL
Nation(s) of current residence:
United States
Preferred regions of North America:
Canada, Rocky Mountain U.S., Upper Midwest U.S., Southwest U.S.
Population density:
Small town, Rural
Regions of world:
North America
Duration of your current location:
Would relocate if group decides to try another location together, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well
Relocation capacity:
Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future
Resource sharing:
Time bank, Car share, Pet care swap, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts, Meal preparation, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives
My socioeconomic status:
No income (or extremely low) but will trade work for room, board, and/or learning
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Leadership availability:
I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict
Practical skills:
Cooking for groups, Cleaning, Gardening, Bookkeeping, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, First responder (first aid) or EMT
Experience or schooling:
Medicine - western, Biological sciences, Massage or other bodywork, Nutrition, Event planning & management, Website design, Marketing, Business management, Group therapy or processing, Short term rentals and hospitality
Languages:
NA
Occupation(s) and expertise:
Acupuncture, herbs, caregiving, massage, make lotions, potions & oils
Years lived in an IC:
Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, No experience, but determined to make it work
Experience in community:
Lived with families before
Professional certifications or degrees:
Masters in Acupuncture and oriental medicine;WI, Certified Reiki Master/Teacher, Associates in Asian Bodywork Therapy; IL- I am studying for board exams for massage therapy and acupuncture/oriental medicine and have not started my sacred healing business with it yet. Will be national certified to practice anywhere.
Generation:
Gen X
Generations intended in IC:
Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980)
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use
Overnight guests (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should require that community is informed of planned visits, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)
Required disclosures:
Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment, Background check for landlord/tenant disputes
Prohibitions:
Abuse and violence should not be tolerated; coaching for the coachable and eviction for the uncoachable
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Christian (universalist), Buddhist, Taoist, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Mediumship, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)
Practices welcome in IC:
Spiritual but not religious, Buddhist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Astrology, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Tarot, Mediumship, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)
Ecological preservation ethics:
Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet
Belief-related practices:
Daily life style
Wisdom sharing:
Kindness, transparency, emotional intelligence (Sadhaguru), mastering the quantum field(Joe Dispenza), Astrology Debra Silverman
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, I do not want to be required or pressured to share feelings in a group setting, I do not want obligatory group work where we are expected to help resolve disputes, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles
My gender + number:
Female + dependent(s)
Genders welcome in IC:
Non-binary, Male, Female
My current couple situation:
I'm single or divorced, I'm available
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Not applicable
My sexual orientation:
Bisexual, Polyamorous
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community
Physical affection:
I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, I don’t enjoy casual hugs; I reserve physical affection for a very small number of people, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement, Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending
Mobility accommodations:
Adult child doesn't know how to drive and has anxiety and depression that occasionally can be a limitation
Learning difference accommodations:
Unsure; hands on learning definitely
Socioeconomic status:
In financial hardship situation with unreliable transportation and we are living in a tent
Gender and sexuality:
My housemate is transgender male (my child)
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
Full time
Other people’s children:
I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, I don’t have the time/skill/interest to share in others' child care responsibilities
I prefer that children not be exposed to
violent images or lyrics, guns, nudity, sexual behavior or images, vulgar language, drug use
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides
Other creatures:
Have a cat and a human friendly Chihuahua
Special food needs:
Celiac's or gluten sensitivity, Strongly prefer home-processed foods
Plant-based or not:
Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay
Organic:
Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)
Shared meals:
Prefer shared meals daily, Shared meals should be optional, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost
Medical risk bubbles:
I am in a high-risk category and must have those near me take precautions seriously, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC
Pandemic norms:
Maintain strict social distancing and masks outside the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Masks only when in public and mandated, Keep good health practices for good immune function, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Severe allergies:
Bee stings
Health conditions:
My kid has anxiety and depression that can create functioning limitations
Noise level:
One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain
Sleep:
I’m an early riser, I keep an early bedtime, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night, Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)
Sleep needs & noise:
I use meditation sleep music when I sleep
Comfort & convenience:
I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Wifi:
I must have wifi on 24/7
Off-grid:
Is a workable option
Leisure time:
Relaxing in nature with laid back company
Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:
Comedy, horror, Joe Dispenza, Lowis Holmes, diversity in music (no death metal)
Political orientation:
Democratic mainstays
Culture influencers:
Joe Dispenza and SadhaGuru
Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:
Non political
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
19
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
72
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
71
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
57
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
78
Astrological sign(s):
Capricorn
Weaknesses and superpowers:
I see in people what they can't see themselves such as their potentials and their root issues.
A note about me/us:
Bee keeping opportunities would be a plus for my kid to learn, and I wish to use my western/eastern medicine and other healing abilities forming a medi-spa healing sanctuary to care for my community and as a business caring for others outside of the community to generate profits for our community and my loved ones. Can not be non-profit. I wish to share a large % of business funds generated but also have a little for myself to invest in other things and sponsor/donate to good causes.
Dealbreakers:
Violence and frequent hostility, bullies, energy vampires, anti-team players, chaos makers
Dealmakers:
Full Moon ceremonies welcome, heart healing circles welcome, team work, genuine good people, gardening, caring for the well-being of humanity as a whole and individually, green witches
On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:
23
On scale of 0 (prefers calm & predictable) to 20 (sensation seeking):
8