LuckynLimbo
Gen X (45-60)
Female + dependent(s)
Crystal Lake
Speed of commitment:
Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Life partner also into community, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Spiritual or religious focus, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC curious: I’m new to this, so I’m investigating what might be a fit for me.
Service-based IC (population served):
Aged out foster teens, Low income families with children, Refugee resettlement, Runaway or homeless minors
Service-based IC (services offered):
Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides housing while attending college or vocational training, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s)
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
About half, Less than half, No can do
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Multi-house collective (shared resources, but houses have separate ownership or are separate rentals), Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens)
Décor of shared areas:
A consistent aesthetic theme is important, Other
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests
Yard or landscaping:
Gardens and edible landscaping, Mowed, trimmed, manicured outdoor space, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city, town, or county:
Crystal Lake
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions:
Canada BC, Canada ON, Canada QC, Canada northern provinces , Canada prairie provinces, U.S. midwest region, U.S. rocky mountain region, U.S. southwest region
Population density:
Rural, Small town
Commitment to my current location:
Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together
Relocation capacity:
Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future
State, province, or region:
Illinois (IL)
Resource sharing:
Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
No income (or extremely low) but will trade work for room, meals, and/or learning
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Leadership availability:
I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements
Common practical skills:
Bookkeeping, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, First responder (first aid) or EMT, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling
Experience or schooling:
Biological sciences, Business management, Event planning & management, Group therapy or processing, Marketing, Massage or other bodywork, Medicine - western, Nutrition, Short term rentals and hospitality, Website design
Languages:
NA
Occupation(s) and expertise:
Acupuncture, herbs, caregiving, massage, make lotions, potions & oils
Years lived in an IC:
Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, No experience, but determined to make it work
Experience in community:
Lived with families before
Professional certifications or degrees:
Masters in Acupuncture and oriental medicine;WI, Certified Reiki Master/Teacher, Associates in Asian Bodywork Therapy; IL- I am studying for board exams for massage therapy and acupuncture/oriental medicine and have not started my sacred healing business with it yet. Will be national certified to practice anywhere.
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996)
Number of working adults:
2
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should not be allowed on the premises
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)
Required disclosures:
Background check for landlord/tenant disputes, Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Prohibitions:
Abuse and violence should not be tolerated; coaching for the coachable and eviction for the uncoachable
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Buddhist, Christian (universalist), Mediumship, Native American / First Nations, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Shamanic or indigenous animist, Taoist
Practices welcome in IC:
Astrology, Buddhist, Mediumship, Native American / First Nations, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Spiritual but not religious, Taoist, Tarot, Wiccan
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Belief-related practices:
Daily life style
Wisdom sharing:
Kindness, transparency, emotional intelligence (Sadhaguru), mastering the quantum field(Joe Dispenza), Astrology Debra Silverman
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, I do not want obligatory group work where we are expected to help resolve disputes, I do not want to be required or pressured to share feelings in a group setting, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles
Gender + number:
Female + dependent(s)
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
I'm available, I'm single or divorced
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Not applicable
My sexual orientation:
Bisexual, Polyamorous
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I don’t enjoy casual hugs; I reserve physical affection for a very small number of people, I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending, Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement
Mobility accommodations:
Adult child doesn't know how to drive and has anxiety and depression that occasionally can be a limitation
Learning difference accommodations:
Unsure; hands on learning definitely
Socioeconomic status:
In financial hardship situation with unreliable transportation and we are living in a tent
Gender and sexuality:
My housemate is transgender male (my child)
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
Full time
Other people’s children:
I don’t have the time/skill/interest to share in others' child care responsibilities, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community
Children sheltered from:
Adult nudity, Drug use, Guns, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics, Vulgar language
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Farm animals or pets I have or want:
Have a cat and a human friendly Chihuahua
Special food needs:
Celiac's or gluten sensitivity, Strongly prefer home-processed foods
Plant-based or not:
Cage-free eggs okay, Fish okay, Small local dairy products okay
Organic:
Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I am in a high-risk category and must have those near me take precautions seriously, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, Maintain strict social distancing and masks outside the IC, Masks only when in public and mandated, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Severe allergies:
Bee stings
Health conditions:
My kid has anxiety and depression that can create functioning limitations
Noise level:
Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I keep an early bedtime, I’m an early riser, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night, Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)
Sleep needs & noise:
I use meditation sleep music when I sleep
Comfort & convenience:
I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Internet connection & phone signal:
I must have wifi on 24/7
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option
Leisure time:
Relaxing in nature with laid back company
Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:
Comedy, horror, Joe Dispenza, Lowis Holmes, diversity in music (no death metal)
Political orientation:
Democratic mainstays
Culture influencers:
Joe Dispenza and SadhaGuru
Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:
Non political
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
19
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
72
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
71
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
57
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
78
Astrological sign(s):
Capricorn
Weaknesses and superpowers:
I see in people what they can't see themselves such as their potentials and their root issues.
A note about me/us:
Bee keeping opportunities would be a plus for my kid to learn, and I wish to use my western/eastern medicine and other healing abilities forming a medi-spa healing sanctuary to care for my community and as a business caring for others outside of the community to generate profits for our community and my loved ones. Can not be non-profit. I wish to share a large % of business funds generated but also have a little for myself to invest in other things and sponsor/donate to good causes.
Dealbreakers:
Violence and frequent hostility, bullies, energy vampires, anti-team players, chaos makers
Dealmakers:
Full Moon ceremonies welcome, heart healing circles welcome, team work, genuine good people, gardening, caring for the well-being of humanity as a whole and individually, green witches
On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:
23
On scale of 0 (prefers calm & predictable) to 20 (sensation seeking):
8