BecomingGaian
Gen X (45-60)
Female + male + dependent(s)
Sechelt
Speed of commitment:
Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Activist commune supporting shared work, Artist collective & live work space, Disaster prep or timeshare cabin, Ecovillage or agrihood, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Retreat or event hosting as community, Van life co-travelers
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
Householder: I am looking for one or more members to join a household that is NOT located in a larger IC. This may or may not include a business partnership or work share.
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
Less than half
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Roommates (okay to share bedroom)
Ownership types:
Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Rent a room as a trial run, Rented with shared housing or shared land
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained
Décor of shared areas:
A consistent aesthetic theme is important, Decisions based on practical utility and durability
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity)
Yard or landscaping:
Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city, town, or county:
Sechelt
Nation(s) of current residence:
Canada
Preferred regions:
Canada BC, Canada ON, Canada QC, Canada northern provinces , Canada prairie provinces, Pacific Islands
Population density:
Nomadic, Remote, Rural, Small town, Suburban or exurban, Urban
Ideal location(s):
Western Canada
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together
Relocation capacity:
Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future, Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future
State, province, or region:
British Columbia (BC)
Resource sharing:
Car share, Emergency preparedness efforts, Garden (share work and produce), Meal preparation, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Not applicable or prefer not to say
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership, I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements
Common practical skills:
Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, Permaculture
Experience or schooling:
Activism & organizing, Astronomy, Event planning & management, Experience teaching adults, Group therapy or processing, Horticulture or permaculture, Massage or other bodywork, Mediation or dispute resolution, Nutrition, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Performative dance, Psychology, Public speaking, Short term rentals and hospitality, Social dance, Sociology, Sports or physical recreation, Theater, Travel, Website design, Writing
Languages:
Adequate French
Occupation(s) and expertise:
Residential Tenancy Management. Wilderness Camp Senior Counsellor. Dayhome Creator. Handyman's Apprentice, Conscious Feelings Worker, Possibility Coach, Emotional Healing Process spaceholder and trainer.
Years lived in an IC:
11-20 years in IC, Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives
Experience in community:
3 different 3-Month BridgeHouses (https://bridgehouse.mystrikingly.com/ ) one 6 yr Community House, one 2 yr Community House, many short stays (3 days to 6 weeks) in BridgeHouses, Community Houses, Pop-Up Co-Living Camps
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Number of infants and preschoolers:
One baby on the way.
Number of grade-school children:
One 5 yr old and a 7 yr old.
Number of teens:
One 13 yr old
Number of working adults:
3, room for 3 more
Number of non-working adults:
1
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be allowed on the premises
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises, Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be allowed on the premises, even if its legal in our location
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes, Should be allowed only in a legal supervised therapeutic setting, Should not be allowed on the premises
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should not be allowed on the premises
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Required disclosures:
Background check for landlord/tenant disputes, Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Prohibitions:
I want to live with people committed to personal transformation
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Christian (universalist), Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), Pantheist, Tarot
Practices welcome in IC:
12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Theosophical Society, Wiccan, Zoroastrian
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Belief-related practices:
Holding ur beliefs lightly, focussed on building loving care that lasts, and on growing, evolving, transforming with tools that work
Wisdom sharing:
I hold my beliefs lightly, and I hold them subject to change at any moment. I am interested in being in Reality, as it is. I use Possibility Management extensively, among other tool sets.
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Under 6
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings
Gender + number:
Female + male + dependent(s)
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
Prefer not to say
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Not necessary for others to know
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, It depends
Other ICmatch members in my household or IC:
Coming soon
My availability for physical intimacy:
Prefer not to share at this time
Mobility accommodations:
I need no consideration. The current home has steep stairs to the basement where the laundry is.
Diversity beliefs or intentions:
I consider myself a cultural refugee, not as a victim, but by choice, and am committed to creating a new culture centered in authentic adult initiation
Children in IC:
Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community), Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
Full time, Part time, only weekends
Other people’s children:
I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Children sheltered from:
Drug use, Guns, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics, Vulgar language
Screen time (acceptable rules):
Parents should agree on online content allowed (e.g. video games, social media) because children will share with each other, Screen time and content limits are up to individual families, Screen-free locations agreed on as a group, Screen-free times agreed on as a group to encourage outdoor play with peers
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Farm animals or pets I have or want:
Currently there are a dog and cat in the household, no more will be added.
Special food needs:
Strongly prefer home-processed foods
Plant-based or not:
Cage-free eggs okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional eggs okay, Conventional meat products okay, Conventional milk products okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together, Fish okay, Small local dairy products okay
Organic:
All food choices are accepted, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category
Pandemic norms:
Whatever results from group decision-making process
Health conditions:
My bodily care includes regular Emotional Healing Processes which are inevitably loud. The sounds can be triggering for some people (sobbing, raging, screaming, yelling). In these processes such sounds = Healing is Happening.
Noise level:
A lively social environment should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I keep a late bedtime, I’m an early riser, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is not easily disturbed
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Internet connection & phone signal:
I can work without consistent internet connection, I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, We have reliable wifi
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is okay but not so important, Is the definite only plan, Is workable for a part time location
Leisure time:
Romping, walking, running, swinging, swimming, sleeping, picnicking, camping, cooking, treasure-hunting, dancing, moving in unexpected ways...especially in wild places
Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:
https://possibilitybooks.mystrikingly.com/ https://possibilityfilms.mystrikingly.com/
Political orientation:
Progressive left
Culture influencers:
Possibility Managers such as Clinton Callahan, Anne-Chloe Destremau, Vera Franco, Devin Gleeson, Sonia Goncalves, Julia Neumann, Millicent Haughey, and others. Outside PM, favourites include Brad Blanton (author of Radical Honesty), the writers whose books populate the Sudbury Valley School Press, and many sci-fi/poli-fi authors especially Orson Scott Card, Starhawk, Earnest Callenbach,
Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:
Ethan Hughes, Julia Butterfly Hill, Starhawk, XR, the St Hilda's Green Parish Action Group, the Sunshine Coast Climate Action Network, the Davis Bay Farmer's Market, KIVA, various permaculture projects