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permieJoe

Millennial (30-45)

Male

Dothan, AL, U.S.

Speed of commitment:

Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Ecovillage or agrihood, Life partner also into community, Off-grid, Spiritual or religious focus

Food production:

Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC curious: I’m new to this, so I’m investigating what might be a fit for me.

Service-based IC (population served):

Addiction recovery, Aged out foster teens, Animal rescue, Escaped from sex trafficking, In-system foster kids, Learning disability, Low income LGBTQ+, Low income elderly, Low income families with children, Low income racial or ethnic minority, Physical disability, Runaway or homeless minors

Service-based IC (services offered):

Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Short term shelter

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

Less than half

Residential proximity:

Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)

Ownership types:

Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained

Décor of shared areas:

Not important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity)

Yard or landscaping:

Not applicable

Neighborhood or scenery:

Scenery is not high on the list of property characteristics that's worth paying extra for

Current city, town, or county:

Dothan, AL

Nation(s) of current residence:

U.S.

Preferred regions:

Canada BC, Canada ON, Canada QC, Canada northern provinces , Canada prairie provinces, Oregon, U.S. California, U.S. Washington state, U.S. northeast region, U.S. rocky mountain region, U.S. southeast region

Population density:

Remote, Rural, Small town

Commitment to my current location:

Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well

Resource sharing:

Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives, Child care swap, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank

My socioeconomic status:

Substantial assets and higher income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures

Leadership availability:

I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team

Roles and responsibilities:

Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged

Common practical skills:

Bookkeeping, Carpentry & repair, Childcare, Cleaning, Farm animal care, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, Permaculture

Experience or schooling:

Astronomy, Carpentry & construction, Computer science, Electrician, Experience teaching adults, Finance, economics, timebanking, Horticulture or permaculture, Mathematics, Musical performance, Physics, Political science & history, Travel, Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation, Welding

Occupation(s) and expertise:

yoga teacher, electrical engineer, software engineer, chemical engineer, landscaping, customer service, teaching, research

Years lived in an IC:

No experience, but determined to make it work

Experience in community:

I have lived with a family, in a dorm environment, on a ship at sea, and with roommates.

Professional certifications or degrees:

RYT-200, MS in Electrical Engineering, BS in Chemical Engineering

Generation:

Millennial (30-45)

Generations intended in IC:

Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)

Number of working adults:

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be allowed on the premises

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes, Should be allowed only in a legal supervised therapeutic setting

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should be grounds for expulsion from the community, Should not be allowed on the premises, Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnite guests (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should require that community is informed of planned visits

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences

Required disclosures:

Background check for landlord/tenant disputes, Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Buddhist, Hindu, Spiritual but not religious

Practices welcome in IC:

12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Theosophical Society, Wiccan, Zoroastrian

Ecological preservation ethics:

Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind

Size of community:

11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Over 150, Under 6

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

Gender + number:

Male

Genders welcome in IC:

Female, Male, Non-binary

My current couple situation:

I'm available

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not applicable, Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)

My sexual orientation:

Straight

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, A topic not discussed by the community, Other, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side

My availability for physical intimacy:

Prefer not to share at this time

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)

Children present in household:

No dependent children

Children sheltered from:

Violent images or lyrics, Vulgar language

Dogs:

Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Farm animals or pets I have or want:

chickens, any farm animals

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals should be optional

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category

Pandemic norms:

Whatever results from group decision-making process

Noise level:

A lively social environment should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work

Sleep:

Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)

Comfort & convenience:

I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work

Tech savvy:

I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech

Internet connection & phone signal:

I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours

Off-grid:

Is a workable favored option, Is okay but not so important, Is the definite only plan, Is workable for a part time location

Leisure time:

playing music, listening to music, reading, learning, working on projects, laying in a hammock, hiking, etc

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

Royal Tenenbaums, Hyperion, Star Trek

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

Arbor Day Foundation, Sierra Club

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

ISFJ

Enneagram type:

type 9 (the peacemaker) with 9w1 wing

Astrological sign(s):

Capricorn

Weaknesses and superpowers:

I find I need some quiet/alone time to reflect and focus on hobbies like music, so I find it difficult to be constantly social. But, this alone time recharges me and helps me learn and grow.

A note about me/us:

I am really looking forward to meeting fellow community seekers! :-)

Dealbreakers:

I don't have hard and fast dealbreakers.

Dealmakers:

I am very interested in living in an ecologically sustainable community. This is one of my chief interests, so I would like the community to have that goal to some degree.