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TruthConsciousnessBliss

Gen Z (20-somethings)

Genderfluid + Nonbinary, Trans woman

San Luis Obispo, CA U.S.

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time

IC types I would live in or am forming:

LGBTQ+ focused, Multi-family shared house, Student house share, Trial run: Join a household maybe work-trade

Food production:

Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.

Service-based IC (population served):

Addiction recovery, Aged out foster teens, Animal rescue, Escaped from sex trafficking, Gang-involved youth, In-system foster kids, Low income LGBTQ+, Low income families with children, Low income racial or ethnic minority, Mild to moderate mental illness, Refugee resettlement, Runaway or homeless minors

Service-based IC (services offered):

Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides housing while attending college or vocational training, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s), Short term shelter

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

About half, All, Less than half, More than half

Residential proximity:

Roommates (okay to share bedroom)

Ownership types:

Rented with shared housing or shared land

Reasons for shared housing:

Friendship and sharing activities, Lower cost of living, Sharing meals and chores

Décor of shared areas:

Not important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Average level of "lived in" look, Super tidy at diagnosable OCD level, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important

Yard or landscaping:

Yard aesthetics are not a priority

Neighborhood or scenery:

Scenery is not high on the list of property characteristics that's worth paying extra for

Current city, town, or county:

San Luis Obispo

Nation(s) of current residence:

U.S.

Preferred regions worldwide:

U.S. California, U.S. Washington state

Population density:

Suburban or exurban, Urban

Commitment to my current location:

Committed to current location because of work or studies, Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my general area within the next few years

State, province, or region:

California (CA)

Resource sharing:

Car share, Emergency preparedness efforts, Meal preparation, Pet care swap

My socioeconomic status:

Substantial assets but lower income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Very frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures

Leadership availability:

I'm not currently available to be part of a core leadership team

Roles and responsibilities:

In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements

Common practical skills:

Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Farm animal care, Gardening or crop cultivation

Years lived in an IC:

Less than a year in IC

Experience in community:

4 months living on site and 9 months volunteering

Generation:

Gen Z (20-somethings)

Generations intended in IC:

Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996)

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, even if its legal in our location

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises

Overnite guests (tolerable rules):

Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should require that community is informed of planned visits

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Spiritual but not religious, Taoist

Practices welcome in IC:

Spiritual but not religious

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint

Belief-related practices:

None

Size of community:

11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Over 150, Under 6

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

My gender identity:

Genderfluid

Genders welcome in IC:

Female, Male, Non-binary

My current couple situation:

I'm not available, I'm single or divorced

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)

My sexual orientation:

Pansexual

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, A topic not discussed by the community, Celibate community, Pre-determined by proscribed religious doctrine, with community accountability, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well, I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side

Other ICmatch members in my household or IC:

IdealisticTanguera

My availability for physical intimacy:

Not currently open to a new relationship

Significant other(s):

Nonbinary, Trans woman

Children in IC:

Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community)

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay

Special food needs:

Strongly prefer home-processed foods

Plant-based or not:

Certified-humane meat okay, Small local dairy products okay

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional

Medical risk bubbles:

I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury

Pandemic norms:

Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions

Severe allergies:

Health conditions:

Noise level:

As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet

Sleep:

I keep an early bedtime, I’m an early riser

Sleep needs & noise:

Comfort & convenience:

I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures

Internet connection & phone signal:

I can work without consistent internet connection

Off-grid:

Is okay but not so important

Leisure time:

Reading, studying

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

ContraPoints, Michael Singer

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Introverted

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Emotional fluctuation

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Agreeable

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Conscientious

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Open to new experiences

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Upholder

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

INFX

Astrological sign(s):

Pieces

Weaknesses and superpowers:

OCD tendencies (responsible and overachiever), Empathy