mrpieceofwork
Gen X (45-60)
Male
New Orleans, LA, Maine (ME) U.S.
Speed of commitment:
Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity)
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Activist commune supporting shared work, Disaster prep or timeshare cabin, Ecovillage or agrihood, Ethnic culture-focused (e.g., BIPOC), Farm or ranch, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, LGBTQ+ focused, Life partner also into community, Off-grid, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Shared metropolitan housing, Shelter for homeless, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC seeker: I’m seeking residence in an existing household or IC with a stable culture and/or established norms.
Service-based IC (population served):
Aged out foster teens, Animal rescue, Low income LGBTQ+, Low income elderly, Low income racial or ethnic minority, Mild to moderate mental illness, Physical disability, Runaway or homeless minors
Service-based IC (services offered):
Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides housing while attending college or vocational training, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s)
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
About half, More than half
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Multi-house collective (shared resources, but houses have separate ownership or are separate rentals), Rent a room as a trial run, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)
Décor of shared areas:
Decisions based on practical utility and durability, Not applicable (planning an IC that does not include shared residence, common buildings, nor homeowners association), Not important, Other, Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable)
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity)
Yard or landscaping:
Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping, Not applicable, Paved walkways and driveways, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Xeriscape
Neighborhood or scenery:
Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for, Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for, Not applicable
Current city, town, or county:
New Orleans, LA
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions:
U.S. Washington state, U.S. midwest region, U.S. northeast region, U.S. southeast region
Population density:
Rural, Small town, Suburban or exurban
Ideal location(s):
Low density single family housing urban/suburban, small towns., Ozarks, rural E-SE Texas, PNW, Appalachia, Upper midwest
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to current location because of work or studies, Committed to location because of owning a unique property, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well
Relocation capacity:
Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future, Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future, Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future
State, province, or region:
Maine (ME)
Resource sharing:
Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank
My socioeconomic status:
No income (or extremely low) but will trade work for room, meals, and/or learning
Leisure and lifestyle:
Very frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures
Leadership availability:
I'm not currently available to be part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities"
Common practical skills:
Bookkeeping, Cleaning, Gardening or crop cultivation, Organizing & labeling, Permaculture
Experience or schooling:
Animal training or care, Bookkeeping/accounting, Horticulture or permaculture, Political science & history
Occupation(s) and expertise:
Baker, "gardener", nursery worker, bookkeeper, data entry clerk, janitorial/maintanance worker, warehouse inventory control (pre computer based)
Years lived in an IC:
No experience, but determined to make it work
Experience in community:
Only once lived in a condo with 6 other individuals, for about a year, in my mid-20s
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Number of infants and preschoolers:
7
Number of working adults:
1
Number of non-working adults:
1
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated areas only
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Required disclosures:
On sex offender registry
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Atheist
Practices welcome in IC:
Agnostic, Atheist, Bahai, Christian, Hindu, Jainist, Kabbalah, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Pagan, Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Wiccan, Zoroastrian
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Belief-related practices:
Daily bell ring, allow for small space for individual silent reflection/meditation, preferably in as Nature as is possible on site
Wisdom sharing:
No one person should have the final say on how the "household" is run. I am an anarchist as much as I am an "authoritarian communist" (meaning I believe certain practices, policies, "rules" and modes of production MUST be dictated together by the entire community, and not by any one individual, nor a small group of elites)
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 6 to 10
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings
My gender identity:
Male
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
I'm single or divorced, It's complicated
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Monogamous, Straight
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
Celibate community, Other, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I don’t enjoy casual hugs; I reserve physical affection for a very small number of people, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Want to take it really slow to be sure a commitment can last, Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement
Socioeconomic status:
Affectively poor and unhoused
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
No dependent children
Other people’s children:
Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I prefer a community in which there are on-site designated childcare facilities to allow other adults to work
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Children sheltered from:
Adult nudity, Drug use, Guns, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Farm animals or pets I have or want:
I currently spend 24/7 in a room with 2 frenchies, and have always been the one to do the daily care for any and all dogs or cats in every house I have lived
Special food needs:
Strongly prefer home-processed foods
Plant-based or not:
Cage-free eggs okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional eggs okay, Conventional milk products okay, Fish okay, Small local dairy products okay
Organic:
Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Organic non-certified is okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Unvaccinated, Vaccinated, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Health conditions:
I am autistic (also, since I already "self isolate", I rode out the pandemic, and still do, merely by not leaving the house, and social distancing almost always)
Noise level:
A quiet serene living space should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I keep a late bedtime, I often stay up past midnight, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)
Sleep needs & noise:
if I continue to sleep in the daytime, I would require a very dark space to do so
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work
Tech savvy:
I'm about average with tech use
Internet connection & phone signal:
I can work without consistent internet connection, I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is okay but not so important, Is workable for a part time location
Leisure time:
I usually prefer to have a Youtube video playing at all times, even when I sleep, but not if I am outside
Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:
"Let's Play" game VODs, educational videos, leftist news and commentary, critiques of capitalist society, and propaganda. No music any more, but open to live, organic "noise making"
Political orientation:
Outsider left
Culture influencers:
Too many to list. I listen to many prominent "Youtubers" who talk Marxism, Leninism, Maoist, and other adjacent leftist tendecies
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
2
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
43
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
56
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
84
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
52
Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:
Rebel
Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:
ISTJ-T
Enneagram type:
You are most likely a type 5. Taking wings into account, you seem to be a 5w6
Astrological sign(s):
Cancer
Weaknesses and superpowers:
I have a tough time "engaging" with others, and I prefer to have those tasks and jobs to do that I can and wish to do, in order to be "part of the community" and "social" I DO listen very well, and will even try to solve other's problems, if I feel I can help in any way. I also can partake in important tasks/projects with full attention, if I am interested in it, spending much longer doing so than others would wish to. I get very engrosed in certain things.
A note about me/us:
I just wish to be left alone, when I state that I need to be alone. Allow me walk away when things get heated. Allow me to write a letter instead.
Dealbreakers:
Anybody who feels they MUST be a "boss" to others. It's fine if they choose to be so, but I will refuse to obey, should I not agree to the dictation. Individuals who seem to be a magnet for "drama". Bullies and mean People. Fascists can fuck right off.
Dealmakers:
People who truly listen to me, and endeavour to understand what I truly need.
On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:
23
On scale of 0 (prefers calm & predictable) to 20 (sensation seeking):
9