PineTreeDisco
Millennial
Non-binary pair
New Haven, Connecticut
Speed of commitment:
Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Cohousing: private residences around shared space, LGBTQ+ commune, Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Cottage industry in community (e.g. biz partners or recreation venture teams), Retreat or event hosting as community, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Multi-family shared house, Senior cohousing, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Resource-sharing commune, Shared housing in metropolitan area, Off-grid commune, Tiny homes community, Activist commune supporting shared work
Food production:
Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Not involved in farming or gardening
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood)
Ownership types:
Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Helping each other with childcare, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities, Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained
Décor of shared areas:
Other
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
Medical need for a regularly disinfected environment, Medical need for a dust-free environment, All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests
Yard or landscaping:
Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Gardens and edible landscaping
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city/town and state/province:
New Haven, Connecticut
Nation(s) of current residence:
United States
Preferred regions:
Canada, Pacific Islands, Northeast U.S., Mexico & Caribbian
Population density:
Urban, Small town, Rural, Remote
Duration of my current location:
Want to experience a variety of communities and locations, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Other
Relocation capacity:
Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future, Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future
Resource sharing:
Time bank, Car share, Child care swap, Pet care swap, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts, Meal preparation, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives
My socioeconomic status:
Not applicable or prefer not to say
Practical skills:
Cooking for groups, Childcare, Cleaning, Gardening or crop cultivation, Grant-writing, Bookkeeping, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling
Experience or schooling:
Activism & organizing, Humanitarian work, Nutrition, Finance, economics, timebanking, City planning, zoning, & compliance, Political science & history, Event planning & management, Computer science, Anthropology, Sociology, Ordained minister or religious scholar, Experience teaching adults, Sports or physical recreation, Travel, Filmmaking, Musical performance, Performative dance, Social dance, Theater, Visual art, Writing, Website design, Marketing, Business management, Bookkeeping/accounting, Public speaking, Political campaigning, Group therapy or processing, Sociocracy or holocracy, Mediation or dispute resolution, Consensus facilitation, Short term rentals and hospitality
Languages:
Spanish (advanced), Italian (conversational), French (beginner)
Years lived in an IC:
Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, 1-5 years in IC
Professional certifications or degrees:
MA Global Policy, Sustainable Community Development
Generation:
Millennial
Generations intended in IC:
Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946)
Number of working adults:
2
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use
Overnight guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Required disclosures:
Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Spiritual but not religious
Ecological preservation ethics:
Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet
Size of community:
Under 6, 6 to 10, 11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, Over 150
My gender + number:
Non-binary pair
Genders welcome in IC:
Non-binary, Male, Female
My current couple situation:
I'm in committed partnership, I'm available
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship)
My sexual orientation:
Non-monogamous, Pansexual, Polyamorous
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community
My availability for physical intimacy:
Prefer not to share at this time
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
No dependent children
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost
Medical risk bubbles:
I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Pandemic norms:
Vaccinated, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Noise level:
One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, A lively social environment should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet
Sleep:
My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night
Comfort & convenience:
I like my cushy life, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Wifi:
I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours
Off-grid:
Is the definite only plan, Is a workable favored option, Is workable for a part time location, Is okay but not so important, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with
Leisure time:
Dancing, listening to music, playing musical instruments, listening to stories, conversing, walking outside, running around the house
Political orientation:
Outsider left
Culture influencers:
adrienne maree brown
Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:
Resource Generation, Water is Life
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
95% (but I recharge solo)
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
87%
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
95%
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
67%
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
84%
Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:
Rebel
Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:
ENFJ
Enneagram type:
3
Astrological sign(s):
Aries sun, Gemini rising, Gemini moon
Weaknesses and superpowers:
I see the potential for accidents to happen or things to get damaged, which makes me controlling of certain aspects of my environment. I'm working on discerning when it's important/useful to take preventative measures. Attribute: people tend to feel safe around me and deeply heard.
Dealbreakers:
A lack of desire to listen, receive feedback, be accountable, learn, and grow