PineTreeDisco
Millennial (30-45)
Non-binary pair
New Haven, Connecticut
Speed of commitment:
In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Activist commune supporting shared work, Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Cottage industry in community (e.g. biz partners or recreation venture team), Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, LGBTQ+ focused, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Senior cohousing or shared house, Shared metropolitan housing, Spiritual or religious focus, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Not involved in farming or gardening, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained
Décor of shared areas:
Other
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Medical need for a dust-free environment, Medical need for a regularly disinfected environment
Yard or landscaping:
Gardens and edible landscaping, Space for kids and/or dogs to run
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city, town, or county:
New Haven, Connecticut
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions:
Canada BC, Canada ON, Canada QC, Canada northern provinces , Canada prairie provinces, Mexico, Pacific Islands, U.S. northeast region
Population density:
Remote, Rural, Small town, Urban
Commitment to my current location:
Other, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Want to experience a variety of communities and locations, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together
Relocation capacity:
Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future
Resource sharing:
Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives, Child care swap, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Not applicable or prefer not to say
Common practical skills:
Bookkeeping, Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Gardening or crop cultivation, Grant-writing, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling
Experience or schooling:
Activism & organizing, Anthropology, Bookkeeping/accounting, Business management, City planning, zoning, & compliance, Computer science, Consensus facilitation, Event planning & management, Experience teaching adults, Filmmaking, Finance, economics, timebanking, Group therapy or processing, Humanitarian work, Marketing, Mediation or dispute resolution, Musical performance, Nutrition, Ordained minister or religious scholar, Performative dance, Political campaigning, Political science & history, Public speaking, Short term rentals and hospitality, Social dance, Sociocracy or holocracy, Sociology, Sports or physical recreation, Theater, Travel, Visual art, Website design, Writing
Languages:
Spanish (advanced), Italian (conversational), French (beginner)
Years lived in an IC:
1-5 years in IC, Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives
Professional certifications or degrees:
MA Global Policy, Sustainable Community Development
Generation:
Millennial (30-45)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Number of working adults:
2
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Required disclosures:
Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Spiritual but not religious
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Over 150, Under 6
Gender + number:
Non-binary pair
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
I'm available, I'm in committed partnership
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Non-monogamous, Pansexual, Polyamorous
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
My availability for physical intimacy:
Prefer not to share at this time
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
No dependent children
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Pandemic norms:
Vaccinated, Whatever results from group decision-making process
Noise level:
A lively social environment should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I like my cushy life
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Internet connection & phone signal:
I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is okay but not so important, Is the definite only plan, Is workable for a part time location
Leisure time:
Dancing, listening to music, playing musical instruments, listening to stories, conversing, walking outside, running around the house
Political orientation:
Outsider left
Culture influencers:
adrienne maree brown
Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:
Resource Generation, Water is Life
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
95% (but I recharge solo)
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
87%
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
95%
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
67%
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
84%
Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:
Rebel
Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:
ENFJ
Enneagram type:
3
Astrological sign(s):
Aries sun, Gemini rising, Gemini moon
Weaknesses and superpowers:
I see the potential for accidents to happen or things to get damaged, which makes me controlling of certain aspects of my environment. I'm working on discerning when it's important/useful to take preventative measures. Attribute: people tend to feel safe around me and deeply heard.
Dealbreakers:
A lack of desire to listen, receive feedback, be accountable, learn, and grow