Speed of commitment:

In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Small farm or ranch, Artist collective & live work space, Trial run: Join a household, Tiny homes community

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries

IC seeker or founder/resident:

Householder: I am looking for one or more members to join a household that is NOT located in a larger IC. This may or may not include a business partnership or work share.

Residential proximity:

Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood)

Ownership types:

Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common"

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Friendship and sharing activities

Décor of shared areas:

A consistent aesthetic theme is important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Not planning to share cooking or dining space

Yard or landscaping:

Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Gardens and edible landscaping, Xeriscape

Neighborhood or scenery:

Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

Spanish Fork, UT

Nation(s) of current residence:

United States

Preferred regions:

Rocky Mountain U.S.

Population density:

Small town, Rural

Regions of world:

North America

Ideal location(s):

Spanish Fork, UT

Duration of your current location:

Committed to location because of owning a unique property

Relocation capacity:

Committed to my current residence for the foreseeable future

Resource sharing:

Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives

My socioeconomic status:

Close to median income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive

Leadership availability:

I'm currently in IC leadership

Roles and responsibilities:

Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged

Practical skills:

Cooking for groups, Childcare, Gardening, Permaculture, Carpentry & repair, Farm animal care

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Medicine - alternative, Nutrition, Horticulture or permaculture, Architecture, Natural building, Ordained minister or religious scholar, Certification for teaching children, Animal training or care, Travel, Musical performance, Visual art, Short term rentals and hospitality

Languages:

Portuguese, German, Spanish

Occupation(s) and expertise:

Waldorf handwork teacher, grades 1-8; architect, coffee roaster, public arts program director, farmers market manager

Years lived in an IC:

1-5 years in IC

Experience in community:

organized and hosted HumHouse for several years https://www.instagram.com/hum_house/

Professional certifications or degrees:

BFA & Waldorf teacher certificate; MFA of architecture

Generation:

Gen X

Generations intended in IC:

Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed in designated indoor areas

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences

Required disclosures:

Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment

Prohibitions:

Just say no to prolonged surliness.

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Pagan, Wiccan, Astrology, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Theosophical Society

Practices welcome in IC:

Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Astrology, Pantheist, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Zoroastrian, Kabbalah, Tarot, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet

Belief-related practices:

8 festivals of the wheel of the year

Wisdom sharing:

I like the practice of "shoring up." If you're feeling triggers from someone, you take a moment in privacy to write what you value about that person. When you remember that, in my experience, you can return to loving them.

Size of community:

21 to 50

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, I do not want obligatory group work where we are expected to help resolve disputes, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

My gender + number:

Female + male + dependent(s)

Genders welcome in IC:

Non-binary, Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm in committed partnership

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship)

My sexual orientation:

Monogamous

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic not discussed by the community

Physical affection:

I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side

Other ICmatch members in my household or IC:

none

My availability for physical intimacy:

Never would I ever be interested in casual sex

Gender and sexuality:

We will try our best with preferred pronouns and hope for tolerance of mistakes.

Racial or ethnic identities:

We love all the ancestors.

Diversity beliefs or intentions:

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)

Children present in household:

Full time

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I don’t have the time/skill/interest to share in others' child care responsibilities, Parents shouldn't be so untrusting that they consider all adults a potential child abuser, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them, Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings

Dogs:

Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay

Pets or farm animals I have or want:

cats must be neutered or spayed; many stray cats in neighbourhood that fight; chickens, used to have goats and might again

Special food needs:

Strongly prefer unprocessed foods

Plant-based or not:

Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)

Shared meals:

Shared meals should be optional, Shared meals are necessary community glue

Medical risk bubbles:

I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury

Pandemic norms:

Vaccinated, Unvaccinated, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Masks only when in public and mandated, Keep good health practices for good immune function

Severe allergies:

nothing that other people need to pay attention to

Health conditions:

n.a.

Noise level:

Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain

Sleep:

Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)

Sleep needs & noise:

n.a.

Comfort & convenience:

I like my cushy life, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work

Tech savvy:

I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech

Wifi:

I can work without consistent internet connection

Off-grid:

Is the plan

Leisure time:

arts & crafts, food preservation, wool carding & spinning, musical instruments

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

variety of original works, especially world music, indie

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

try to stay open to a variety, including counterculture influencers, love Charles Eisenstein

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

support indigenous rights, honouring mother earth, connection to plants, trees; insect habitat; communing regularly with nature

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

we are all fairly outgoing

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

we have our ups and downs and respect others' space to have theirs as well

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

we are more on the agreeable side

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

we're artists, but we take care of what needs to be done

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

love travel, love meeting new people, pretty high in openness

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

2 upholders & 1 rebel

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

later

Astrological sign(s):

later

Weaknesses and superpowers:

We're a fun household with many friends visiting. We take on too many projects. It's hard to keep the yard looking good with half-finished work.

A note about me/us:

We have been generous to a fault in hosting travellers, but it's time to settle down with a couple of other families who are a good fit.

Dealbreakers:

Cannot abide cancel culture. We want to live and let live.

Dealmakers:

easily delighted, optimistic, full of appreciation, epicurean hedonist, like to discuss big ideas & not gossip

On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:

our family ranges widely in this