exit-and-build farmstead
Gen X (45-60)
Male
between Santa Fe & Taos
Speed of commitment:
Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Farm or ranch, Life partner also into community, Resource-sharing commune, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.
ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:
High Road Haven
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
No can do
Residential proximity:
Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common"
Reasons for shared housing:
Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens)
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfecting is not important, Not planning to share cooking or dining space
Yard or landscaping:
Gardens and edible landscaping
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city/town and state/province:
between Santa Fe & Taos
Nation(s) of current residence:
United States
Preferred regions:
U.S. rocky mountain region
Population density:
Rural
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to location because of owning a unique property
Relocation capacity:
Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future
Resource sharing:
Car share, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Substantial assets but lower income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership
Languages:
Spanish, French, German
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should be grounds for expulsion from the community, Should not be allowed on the premises, Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Required disclosures:
Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Prohibitions:
No cogent argument can be made that the use of hard drugs (meth, crack, heroin, etc.) signal anything but abusive self-destruction, which I don't want to share space with. Psychedelics and soft drugs can also be used self-destructively or otherwise, in moderation, and if your use can be justified as a contribution to your genuine wellbeing and does not negatively affect others, then I consider that your business.
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Agnostic, Buddhist, Christian (universalist), Spiritual but not religious
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Gray water recycling where permitted, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Belief-related practices:
My practice is not belief-based or segregated from my living life, but an all-day, every day intention for and return to Presence. "How one does one thing is how one does everything." Integration, connectedness, consistency.
Size of community:
6 to 10, Under 6
Gender + number:
Male
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male
My current couple situation:
I'm available, I'm single or divorced
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not applicable, Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Monogamous, Not necessary for others to know, Straight
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic not discussed by the community, Other, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side
Mobility accommodations:
None
Learning difference accommodations:
None
Socioeconomic status:
None
Gender and sexuality:
I draw a line between LGB and TQ+, between what God/Nature made you and what or who you imagine you are, want to be, or are attempting to impersonate or appropriate.
Queer or LGBTQ:
LGB? No judgment or issue, not my business who you love. But TQ+, not interested in validating or enabling that corrosive drama.
Diversity beliefs or intentions:
I commit to not give DEI any consideration whatsoever. Happy to let diversity happen organically, but not arrogant enough to attempt to design it. So if you hallucinate that you have a special identity, a right to equity, or to be included or rewarded for something you haven't earned, please go chase another rainbow.
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
No dependent children, Only visits such as holidays
Other people’s children:
I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Children sheltered from:
Drug use, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides
Farm animals or pets I have or want:
Chickens, probably have sheep and/or goats at some point soon...
Organic:
Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Not applicable, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Unvaccinated
Severe allergies:
I'm highly allergic to hypochondria
Health conditions:
Snowflakes don't do well in the heat, and the future - in case you hadn't heard the propaganda - is going to be hot, at least figuratively.
Noise level:
A quiet serene living space should be the norm
Sleep:
I keep an early bedtime, I’m an early riser, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night
Comfort & convenience:
I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I like my cushy life
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Internet connection & phone signal:
I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is okay but not so important
Culture influencers:
Those who eschew political orientation and identity.
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
25%
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
39%. HSP, sensory defensive and empathic, but difficult to offend or perturb with the small stuff.
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
7%, and working on getting that down further as I age.
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
72%
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
80%
Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:
Questioner. (And agnostic on most questions.)
Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:
INFP (sometimes T, sometimes J)
On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:
23
On scale of 0 (prefers calm & predictable) to 20 (sensation seeking):
17. Yup, one of those.