exit-and-build farmstead
Gen X
Male
between Santa Fe & Taos
Speed of commitment:
Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Farm or ranch, Life partner with community values, Resource-sharing commune, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.
ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:
High Road Haven
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
No can do
Residential proximity:
Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common"
Reasons for shared housing:
Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing)
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfecting is not important, Not planning to share cooking or dining space
Yard or landscaping:
Gardens and edible landscaping
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city/town and state/province:
between Santa Fe & Taos
Nation(s) of current residence:
United States
Preferred regions:
Rocky Mountain U.S.
Population density:
Rural
Duration of my current location:
Committed to location because of owning a unique property
Relocation capacity:
Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future
Resource sharing:
Time bank, Car share, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts, Meal preparation
My socioeconomic status:
Substantial assets but lower income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership
Languages:
Spanish, French, German
Generation:
Gen X
Generations intended in IC:
Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954)
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be grounds for expulsion from the community, Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnight guests (tolerable rules):
Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Required disclosures:
Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment
Prohibitions:
No cogent argument can be made that the use of hard drugs (meth, crack, heroin, etc.) signal anything but abusive self-destruction, which I don't want to share space with. Psychedelics and soft drugs can also be used self-destructively or otherwise, in moderation, and if your use can be justified as a contribution to your genuine wellbeing and does not negatively affect others, then I consider that your business.
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian (universalist), Buddhist
Ecological preservation ethics:
Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet
Belief-related practices:
My practice is not belief-based or segregated from my living life, but an all-day, every day intention for and return to Presence. "How one does one thing is how one does everything." Integration, connectedness, consistency.
Size of community:
Under 6, 6 to 10
My gender + number:
Male
Genders welcome in IC:
Male, Female
My current couple situation:
I'm single or divorced, I'm available
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Not applicable
My sexual orientation:
Monogamous, Straight, Not necessary for others to know
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic not discussed by the community, Other
Physical affection:
I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side
Mobility accommodations:
None
Learning difference accommodations:
None
Socioeconomic status:
None
Gender and sexuality:
I draw a line between LGB and TQ+, between what God/Nature made you and what or who you imagine you are, want to be, or are attempting to impersonate or appropriate.
Queer or LGBTQ:
LGB? No judgment or issue, not my business who you love. But TQ+, not interested in validating or enabling that corrosive drama.
Diversity beliefs or intentions:
I commit to not give DEI any consideration whatsoever. Happy to let diversity happen organically, but not arrogant enough to attempt to design it. So if you hallucinate that you have a special identity, a right to equity, or to be included or rewarded for something you haven't earned, please go chase another rainbow.
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
Only visits such as holidays, No dependent children
Other people’s children:
I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
I prefer that children not be exposed to
violent images or lyrics, sexual behavior or images, drug use
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides
Pets or farm animals I have or want:
Chickens, probably have sheep and/or goats at some point soon...
Organic:
Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC
Pandemic norms:
Unvaccinated, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Keep good health practices for good immune function, Not applicable
Severe allergies:
I'm highly allergic to hypochondria
Health conditions:
Snowflakes don't do well in the heat, and the future - in case you hadn't heard the propaganda - is going to be hot, at least figuratively.
Noise level:
A quiet serene living space should be the norm
Sleep:
I’m an early riser, I keep an early bedtime, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night
Comfort & convenience:
I like my cushy life, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I can tolerate extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Wifi:
I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option, Is okay but not so important
Culture influencers:
Those who eschew political orientation and identity.
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
25%
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
39%. HSP, sensory defensive and empathic, but difficult to offend or perturb with the small stuff.
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
7%, and working on getting that down further as I age.
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
72%
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
80%
Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:
Questioner. (And agnostic on most questions.)
Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:
INFP (sometimes T, sometimes J)
On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:
23
On scale of 0 (prefers calm & predictable) to 20 (sensation seeking):
17. Yup, one of those.