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Free-spirited teacher maternal soul

Gen X (45-60)

Female + adult dependent(s)

Traveler, NY U.S.

Speed of commitment:

Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity)

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Cottage industry in community (e.g. biz partners or recreation venture team), Disaster prep or timeshare cabin, Ecovillage or agrihood, Expat residential community, Farm or ranch, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Mobile home park or RV spot, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Solarpunk, Spiritual or religious focus, Tiny homes community, Trial run: Join a household maybe work-trade, Van life co-travelers

Food production:

Not involved in farming or gardening

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC curious: I’m new to this, so I’m investigating what might be a fit for me.

Service-based IC (population served):

Addiction recovery, Aged out foster teens, Animal rescue, Ex convicts, Gang-involved youth, In-system foster kids, Learning disability, Low income elderly, Low income families with children, Mental illness involving delusion or dementia, Neurodivergent needing accommodations, Refugee resettlement, Runaway or homeless minors

Service-based IC (services offered):

Provides housing while attending college or vocational training, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s), Provides van or RV spot, Provides work-trade for rent, Short term shelter

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

Less than half

Residential proximity:

House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)

Ownership types:

Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Multi-house collective (shared resources, but houses have separate ownership or are separate rentals), Rent a room as a trial run, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing or land:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Helping with eldercare, Lower cost of living, Offering a spot of land for an RV or tiny home, Seeking a spot of land for an RV or tiny home, Self-sufficiency and sovereignty, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained, Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)

Décor of shared areas:

Decisions based on practical utility and durability, Not important, Other, Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable)

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Average level of "lived in" look, Clutter doesn't bother me, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important

Yard or landscaping:

Place to park my RV or tiny home, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Yard aesthetics are not a priority

Neighborhood or scenery:

Scenery is not high on the list of property characteristics that's worth paying extra for

Current city, town, or county:

Traveler

Nation(s) of current residence:

U.S.

Preferred regions worldwide:

Brazil, Caribbian, Central America, Europe eastern non-EU, European Union, Mexico, Pacific Islands, South America (Spanish-speaking), U.S. Alaska, U.S. California, U.S. Colorado, U.S. Florida, U.S. Oregon, U.S. midwest region, U.S. rocky mountain region, U.S. southeast region, U.S. southwest region

Population density:

Nomadic, Remote, Rural, Small town, Urban

Ideal location(s):

South east

Commitment to my current location:

Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Other, Want to experience a variety of communities and locations, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area within the next few years

State, province, or region:

New York (NY)

Resource sharing:

Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives, Child care swap, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)

My socioeconomic status:

Close to median income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Allocate a significant portion of funds to leisure and entertainment

Leadership availability:

I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team

Roles and responsibilities:

Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", To keep situations fair, to a reasonable extent accountability should be established through written agreements

Common practical skills:

Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, First responder (first aid) or EMT, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Bookkeeping/accounting, Business management, Certification for teaching children, Diversity, equity, and inclusion trainer, English language proficiency, Event planning & management, Experience teaching adults, Group therapy or processing, Humanitarian work, Long term rentals and maintenance, Psychology, Public speaking, Short term rentals and hospitality, Travel, Visual art, Website design, Writing

Occupation(s) and expertise:

Sp ed teacher 25 +yrs, Hostess with the Mostest, Lg Group planning, Airbnb Cleaner, Child care, Elder care, Group designer, Preschool and Post Grad School to work groups, Summer camp planning, Bar/Restaurant work

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives

Professional certifications or degrees:

Perminant (all ages) Sp Ed Teaching Cert NYS, Minor- Abnormal Psych, English Teacher Creative Writing

Generation:

Gen X (45-60)

Generations intended in IC:

Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen B (babies! born 2025 – 2039), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)

Number of non-working adults:

1 (pt- I have my father 6 months of every year)

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be allowed on the premises

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnite guests (tolerable rules):

Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should not be restricted

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences

Required disclosures:

Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry

Prohibitions:

I’m not ok with violence- I have c-ptsd

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Astrology, Buddhist, Christian universalist, Hindu, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Thought (law of attraction), Other, Pagan, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Tarot, Wiccan

Practices welcome in IC:

Astrology, Buddhist, Christian Catholic, Christian evangelical, Christian fundamentalist, Christian universalist, Hindu, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Omnist, Other, Pagan, Rastafarian, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Tarot, Temporal naturalism, Wiccan

Ecological preservation ethics:

Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Minimize use of plastic, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind

Belief-related practices:

To each their own

Wisdom sharing:

Open dialogue, ability to disagree civilly, honest discussions, nonjudgmental, no hovering, accountability practices

Size of community:

11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Over 150, Under 6

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

My gender identity:

Female

Genders welcome in IC:

AFAB, AMAB, Agender, Female, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Male, Non-binary, Trans man, Trans woman

My current couple situation:

I'm available, I'm single or divorced

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not applicable, Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)

My sexual orientation:

Bisexual, Monogamous, Non-monogamous, Other, Polyamorous, Straight

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, It depends

My availability for physical intimacy:

Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending

Dependent(s):

+ adult dependent(s)

Socioeconomic status:

Currently rebuilding after severe long term identity theft and years of fraud

Gender and sexuality:

I’m open to all categories. I prefer to share personal space and bedrooms with those born female or committed couples. I think variety is the spice of life and am very open minded.

Queer or LGBTQ:

I’ve been bisexual my entire life and believe in celebrating differences. I am open minded sexually but at nonpoint is my preference a driving factor when it comes to intentional living. I dislike drama and jealousy very much and am comfortable in my skin but around children I always leave limitations and expectations up to parents.

Diversity beliefs or intentions:

Open to all

Race & Ethnicity:

White

Children in IC:

Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community), Children are welcome if 8 or older and well-behaved (e.g., remote work group without childcare)

Children present in household:

No dependent children

Other people’s children:

Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, I don’t have the time/skill/interest to share in others' child care responsibilities, I prefer a community in which there are on-site designated childcare facilities to allow other adults to work, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings, Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them

Children sheltered from:

Drug use, Guns

Screen time (acceptable rules):

No screen time or content limits, Parents should agree on online content allowed (e.g. video games, social media) because children will share with each other, Screen time and content limits are up to individual families, Screen-free times agreed on as a group to encourage outdoor play with peers

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor cat(s) okay

Plant-based or not:

Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

All food choices are accepted

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury

Pandemic norms:

Keep good health practices for good immune function, Maintain strict social distancing and masks outside the IC, Masks only when in public and mandated, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Not applicable, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Unvaccinated, Vaccinated, Whatever results from group decision-making process

Health conditions:

CPTSD, ADHD

Noise level:

A lively social environment should be the norm, A quiet serene living space should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently

Sleep:

I keep a late bedtime, I keep an early bedtime, I often stay up past midnight, I’m an early riser, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is not easily disturbed

Sleep needs & noise:

I like regular come and go- and dislike silence

Comfort & convenience:

I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I like my cushy life

Tech savvy:

I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech

Internet connection & phone signal:

I must have wifi on 24/7, I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, We have reliable wifi

Off-grid:

Is a workable favored option, Is okay but not so important, Is workable for a part time location

Leisure time:

Music, camping, crafting, game nights, creative ventures, art, writing, gathering, cocktailing, fires

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

On purpose, Diary of a CEO, all kinds of music, adhd makes it hard to sit for movies and I enjoy conversation

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

Jay shetty, Dalai lama, Macklemore, Bob Marley, Bob Dylan, Jean Basquiat, Nikki Giovanni, Jack Kerouac

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Rebel

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

Enfp

Enneagram type:

Kind, caring, supportive, needs to focus on me

Astrological sign(s):

Gemini

Weaknesses and superpowers:

I can talk over folks due to my fear I’ll

A note about me/us:

I’m setting off on a healing and adventurous empty nest doing me adventure. I need this and am excited to add color in the form of people, experiences, lessons and memories to whatever canvas awaits

Dealbreakers:

Tone- I hate disrespectful snappers who lash out before thinking. Extremely judgmental folk. Religiously pushy or really any extremely pushy beliefs. Laziness. Insensitivity or lack of empathy.

Dealmakers:

I love secure adults confident but not arrogant. Creativity and artists I love. Music filled houses. Giving and familial overall tone.