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Gen Z

Male

Los Angeles

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity)

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Multi-family shared house

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.

Residential proximity:

Roommates (okay to share bedroom), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood)

Ownership types:

Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing:

Helping each other with childcare, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities, Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained

Décor of shared areas:

Decisions based on practical utility and durability, A consistent aesthetic theme is important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

Medical need for a dust-free environment, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests

Yard or landscaping:

Paved walkways and driveways, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Gardens and edible landscaping, Xeriscape, Yard aesthetics are not a priority

Neighborhood or scenery:

Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

Los Angeles

Nation(s) of current residence:

United States

Preferred regions:

Pacific Coast U.S., Southwest U.S.

Population density:

Small town, Rural

Ideal location(s):

desert region but w/ body of water; lake or river

Duration of my current location:

Want to experience a variety of communities and locations, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my general area within the next few years, Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future

Resource sharing:

Child care swap, Pet care swap, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Meal preparation, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives

My socioeconomic status:

Low income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive

Practical skills:

Cooking for groups, Childcare, Gardening or crop cultivation, Organizing & labeling

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Medicine - alternative, Architecture, Natural building, City planning, zoning, & compliance, Political science & history, Travel, Visual art, Writing, Public speaking

Occupation(s) and expertise:

writer, bookstore employee

Years lived in an IC:

No experience, but determined to make it work

Experience in community:

my parents are abusive. because of this, i have a tendency to judge other's emotions/intentions inaccurately and be afraid to confront others, however, when pushed, i go into what my parents have called 'lawyer mode,' which means i will try to argue with them intellectually during an emotionally-driven situation to defuse it. i cannot guarantee that those things will not happen in other circumstances

Generation:

Gen Z

Generations intended in IC:

Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946)

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed in designated indoor areas

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should not be restricted

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)

Required disclosures:

On sex offender registry

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Spiritual but not religious, Jewish, Pagan

Practices welcome in IC:

Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Pagan, Taoist, Jainist

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted

Belief-related practices:

i want to have structures, essentially small, hyperlocal multifaith temples, where either no or all religious symbols, but never just one, are hung on the walls & under windows, that are available for anyone to go into at any time. other than that, i have no specifications

Size of community:

21 to 50, 51 to 150, Over 150

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

My gender + number:

Male

Genders welcome in IC:

Non-binary, Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm in committed partnership

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship)

My sexual orientation:

Gay, Other, Not necessary for others to know

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community

Physical affection:

I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well, I don’t enjoy casual hugs; I reserve physical affection for a very small number of people, It depends

My availability for physical intimacy:

Never would I ever be interested in casual sex

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) not okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Pets or farm animals I have or want:

i would like to have both companions & farm animals; and i would like to treat animals like the separate individuals they are without doubt in our minds. if we have to kill a pig to eat its meat, we do it quick and with respect. if someone has a pet pig, we don't harm that pig but we also don't ask overly complicated questions or attempt to ideologically associate the one with the other.

Special food needs:

Celiac's or gluten sensitivity

Plant-based or not:

Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Shared meals should be optional, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury

Pandemic norms:

Maintain strict social distancing and masks outside the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Vaccinated, Unvaccinated, Keep good health practices for good immune function, Whatever results from group decision-making process

Health conditions:

i am a neurodivergent, physically disabled wheelchair user. i can walk and stand, but it is extremely tiring. i will, of course, do so for projects i consider worth that, but it's up to me to decide what that means and what those projects are. in general, i find that i tire out easily and require both physical and mental rest. assume capability, don't expect magic. i'll tell you what i'm up for.

Noise level:

A lively social environment should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet

Sleep:

I’m an early riser, I keep a late bedtime, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night

Sleep needs & noise:

white noise, or the sound of other people talking/having fun far away enough that it's not disruptingly loud but i can still feel in community & connected as i'm drifting off to sleep

Comfort & convenience:

I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work

Tech savvy:

I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech

Wifi:

I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure

Off-grid:

Is the definite only plan, Is okay but not so important, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with

Leisure time:

telling stories / recounting memories, playing both board games & video games, watching television and movies (although i'm willing to not have personal access to the same library of content anymore, i do like the sound of in-community movie nights, or even 'cinematic video game play through nights,' every so often)

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

too many to name here, ask me about it

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

literally my 'following' list on twitter (my twitter is crpplsrevltn); almost none of those old/dead whites do it for me

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

All Power (look them up on twitter)

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Rebel (it's odd, i *am* a people pleaser in that i hate confronting others, but i also hate being told what to do)

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

ESFP

Enneagram type:

8w9

Astrological sign(s):

Gemini (that's about all i know)

Weaknesses and superpowers:

i'll just leave this here: https://twitter.com/pot8um/status/1565890126122782722?s=20&t=V8uEw86Ei3dqp94njumBjg but more seriously, i would say my strengths are my creativity & my determination. i also have justice sensitivity and i can be very rigid.