Carie
Gen X (45-60)
Female + dependent(s)
Golden, Morrison, Arvada, CO U.S.
Speed of commitment:
In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Cottage industry in community (e.g. biz partners or recreation venture team), Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Life partner also into community, Mobile home park or RV spot, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Single-parent shared housing, Tiny homes community, Trial run: Join a household maybe work-trade, Van life co-travelers
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.
Service-based IC (population served):
Aged out foster teens, Animal rescue, Learning disability, Mild to moderate mental illness, Physical disability
Service-based IC (services offered):
Permanent residence, Provides housing while attending college or vocational training, Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s), Provides van or RV spot, Provides work-trade for rent
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
Less than half
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Multi-house collective (shared resources, but houses have separate ownership or are separate rentals), Rent a room as a trial run, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing or land:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Helping with eldercare, Offering a spot of land for an RV or tiny home, Self-sufficiency and sovereignty, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained, Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important
Current city, town, or county:
Golden, Morrison, Arvada
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions worldwide:
U.S. rocky mountain region
Population density:
Rural, Small town, Suburban or exurban
Ideal location(s):
Golden, CO on the outskirts with a rural feel
State, province, or region:
Colorado (CO)
Resource sharing:
Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated, Child care swap, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
Leadership availability:
I'm currently in IC leadership
Roles and responsibilities:
Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", To keep situations fair, to a reasonable extent accountability should be established through written agreements
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen B (babies! born 2025 – 2039), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC)
Required disclosures:
Background check for landlord/tenant disputes, Credit check, Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Prohibitions:
We are a kid-centric community. While we are open-minded, we want to keep children safe. Leaning toward no firearms, but this can be discussed.
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
Mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices, No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Astrology, Buddhist, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Other, Pagan, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot
Practices welcome in IC:
12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian universalist, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Pantheist, Rastafarian, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Thelema, Theosophical Society, Wiccan, Zoroastrian
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted
Belief-related practices:
Live and let live. All conversations are welcome as long as they are respectful of differing opinions.
Size of community:
21 to 50, 51 to 150
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings
My gender identity:
Female
Genders welcome in IC:
AFAB, AMAB, Agender, Female, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Male, Non-binary, Trans man, Trans woman
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not applicable, Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic not discussed by the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Dependent(s):
+ dependent(s)
Learning difference accommodations:
We are focused on providing an inclusive setting and adaptations for neurodiverse adults and children.
Gender and sexuality:
While we are open to community members with a variety of sexual preferences and gender identities, we do not intend for these to be a prominent aspect or cultural identity of the IC.
Diversity beliefs or intentions:
Individuality is respected, balanced with the well-being of the community as a whole. Talking about difficult things should not be shied away from, but we also respect boundaries and a desire for privacy. Introverts welcome!
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue), Children are welcome if 8 or older and well-behaved (e.g., remote work group without childcare), I have dependent child(ren) living with me and I am only seeking community with other families with children
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if small, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC
Noise level:
A lively social environment should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Internet connection & phone signal:
I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, We have reliable wifi
Off-grid:
Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is okay but not so important, Is workable for a part time location
Political orientation:
Decline to respond
Culture influencers:
Abraham Hicks, meditate school of mindfullness and sound, PSI, Mile High Church, Cynthia James, IAC, https://www.intensityhub.com/
Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:
http://facebook.com/cariekinglifecoach AND https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1M3JyoJtHL/?mibextid=wwXIfr