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Free spirited mourning dove

Gen X (45-60)

Female

San Antonio, TX U.S.

Speed of commitment:

Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Activist commune supporting shared work, Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Disaster prep or timeshare cabin, Ecovillage or agrihood, Ethnic culture-focused (e.g., BIPOC), Expat residential community, Farm or ranch, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Mobile home park or RV spot, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Tiny homes community, Trial run: Join a household maybe work-trade, Van life co-travelers

Food production:

Not involved in farming or gardening, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker: I’m seeking residence in an existing household or IC with a stable culture and/or established norms.

Service-based IC (population served):

Addiction recovery, Aged out foster teens, Animal rescue, Chronically homeless, Escaped from sex trafficking, Ex convicts, Gang-involved youth, In-system foster kids, Learning disability, Low income LGBTQ+, Low income elderly, Low income families with children, Low income racial or ethnic minority, Low income with high medical risk, Mental illness involving delusion or dementia, Mild to moderate mental illness, Physical disability, Refugee resettlement, Runaway or homeless minors

Service-based IC (services offered):

Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides housing while attending college or vocational training, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s), Short term shelter

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

All

Residential proximity:

Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Roommates (okay to share bedroom), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)

Ownership types:

Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing or land:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained, Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)

Décor of shared areas:

Decisions based on practical utility and durability

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Average level of "lived in" look, Clutter doesn't bother me, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfecting is not important, Dusting is not so important

Yard or landscaping:

Yard aesthetics are not a priority

Neighborhood or scenery:

Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for

Current city, town, or county:

San Antonio

Nation(s) of current residence:

U.S.

Preferred regions worldwide:

Australia, Brazil, Canada BC, Canada Maritimes, Canada ON, Canada northern provinces , Canada prairie provinces, Caribbian, Central America, European Union, India, Japan, Mexico, New Zealand, Pacific Islands, South America (Spanish-speaking), U.S. Alaska, U.S. California, U.S. Colorado, U.S. Missouri, U.S. Oregon, U.S. Washington state, U.S. midwest region, U.S. northeast region, U.S. rocky mountain region, U.S. southeast region, United Kingdom

Population density:

Nomadic, Remote, Rural, Small town

Ideal location(s):

Midwest, Canada, alkali, north Carolina, Kentucky, ²c Virginia, Washington state, Michigan, Indiana, I Iowa, Idaho

Commitment to my current location:

Would relocate if group decides to try another location together

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future

State, province, or region:

Texas (TX)

Common practical skills:

Bookkeeping, Carpentry & repair, Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Farm animal care, First responder (first aid) or EMT, Gardening or crop cultivation, Organizing & labeling

Experience or schooling:

Bookkeeping/accounting, Carpentry & construction, Electrician, English language proficiency, Experience teaching adults, Food preservation (e.g., cheesemaking, home canning, drying, smoking), Group therapy or processing, Humanitarian work, Long term rentals and maintenance, Massage or other bodywork, Mediation or dispute resolution, Medicine - alternative, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Psychology, Short term rentals and hospitality, Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation, Writing

Occupation(s) and expertise:

I can fix small engines, I can renovate a house, i do some plumbing and some electrical. I can do minor repairs Amma maintenance on domestic vehicles and a few foreign vehicles i can run a backhoe and a skidsteer, I have my own tools.

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), No experience, but determined to make it work

Experience in community:

I haven't

Generation:

Gen X (45-60)

Generations intended in IC:

Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen B (babies! born 2025 – 2039), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be allowed with medical prescription, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnite guests (tolerable rules):

Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should not be restricted, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should require that community is informed of planned visits

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences

Required disclosures:

Background check for landlord/tenant disputes, On sex offender registry

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist

Practices welcome in IC:

12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian universalist, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Pantheist, Rastafarian, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Thelema, Theosophical Society, Wiccan, Zoroastrian

Ecological preservation ethics:

Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Minimize use of plastic, None of the above, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind

Belief-related practices:

Once a week

Wisdom sharing:

I am an only child, and I was raised in sesame street in small town Nebraska. The idea of NOT being direct and honest is unimaginable to me. I am surreptitiously and hurt every time I find that someone I know isn't who they were pretending to be. I believe that the only thing a person really has is their word. I believe that it's imperative to shoot back and wait before jumping to conclusions. Gather all the facts first and ask all the questions you might have before forming your opinion. I am not special. It's important to recognize the flaws in myself and own them. I know that I'm the only common denominator in website bad experience I've ever had. I don't hold Grudges or seek vengeance. I am an empath, so I always try to help people feel better. But I'm not going to tell white lies to achieve that. I don't play guessing games, or do well with reading between the lines. I don't keep score, and if something needs done I just do it if I can. I carry my weight and I give credit where it's due. Even if I don't like someone. I am a thinker, and I don't for in to a society of sheeple. I don't want to be part of this mainstream society of fake people and wage slaves. I can't beat them, I won't join them, so I must leave them. People have am issue with my ability to see them clearly, it makes me a threat. Which makes me a target. So although I thought about living alone off grid, I decided to seek my tribe.

Size of community:

11 to 20, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Under 6

Sense of togetherness:

Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

My gender identity:

Female

Genders welcome in IC:

AFAB, AMAB, Female, Male, Non-binary

My current couple situation:

I'm available, I'm single or divorced

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not applicable, Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)

My sexual orientation:

Bisexual

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Other, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends

My availability for physical intimacy:

Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)

Children present in household:

No dependent children

Other people’s children:

I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, Parents shouldn't be so untrusting that they consider all adults a potential child abuser

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them

Children sheltered from:

Adult nudity, Sexual behavior or images

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay

Plant-based or not:

Cage-free eggs okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional eggs okay, Conventional meat products okay, Conventional milk products okay, Fish okay

Organic:

All food choices are accepted, Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury

Pandemic norms:

Not applicable, Unvaccinated

Noise level:

A lively social environment should be the norm, A quiet serene living space should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet

Sleep:

I often stay up past midnight, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is not easily disturbed

Comfort & convenience:

I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Internet connection & phone signal:

I can work without consistent internet connection, We have adequate mobile phone signal to connect to internet, We have no wifi and spotty to no mobile phone signal

Off-grid:

Is a workable favored option, Is okay but not so important

Leisure time:

Reading, crafts, tinkering, phylosophy, nature watching, photography

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

The wheel of time series, all music genres, Stephen king

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

Neil degrasse Tyson Stephen King

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

Neil degrasse Tyson

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

Infj

Enneagram type:

9w1

Astrological sign(s):

Gemini

Weaknesses and superpowers:

II have nightmares, and I cry in my sleep. So I'm told. Some people find it alarming.

A note about me/us:

my ideal tribe would be more like my grandfather in his no bullshit, toughen up buttercup realist ways, where integrity and honor still exist, and common sense is still common. I put in everything I have to the people who share my world, Kind of like a pot luck life. I also speak the truth about what is on my mind. If someone asks me if they are fat in that dress, They should be prepared for the truth as I see it if their fat rolls are squeezing out at every seam. and I expect to receive that kind of honesty from my tribe. I am not a person who looks for excuses. I am a person who likes to handle the issues whenever possible as soon as possible simply because it needs done, and because it is shameful to me to NOT carry my own weight. Unfortunately our society has become what they were raised to be... A bunch of spoiled self indulgent entitled narcissistic brats who think that they should be indulged because mommy said they were special. They are SPECIAL alright.... Thank God my mom was raised in the ghetto of philadelphia and knew enough to make sure I understood things are they really are. I am NOT special, the world isn't fair, and people are dangerous. Well, that last one was a learning obstacle to me, since I was raised in small town Nebraska, and watched seseme street faithfully until I was like 12. Sad to say that I spent a good majority of my life delusional. It has taken that long to learn not to be so shocked every time someone lets their mask slip or betrays my trust. Turns out my mom was right... AGAIN. But at my ripe age, its too late to change my ways of thinking. So I will always believe a person is being genuine and I will always be shocked when they prove to be otherwise. I think its a slippery slope, presuming someone is going to do me wrong before they have shown it to be in their character. If I start assuming that people are all out to steal my cookies, how long before I start stealing cookies with the excuse that they were going to take MY cookies? then I would have become someone I don't respect. There lies the road to hell. I don't care if every last person on the planet were cookie thieves. Even if there was a Saint Cookie thieves Day and it was considered by society to be a mortal sin not to honor the Saint of Cookies on that day by stealing as many cookies as possible, I wouldn't join in the crowd. I would have to suffer the consequences of being a heretic. And THAT is why I am looking to remove myself from society. I can't beat them, I WONT join them, I refrain from killing them, so I must get away from them. I am a threat to society, no doubt. I have an uncanny gift (curse) that allows me to feel the energy of others. I am not as mind reader, though. But if I am around a person for very long, I can see them very clearly. I can see the truth behind their masks. I can see what made them who they are, their weaknesses, their desires, their subconscious deceptions and the motivating factors that lead to them. And although I try to stay silent, inevitably they come to realize that I CAN SEE THEM. And then I am a threat. And then I am targeted. And then I am ousted. I understand. Its crazy how many people live lives of deception. It is MOST PEOPLE. its like they all got the memo that told them n ever to acknowledge the elephants taking up space in the room, shitting on people, stepping on their feet....They all automatically ignore the steamy clumps falling off their shoulders, and there is always some other reason that joey has a broken foot-AGAIN. But here i come into the room, and I can't help but to blurt right out that someone should get that damn elephant off of grandpas chest before he dies of suffocation. I never got the memo. and even if I did, I wouldn't go along anyway. I think it is stupid and counterproductive to ignore the elephant in the name of being polite or politically correct, or out of fear that I might hurt timmy's feelings if I say anything about his smelly ass elephant ruining the carpet and eating up all the damn peanut butter. No, I will definitely always be that one who jmust HAS to discuss the need to remove the elephant. and So I will always become the scapegoat for the same damn elephant's shit-stained carpets

Dealbreakers:

No human sacrifices or expectations of me being Subservient to some dude who isn't even half as smart as me

Dealmakers:

Beautiful land, allowed to disengage from mainstream society and leave my old life behind