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DelightfulPeaceGarden

Gen X

Female

Victoria BC Canada

Speed of commitment:

Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Life partner with community values, Medical risk bubble, Resource-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Senior cohousing, Shared housing in metropolitan area, Spiritual commune

Food production:

Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.

Residential proximity:

House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)

Ownership types:

Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Rent a room as a trial run, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Lower cost of living, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens)

Décor of shared areas:

A consistent aesthetic theme is important, Decisions based on practical utility and durability, Not important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Average level of "lived in" look, Super tidy at diagnosable OCD level, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity)

Yard or landscaping:

Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Xeriscape

Current city/town and state/province:

Victoria BC Canada

Nation(s) of current residence:

Canada

Preferred regions:

Canada BC, Canada ON, Canada QC, Canada northern provinces , Canada prairie provinces, Mexico

Population density:

Remote, Rural, Small town, Suburban or exurban

Commitment to my current location:

Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Want to experience a variety of communities and locations

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area within the next few years

Resource sharing:

Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)

My socioeconomic status:

Low income, No income (or extremely low) but will trade work for room, meals, and/or learning

Leisure and lifestyle:

Current work or personal demands leave little time for leisure, Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures, Very frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures

Common practical skills:

Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Farm animal care, Gardening or crop cultivation, Permaculture

Experience or schooling:

Animal training or care, Horticulture or permaculture, Visual art

Occupation(s) and expertise:

Horticulture and organic gardening, Caregiver/ Care Aid, Artist and painter, Delivery Driver, Lifestyle Consultant and supplements advisor, Reiki Practitioner (Master Level)

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), No experience, but determined to make it work

Experience in community:

I’ve had several room mate/ house mate experiences. I lived in Israel and contributed to a small community living at a seminary and on private property trading housing for gardening and other duties… like kitchen supervising and food safe protocols . I also landscaped and taught gardening and supervised landscaping in small communal gardens. Taught spirituality and earth based connection.

Professional certifications or degrees:

Horticultural Technician Certificate, BC, Canada

Generation:

Gen X

Generations intended in IC:

Gen X (born 1965 – 1980)

Number of working adults:

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be allowed with medical prescription

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use

Overnite guests (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should require that community is informed of planned visits

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Astrology, Christian (universalist), Jewish, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist

Practices welcome in IC:

Agnostic, Astrology, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian, Jewish, Pagan, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Wiccan

Ecological preservation ethics:

Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind

Belief-related practices:

Daily and weekly, Meditation and community events

Size of community:

11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Over 150, Under 6

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

Gender + number:

Female

Genders welcome in IC:

Female, Male, Non-binary

My current couple situation:

I'm available, I'm single or divorced

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)

My sexual orientation:

Monogamous, Straight

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Celibate community, Pre-determined by proscribed religious doctrine, with community accountability, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)

Other people’s children:

Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings, Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if non-shedding, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay

Farm animals or pets I have or want:

I have a dog. She’s an indoor pet. Outdoors she is on leash unless in fenced play or run area in which she can be off leash. She is very social and enjoys other dogs and people alike.

Special food needs:

Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation, Strongly prefer home-processed foods

Plant-based or not:

Cage-free eggs okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional meat products okay, Conventional milk products okay, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together, Fish okay, Small local dairy products okay

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury

Pandemic norms:

Keep good health practices for good immune function, Maintain strict social distancing and masks outside the IC, Masks only when in public and mandated, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Vaccinated

Health conditions:

I live with bipolar disorder and manage it through regular medication, exercise and my support animal (my dog). Fresh air and time in nature and Art making help me manage my illness. I also have some osteoarthritis in my hip. It limits speed and distance I can walk as well as limits standing time and other physical demands or activities.

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently

Sleep:

I keep an early bedtime, I’m a late riser, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night

Sleep needs & noise:

N.a.

Comfort & convenience:

I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I like my cushy life

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Internet connection & phone signal:

I must have wifi on 24/7, I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours

Off-grid:

Is a workable favored option, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is okay but not so important, Is the definite only plan, Is workable for a part time location

Leisure time:

Nature walks and photography, art making- painting, printmaking, sculpture, cooking and baking, spa visits, Reiki practice, meditation, reading poetry and essays, learning Hebrew language, learning Kabbalah

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

Anything “Star Wars”, Dune, The Lord of the Rings and the Hobbit movies, Harry Potter, The Princess Bride, Wide range of musical tastes and appreciations of genres of music, The Big Bang Theory, Gardening and home reno and interior design shows like Fixer Upper.

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Upholder

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

ESFJ

Enneagram type:

One

Astrological sign(s):

Aries

Tendency regarding others' expectations:

Upholder