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Mediation Dragon

Millennial (30-45)

Female + dependent(s)

Southwestern Pennsylvania

Speed of commitment:

In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Ecovillage or agrihood, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Resource-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Spiritual or religious focus, Tiny homes community

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.

ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:

https://reimaginefayettecounty.org/

Service-based IC (services offered):

Permanent residence, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s)

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

Less than half

Residential proximity:

Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)

Ownership types:

Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)

Décor of shared areas:

A consistent aesthetic theme is important, Decisions based on practical utility and durability

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfecting is not important, Medical need for a dust-free environment

Yard or landscaping:

Gardens and edible landscaping, Mowed, trimmed, manicured outdoor space, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight

Neighborhood or scenery:

Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for

Current city, town, or county:

Southwestern Pennsylvania

Nation(s) of current residence:

U.S.

Preferred regions:

Brazil, Central America, Europe eastern non-EU, European Union, Mexico, Pacific Islands, Russia, South America (Spanish-speaking), U.S. northeast region, U.S. southeast region, United Kingdom

Population density:

Nomadic, Remote, Rural, Small town

Ideal location(s):

Fayette County, Pennsylvania

Commitment to my current location:

Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Other, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together

Relocation capacity:

Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future, Other

Resource sharing:

Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives, Child care swap, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)

My socioeconomic status:

Low income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive

Leadership availability:

I'm currently in IC leadership

Roles and responsibilities:

Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities"

Common practical skills:

Bookkeeping, Childcare, Cooking for groups, Farm animal care, Gardening or crop cultivation, Grant-writing, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, Permaculture

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Animal training or care, Biological sciences, Bookkeeping/accounting, Business management, Consensus facilitation, Ecological science, Event planning & management, Experience teaching adults, Finance, economics, timebanking, Food preservation (e.g., cheesemaking, home canning, drying, smoking), Group therapy or processing, Horticulture or permaculture, Humanitarian work, Massage or other bodywork, Mediation or dispute resolution, Medicine - alternative, Natural building, Nutrition, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Public speaking, Short term rentals and hospitality, Social dance, Sports or physical recreation, Standup comedy, Travel, Visual art, Writing

Occupation(s) and expertise:

Permaculture Designer and Teacher, Farm Management, Administration, Office Management, Event Production

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, No experience, but determined to make it work

Experience in community:

20 years facilitation and teaching

Professional certifications or degrees:

Permaculture Design Certification, Teaching Permaculture Creatively, Transition Towns, Forest Garden Design

Generation:

Millennial (30-45)

Generations intended in IC:

Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)

Number of grade-school children:

Number of working adults:

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted

Overnite guests (tolerable rules):

Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)

Required disclosures:

Background check for landlord/tenant disputes, Credit check, Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Spiritual but not religious

Practices welcome in IC:

12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Theosophical Society, Wiccan, Zoroastrian

Ecological preservation ethics:

Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind

Belief-related practices:

monthly

Wisdom sharing:

Deep listening and speaking from the heart, willingness to grow and evolve

Size of community:

21 to 50, 51 to 150

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, I do not want to be required or pressured to share feelings in a group setting, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

Gender + number:

Female + dependent(s)

Genders welcome in IC:

Female, Male, Non-binary

My current couple situation:

I'm in committed partnership

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not applicable, Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)

My sexual orientation:

Bisexual, Monogamous, Non-monogamous, Not necessary for others to know, Other, Pansexual, Polyamorous

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, It depends

My availability for physical intimacy:

Prefer not to share at this time

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue), I have dependent child(ren) living with me and I am only seeking community with other families with children

Children present in household:

Full time

Other people’s children:

Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, I prefer a community in which there are on-site designated childcare facilities to allow other adults to work, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings, Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them

Children sheltered from:

Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics, Vulgar language

Screen time (acceptable rules):

Screen time and content limits are up to individual families

Dogs:

Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Special food needs:

Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation

Plant-based or not:

Cage-free eggs okay, Mostly vegan, Mostly vegetarian, Small local dairy products okay

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional

Medical risk bubbles:

I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury

Pandemic norms:

Keep good health practices for good immune function, Whatever results from group decision-making process

Severe allergies:

insect stings

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet

Sleep:

Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)

Comfort & convenience:

I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Internet connection & phone signal:

I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure

Off-grid:

Is the definite only plan

Leisure time:

Swimming, Hiking, Kayaking, Sewing

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

Spirited Away, Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts

Political orientation:

Stressed sideliners

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

54%

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

94%

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

88%

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

80%

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

91%

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Upholder

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

ENFJ

Enneagram type:

2w3

Astrological sign(s):

Pisces

Weaknesses and superpowers:

Great listener, big picture thinker, mediator, problem solver. Not very patient with drama or extreme loudness.

Dealbreakers:

People who are not emotionally evolved