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aSparkOfDivinity

Gen Z

Non-binary

Orange County, CA

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Cohousing: private residences around shared space, LGBTQ+ commune, Housing or shelter for a vulnerable group, Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Retreat or event hosting as community, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Medical risk bubble, Resource-sharing commune, Off-grid commune, Tiny homes community, Activist commune supporting shared work, Shelter for homeless

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.

Service-based IC (population):

Animal rescue, Physical disability, Learning disability, Low income families with children, Low income LGBTQ+, Low income ethnic minority, Refugee resettlement, Low income with high medical risk, Chronically homeless, Mild to moderate mental illness, Escaped from sex trafficking, Runaway or homeless minors, Aged out foster teens

Service-based IC (description):

Short term shelter, Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s)

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

More than half, About half, Less than half, All

Residential proximity:

House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)

Ownership types:

Rented with shared housing or shared land, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities

Décor of shared areas:

Decisions based on practical utility and durability, A consistent aesthetic theme is important

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

Medical need for a dust-free environment, All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests

Yard or landscaping:

Paved walkways and driveways, Covered space for storage, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Gardens and edible landscaping, Xeriscape

Neighborhood or scenery:

Scenery is not high on the list of property characteristics that's worth paying extra for, Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for, Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

Orange County, CA

Nation(s) of current residence:

United States

Preferred regions:

Pacific Coast U.S., Rocky Mountain U.S.

Population density:

Suburban or exurban, Small town, Rural, Remote

Ideal location(s):

West Coast, Washington State, Oregan, California

Duration of my current location:

Would relocate if group decides to try another location together, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Happy with current location but open to considering other options

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my general area within the next few years, Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future, Other

Resource sharing:

Time bank, Car share, Child care swap, Pet care swap, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Meal preparation

My socioeconomic status:

Low income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive

Leadership availability:

I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team

Roles and responsibilities:

Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict

Practical skills:

Cooking for groups, Childcare, Cleaning, Gardening or crop cultivation, Permaculture, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling

Experience or schooling:

Humanitarian work, Medicine - alternative, Nutrition, Psychology, Visual art, Writing, Group therapy or processing, Mediation or dispute resolution, Consensus facilitation, Diversity, equity, and inclusion trainer

Languages:

ASL/PSE, adequately and still learning.

Occupation(s) and expertise:

Cook delicious vegan/vegetarian and gluten free meals. Provide energy healings, reiki sessions, divination through various methods, intuitive channeling, psychic animal communications, "witchcraft", herbal remedies, and alot of wisdom to share.

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives

Experience in community:

shared a room with my sister while growing up. also rented a room with family, living in an aunt and uncles house. I've also lived with my grandparents, mom, half-sister and 4 dogs.

Professional certifications or degrees:

Certified Reiki Master

Generation:

Gen Z

Generations intended in IC:

Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)

Number of working adults:

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed only in a legal supervised therapeutic setting, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)

Required disclosures:

Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment

Prohibitions:

Absolutely no: homophobia, transphobia, racism, bigotry, and/or fascism. I personally would feel safest in a community where cis-men members are in the minority if included.

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

Mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices, No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Spiritual but not religious, Buddhist, Spiritualist, Pagan, Astrology, Pantheist, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Kabbalah, Tarot, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)

Practices welcome in IC:

Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Buddhist, Hindu, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Jainist, Astrology, Pantheist, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Kabbalah, Tarot, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix)

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet

Belief-related practices:

I enjoy qi-gong and other movement-based healing activities, sound healings, energy healings, guided and/or group meditations, divination practices, intuitive channelings. It'd be cool if there was someone to help make love-based and intent-filled meals with me for the group! Monthly bonfires to promote gratitude, grounding, and love for all would be really cool too!

Size of community:

6 to 10, 11 to 20, 21 to 50

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, Relationships should develop naturally, not thru team building exercises or mandated group circles

My gender + number:

Non-binary

Genders welcome in IC:

Non-binary, Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm available

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship)

My sexual orientation:

Pansexual, Polyamorous, Not necessary for others to know

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community

Physical affection:

It depends

My availability for physical intimacy:

Prefer not to share at this time

Mobility accommodations:

Wheelchair accessibility, people willing to not cook with certain foods/ingredients in community kitchen (due to many allergies and sensitivities). Access to shade and A/C due to heat sensitivity.

Learning difference accommodations:

I am autistic, suspected ADHD, and just generally neurodivergent. I am also Hard of Hearing, I have Low Vision and I experience Sensory Processing Issues, patience is key. Written information and/or instructions are incredibly helpful.

Diversity beliefs or intentions:

I have experience with (and knowledge about) the physically disabled, chronically ill, hard of hearing, d/Deaf, LGBT+, autistic, ADHD, neurodivergent, mentally ill, CSA and trafficking survivors, and religious-cult survivors. I am white so I have no lived experience of racism and BIPOC culture directly, but am learn, listen, and uplift BIPOC speakers about their lived experiences.

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)

Children present in household:

No dependent children

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals, I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them, Parents shouldn't allow their child(ren) to be loud and disruptive in group settings

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Indoor dog(s) okay if some rooms are off limits, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Pets or farm animals I have or want:

I have one cat currently. I also intend to get and train a hypoallergenic dog as a service animal. I am open to pretty much all animals. Ideally, I'd love there to be chicken, goats, and/or horses!

Special food needs:

Severe food allergies, Celiac's or gluten sensitivity, Strongly prefer home-processed foods, Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation

Plant-based or not:

Strictly vegan (no animal products), Primarily vegan, Strictly vegetarian (no milk, meat, eggs), Primarily vegetarian, Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, All food choices are accepted, Not applicable (e.g., no obligation for shared meals)

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional

Medical risk bubbles:

I am in a high-risk category and must have those near me take precautions seriously, I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category

Pandemic norms:

Maintain strict social distancing and masks outside the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Vaccinated, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Keep good health practices for good immune function, Whatever results from group decision-making process

Severe allergies:

peanuts & other nuts, cinnamon (and other cinnamate-containing spices/things), oranges, mango, raspberry, beets, and more allergies. (full list can be shared later)

Health conditions:

mitochondrial disease (& multiple secondary conditions that cause severe fatigue, weak/fragile bones, weak/unstable joints, muscle weakness, + more), MCAS, Chronic Migraines, mild hearing and vision loss, Autism, C-PTSD, Anxiety, suspected ADHD

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently

Sleep:

I’m a late riser, I keep a late bedtime, I often stay up past midnight, I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night, Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)

Comfort & convenience:

I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Wifi:

I can work without consistent internet connection

Off-grid:

Is the definite only plan, Is a workable favored option, Is workable for a part time location, Is okay but not so important, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with

Leisure time:

cooking, reading/writing, meditating, art/crafts, foraging, music/singing, learning languages, making jewelry, giving my cat snuggles

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

Spirit Stallion of the Cimarron is my favorite movie of all time. I love music by BTS (including all the solo-members work), TXT, Jhene Aiko, AURORA, Phildel, WILLOW, Andy Black, and a wide variety of genres and artists. When I was growing up I was obsessed with every book by Rick Riordan. I'll always adore the Peter and The Starcatchers series. Currently, I am enjoying an audiobook by Dr Joe Dispenza. I enjoy alot of asian TV dramas, anime, and generally lighthearted tv series. I'm pretty sensitive to the content I consume.

Political orientation:

Progressive left

Culture influencers:

Dr Joe Dispenza, Kyle Cease, Rick Riordan, BTS, Carl Jung, Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, Anil Seth, Yasunori Nomura, Anita Moorjani

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

support/follow: BLM, ACAB, LGBT+, Pro-choice, disability awareness /advocacy, and (not sure if this technically falls under this category) O.U.R.

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

INFP-T (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving - Turbulent)

Astrological sign(s):

1w9 (Perfectionist with Peacemaker) and 4w5 (Individualist with Investigator)

A note about me/us:

A close relative of mine has 20 acres of land in Madeline/Termo, CA. It's completely undeveloped at the moment. I am interested in seeing if there are others who could help utilize this land for an LGBT Commune, who's focused on spirituality, healing, and interconnectivity while honoring the land and ourselves.