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LoveLifeWonder

Gen X (45-60)

Female + dependent(s), Female + dependent(s)

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Activist commune supporting shared work, Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Cottage industry in community (e.g. biz partners or recreation venture team), Ecovillage or agrihood, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Single-parent shared housing, Spiritual or religious focus, Tiny homes community

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food

Service-based IC (population served):

Animal rescue, Low income families with children

Service-based IC (services offered):

Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s)

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

About half, Less than half

Residential proximity:

Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources)

Ownership types:

Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Working together in a business (e.g., remote location)

Décor of shared areas:

Decisions based on practical utility and durability, Not applicable (planning an IC that does not include shared residence, common buildings, nor homeowners association), Not important, Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable)

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Average level of "lived in" look

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity)

Yard or landscaping:

Gardens and edible landscaping, Space for kids and/or dogs to run

Neighborhood or scenery:

Scenery is not high on the list of property characteristics that's worth paying extra for

Nation(s) of current residence:

U.S.

Preferred regions:

U.S. California, U.S. Colorado, U.S. Missouri, U.S. Oregon, U.S. midwest region, U.S. rocky mountain region, U.S. southeast region, U.S. southwest region

Population density:

Remote, Rural

Commitment to my current location:

Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well

Relocation capacity:

Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future

Resource sharing:

Car share, Child care swap, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)

My socioeconomic status:

Low income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures

Leadership availability:

I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team

Roles and responsibilities:

Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities"

Common practical skills:

Childcare, Cleaning, Cooking for groups, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling

Experience or schooling:

Activism & organizing, Anthropology, Business management, Event planning & management, Experience teaching adults, Group therapy or processing, Massage or other bodywork, Medicine - alternative, Performative dance, Sociocracy or holocracy, Sports or physical recreation, Travel, Visual art, Writing

Years lived in an IC:

No experience, but determined to make it work

Experience in community:

I haven’t had any experience but I’ve dreamed about it for 20 years

Generation:

Gen X (45-60)

Generations intended in IC:

Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)

Number of working adults:

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should only be allowed outdoors

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed after work hours, Should be allowed in designated areas only

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use

Overnite guests (tolerable rules):

Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should require that community is informed of planned visits

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)

Required disclosures:

Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Spiritualist, Tarot

Practices welcome in IC:

Astrology, Bahai, Buddhist, Hindu, Jainist, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Pantheist, Rastafarian, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Theosophical Society, Wiccan

Ecological preservation ethics:

Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind

Belief-related practices:

I am a Mystic, meditate daily

Wisdom sharing:

I have dreams of living closer to nature, in harmony with the , in a community setting

Size of community:

11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings

My gender identity:

Female, Female + dependent(s)

Genders welcome in IC:

Female, Male, Non-binary, Trans AFAB, Trans AMAB

My current couple situation:

I'm single or divorced

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Not applicable

My sexual orientation:

Not necessary for others to know

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends

My availability for physical intimacy:

Never would I ever be interested in casual sex, Want to take it really slow to be sure a commitment can last

Dependent(s):

+ dependent(s)

Gender and sexuality:

I’m looking for a community that lives in Harmony with earth and practices oneness

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue), I have dependent child(ren) living with me and I am only seeking community with other families with children

Children present in household:

Full time

Other people’s children:

I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them

Children sheltered from:

Adult nudity, Drug use, Guns, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics

Screen time (acceptable rules):

No screen time or content limits, Parents should agree on online content allowed (e.g. video games, social media) because children will share with each other, Screen time and content limits are up to individual families, Screen-free locations agreed on as a group, Screen-free times agreed on as a group to encourage outdoor play with peers

Schooling:

Unschooling

Learning method:

My child is out of high school but still lives with me, ideally we would find someplace we could each have our own shelter eventually

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor cat(s) okay

Farm animals or pets I have or want:

I have three dogs and a cat… I would prefer someplace that does not consume animals

Special food needs:

Avoid over-processed foods with unpronounceable ingredients, Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation, Strongly prefer home-processed foods, Strongly prefer raw foods

Plant-based or not:

Mostly vegan, Mostly vegetarian, Strictly vegan (no animal products), Strictly vegetarian (no meat or fish)

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury, I can't live with or work physically close to people who need strict precautions from people in their IC

Pandemic norms:

No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Not applicable, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Unvaccinated

Accommodations needed:

Severe EMF sensitivity, Severe allergy to common chemicals

Noise level:

A lively social environment should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet

Sleep:

I’m not very consistent with my waking and bedtimes

Comfort & convenience:

I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can tolerate extreme temperatures

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Internet connection & phone signal:

I can work without consistent internet connection, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure

Off-grid:

Is a workable favored option, Is the definite only plan

Leisure time:

Meditation, gardening, reading,, time outside

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

I really enjoy learning more about different cultures and spirituality, and especially uncovering lost history and hidden knowledge

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

I don’t believe in politics, I believe they were made to keep mankind enslaved inside of a system they were never meant to be in.

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

ENFP

Enneagram type:

Astrological sign(s):

Libra

Weaknesses and superpowers:

I am an empath I’m very much have a nurturer personality

A note about me/us:

Lightworker

Dealbreakers:

I have a hard time dealing with organized religion

Dealmakers:

Living in Harmony with the Earth, earth built homes, sustainable living

On scale of 0 (imperturbable) to 27 (highly sensitive), 15 or more = HSP:

Your scale is backwards, I got 5 and “highly sensitive” as I literally feel others