ThoughtfulOak

If someone is controlling, intentionally harmful, avoids accountability or is disrespectful to one's identity. I will not tolerate tearing down an individual via rumors or ill intentioned "gossip" (which is different from constructive criticism and conflict). This is a harmful form of conflict avoidance, and I believe conflicts are best addressed head on, with honesty, directness and clear communication. Always respect someone's individuality and personhood, and give them the opportunity to address their behavior. Relationships require communication. If communication is not possible, then relationship is not possible. We cannot control or force change, but we can lovingly invite opportunity for understanding and address repair together, or go our separate ways.