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ChristianAnarchist

Younger boomer

Male

Ellenville, NY

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Spiritual commune, Life partner with community values, Trial run: Join a household, Resource-sharing commune

Food production:

Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.

ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:

https://sites.google.com/view/newcovenanthouse/home

Residential proximity:

Roommates (okay to share bedroom), House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen)

Ownership types:

Rented with shared housing or shared land

Reasons for shared housing:

Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Helping each other with childcare, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities

Décor of shared areas:

Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable), Decisions based on practical utility and durability

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests

Yard or landscaping:

Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping

Neighborhood or scenery:

Scenery is not high on the list of property characteristics that's worth paying extra for

Current city/town and state/province:

Ellenville, NY

Nation(s) of current residence:

United States

Preferred regions:

Northeast U.S.

Population density:

Suburban or exurban, Small town, Rural

Ideal location(s):

Rural/suburban areas of southern New York or Long Island

Duration of my current location:

Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family

Relocation capacity:

Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future

Resource sharing:

Time bank, Car share, Child care swap, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts, Meal preparation

My socioeconomic status:

Substantial assets but lower income

Leisure and lifestyle:

Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive

Leadership availability:

I'm currently in IC leadership

Roles and responsibilities:

In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged

Practical skills:

Gardening or crop cultivation, Carpentry & repair, Bookkeeping, Group facilitation

Languages:

Danish

Years lived in an IC:

Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s)

Experience in community:

None other than family

Professional certifications or degrees:

None

Generation:

Younger boomer

Generations intended in IC:

Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996)

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, even if its legal in our location, Should be allowed with medical prescription

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be grounds for expulsion from the community, Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

Mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

Christian (universalist)

Practices welcome in IC:

Christian

Ecological preservation ethics:

None of the above

Belief-related practices:

Christian anarchist, weekly study for 30 to 60 minutes, daily devotion

Wisdom sharing:

Foundation texts: Alexandre Christoyannopoulos, Christian Anarchism; John Shelby Spong, Jesus for the Non-Religious;

Size of community:

Under 6, 6 to 10

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, I do not want to be required or pressured to share feelings in a group setting

My gender + number:

Male

Genders welcome in IC:

Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm single or divorced, I'm available

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship)

My sexual orientation:

Monogamous, Straight

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Celibate community, Pre-determined by proscribed religious doctrine, with community accountability, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture

Physical affection:

I don’t enjoy casual hugs; I reserve physical affection for a very small number of people, It depends

My availability for physical intimacy:

Want to take it really slow to be sure a commitment can last, Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement

Children in IC:

Children are not a good fit (e.g., college dorm or retirement community)

Children present in household:

Only visits such as holidays

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, I am open to sharing child-care responsibilities such as carpooling or swapping child-care

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) not okay, Outdoor dog(s) not okay

Cats:

Indoor cat(s) not okay

Pets or farm animals I have or want:

None

Plant-based or not:

Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together

Organic:

All food choices are accepted

Shared meals (acceptable norms):

Prefer shared meals daily, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category

Pandemic norms:

Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Vaccinated, Keep good health practices for good immune function

Severe allergies:

Mild seasonal

Health conditions:

None, just old age

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet

Sleep:

I’m an early riser, I keep an early bedtime

Sleep needs & noise:

n.a.

Comfort & convenience:

I like my cushy life, I cannot participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I cannot tolerate extreme temperatures, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures

Tech savvy:

I'm about average with tech use

Wifi:

I need to be consistently connected to wifi during work hours, I can work without consistent internet connection

Off-grid:

Is not workable

Leisure time:

Reading, movies

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

Movies (except horror and violence), non-fiction, blues, rock, pop

Political orientation:

Outsider left

Culture influencers:

Jesus

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

Nurturing Communities Network

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

Questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

ISTP

Enneagram type:

Weaknesses and superpowers:

Reliable, introvert