Krystalight
Gen X (45-60)
Female
Oregon or Aloha, WA U.S.
Speed of commitment:
Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run, Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Artist collective & live work space, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Ecovillage or agrihood, Expat residential community, Farm or ranch, Life partner also into community, Mobile home park or RV spot, Multi-family shared house, Multi-house collective (resource-sharing among houses not adjacent), Off-grid, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Spiritual or religious focus, Tiny homes community, Van life co-travelers
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Working toward producing all or nearly all of our own food
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.
Service-based IC (population served):
Animal rescue, Learning disability, Low income elderly, Low income families with children, Low income with high medical risk, Mild to moderate mental illness
Service-based IC (services offered):
Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Short term shelter
Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:
Less than half
Residential proximity:
Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Helping each other with childcare, Lower cost of living, Shared land, shared community hub such as gardens or meeting space, but not shared housing), Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens)
Décor of shared areas:
A consistent aesthetic theme is important, Decisions based on practical utility and durability, Prefer furniture & decor that's kid-or-pet friendly (used or easily replaceable)
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space), Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important
Yard or landscaping:
Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping, Space for kids and/or dogs to run, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city, town, or county:
Oregon or Aloha
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions:
Australia, Brazil, Canada BC, Canada ON, Canada QC, Canada northern provinces , Canada prairie provinces, Central America, Mexico, New Zealand, Pacific Islands, South America (Spanish-speaking), U.S. California, U.S. Washington state, U.S. midwest region, U.S. northeast region, U.S. rocky mountain region, U.S. southeast region, U.S. southwest region
Population density:
Nomadic, Remote, Rural, Small town
Ideal location(s):
Pacific Northwest
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well
Relocation capacity:
Committed to the current general location for the foreseeable future, Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future
State, province, or region:
Washington (WA)
Resource sharing:
Car share, Care of elderly, disabled, or incapacitated relatives, Emergency preparedness efforts, Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Garden (share work and produce), Meal preparation, Pet care swap, Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
No income (or extremely low) but will trade work for room, meals, and/or learning
Leisure and lifestyle:
Leisure time is a high priority, but not necessarily expensive
Leadership availability:
I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict, Flexible responsibilities are often best, which aren't assigned or micromanaged, In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track
Common practical skills:
Bookkeeping, Childcare, Farm animal care, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, Permaculture
Experience or schooling:
Animal training or care, Astronomy, Bookkeeping/accounting, Event planning & management, Experience teaching adults, Food handling certification trainer, Food preservation (e.g., cheesemaking, home canning, drying, smoking), Group therapy or processing, Horticulture or permaculture, Humanitarian work, Mediation or dispute resolution, Medicine - alternative, Natural building, Nutrition, Outdoor survival skills (e.g., hunting, foraging, fire starting), Sociology
Years lived in an IC:
Lived with roommate(s) or housemate(s), Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, No experience, but determined to make it work
Generation:
Gen X (45-60)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Number of working adults:
1
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be allowed on the premises
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should not be allowed on the premises, Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Legal psychedellics are okay if not disrupting to others, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes, Should be allowed only in a legal supervised therapeutic setting
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use, Should not be allowed on the premises
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements, Should not be restricted after certain individuals or visitor types are approved, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Required disclosures:
Current addictions even if under treatment, On sex offender registry, Past felony conviction
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Astrology, Buddhist, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Pagan, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Spiritual but not religious, Taoist, Tarot, Wiccan
Practices welcome in IC:
12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Astrology, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Pantheist, Rastafarian, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Theosophical Society, Wiccan, Zoroastrian
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane animal products, Gray water recycling where permitted, Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 51 to 150, 6 to 10, Under 6
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, I do not want to be required or pressured to share feelings in a group setting
My gender identity:
Female
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
I'm available, I'm single or divorced
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Not available (e.g., you're okay if you're not going to be a threat to my primary relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Monogamous, Straight
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I don’t enjoy casual hugs; I reserve physical affection for a very small number of people, I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends
My availability for physical intimacy:
Never would I ever be interested in casual sex, Want to take it really slow to be sure a commitment can last, Want to take it slow, be friends before more involvement
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
No dependent children
Other people’s children:
I am open to a community of free-range children who are allowed to roam the majority of community spaces unsupervised, I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Children sheltered from:
Adult nudity, Drug use, Guns, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics, Vulgar language
Screen time (acceptable rules):
Parents should agree on online content allowed (e.g. video games, social media) because children will share with each other, Screen time and content limits are up to individual families, Screen-free locations agreed on as a group, Screen-free times agreed on as a group to encourage outdoor play with peers
Schooling:
Charter school, Homeschool, Unschooling
Dogs:
Indoor dog(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor dog(s) okay
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Special food needs:
Celiac's or gluten sensitivity, Severe food allergies, Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation, Strongly prefer freegan, Strongly prefer home-processed foods, Strongly prefer raw foods
Plant-based or not:
Everyone makes their own food choices even when eating together, Strictly vegan (no animal products)
Organic:
Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Prefer shared meals daily, Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost, Shared meals should be optional
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, No masks or distancing around friends and family who aren't part of IC, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Unvaccinated
Noise level:
A lively social environment should be the norm, A quiet serene living space should be the norm, As long as the vibe is positive, loud gatherings can be frequent, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Just keep it down enuf that neighbors don't complain, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I keep an early bedtime, I’m an early riser, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures, I can tolerate extreme temperatures, I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I like my cushy life
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Internet connection & phone signal:
I can work without consistent internet connection, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure, We have reliable wifi
Off-grid:
Is a workable favored option