LoveSam
Younger boomer
Female + male
Portland, OR
Speed of commitment:
Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Retreat or event hosting as community, Spiritual commune, Resource-sharing commune, Tiny homes community, Activist commune supporting shared work
Food production:
Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries, Not involved in farming or gardening
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.
ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:
Network for New Culture (NFNC) - nfnc.org
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources)
Ownership types:
Rented with shared housing or shared land, Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities
Décor of shared areas:
Decisions based on practical utility and durability, A consistent aesthetic theme is important
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests
Yard or landscaping:
Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping, Xeriscape
Neighborhood or scenery:
Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for, Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for
Current city/town and state/province:
Portland, OR
Nation(s) of current residence:
United States
Preferred regions:
Pacific Coast U.S.
Population density:
Small town, Rural
Ideal location(s):
pacific Coast US / pacific north west
Duration of my current location:
Would relocate if group decides to try another location together, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family
Relocation capacity:
Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area within the next few years, Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future
Resource sharing:
Time bank, Car share, Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Low income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures
Leadership availability:
I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities"
Practical skills:
Cooking for groups, Gardening or crop cultivation, Permaculture, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling
Experience or schooling:
Carpentry & construction, Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation, Event planning & management, Computer science, Electrician, Experience teaching adults, Travel
Languages:
English & German
Occupation(s) and expertise:
trained carpenter as well as IT consultant
Years lived in an IC:
Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives, Less than a year in IC
Experience in community:
visited several communities and lived there for up to three months
Professional certifications or degrees:
carpenter journeyman's certificate & IT engineer
Generation:
Younger boomer
Generations intended in IC:
Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946)
Number of working adults:
2
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnight guests (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Spiritual but not religious, Christian (universalist), Christian (evangelical), Shamanic or indigenous animist
Practices welcome in IC:
Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Jainist, Zoroastrian, Kabbalah, Tarot, Mediumship, Near-death experience or out-of-body, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix), 12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.)
Ecological preservation ethics:
Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet
Wisdom sharing:
To successfully live with others judgement of others as good or bad needs to stop and a basic understanding that we all (humans and non-humans) belong and are deeply connected and find ways to coexist in a peaceful and mutually supportive fashion.
Size of community:
6 to 10, 11 to 20, 21 to 50
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships
Gender + number:
Female + male
Genders welcome in IC:
Non-binary, Male, Female
My current couple situation:
I'm in committed partnership, I'm available
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Committed closed partnership(s) (e.g., married monogamous couples), Single (not in a committed closed partnership), Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship)
My sexual orientation:
Non-monogamous, Polyamorous
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community
Physical affection:
I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well, I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side
Other ICmatch members in my household or IC:
Deborah
My availability for physical intimacy:
Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending
Mobility accommodations:
We would like to park our two vehicles on the property
Gender and sexuality:
definitely celebrating gender and sexuality diversity. Looking for an overall sexpositive attitude.
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
No dependent children
Other people’s children:
I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
I prefer that children not be exposed to
violent images or lyrics, guns, sexual behavior or images, vulgar language, drug use
Dogs:
Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Special food needs:
Celiac's or gluten sensitivity, Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation
Plant-based or not:
Fish okay, Cage-free eggs okay, Small local dairy products okay, Conventional milk products okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional meat products okay
Organic:
Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Shared meals are necessary community glue
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Pandemic norms:
Vaccinated, Unvaccinated, Masks only when in public and mandated, Keep good health practices for good immune function
Noise level:
A quiet serene living space should be the norm, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet
Sleep:
I’m a late riser, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Wifi:
I can work without consistent internet connection, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure
Off-grid:
Is the definite only plan, Is workable for a part time location, Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with
Leisure time:
play guitar, tinker in the workshop, talk/communicate/engage with others
Political orientation:
Progressive left
Culture influencers:
Dieter Duhm, Charles Eisenstein
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
20 percentile
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
98%
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
83 percentile
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
84 percentile
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
80%
Enneagram type:
9
Astrological sign(s):
Aquarius
A note about me/us:
Love Language = sensual and energetic :-). I am looking for people who are not just open to personal growth, but are well on their way and have learned to accept diversity and variety, even strive to even embrace it.
Dealbreakers:
trust, "gut-feeling"/intution
Dealmakers:
a strong sense of someone truely being authentic and open goes a long way for me