LoveSam
Younger boomer (60-70)
Non-binary pair
Portland, OR
Speed of commitment:
Fast: Open to a situation that takes everyone being all-in from the start (with contracts & clarity), In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run
IC types I would live in or am forming:
Activist commune supporting shared work, Cohousing: private residences around shared space, Ecovillage or agrihood, Farm or ranch, Life partner also into community, Multi-family shared house, Resource-sharing or income-sharing commune, Retreat or event hosting as community, Spiritual or religious focus, Tiny homes community
Food production:
Not involved in farming or gardening, Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries
IC seeker or founder/resident:
IC seeker or cofounder: I’m seeking to join likeminded others as a core group in founding a new IC. Together we will establish a vision and norms.
ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:
Network for New Culture (NFNC) - nfnc.org
Residential proximity:
House mates (separate bedrooms, shared kitchen), Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings)
Ownership types:
Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Join an established IC to learn and possibly stay, Joint land purchase to subdivide, hold shares, or hold "tenancy in common", Rent-to-own with shared housing or shared land, Rented with shared housing or shared land, Whatever the group can agree on
Reasons for shared housing:
Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Friendship and sharing activities, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Lower cost of living, Sharing meals and chores, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens)
Décor of shared areas:
A consistent aesthetic theme is important, Decisions based on practical utility and durability
Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:
Average level of "lived in" look, Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things
Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):
All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Disinfecting is not important
Yard or landscaping:
Covered space for storage, Gardens and edible landscaping, Tidy and clutter-free outdoors with storage out of sight, Xeriscape
Neighborhood or scenery:
Clean well maintained urban or suburban surroundings are a priority worth paying extra for, Nature scenery is a priority worth paying extra for
Current city, town, or county:
Portland, OR
Nation(s) of current residence:
U.S.
Preferred regions:
U.S. California, U.S. Oregon, U.S. Washington state
Population density:
Rural, Small town
Ideal location(s):
pacific Coast US / pacific north west
Commitment to my current location:
Committed to location because of friendship and/or extended family, Happy with current location but open to considering other options, Want to eventually commit to a permanent location if it goes well, Would relocate if group decides to try another location together
Relocation capacity:
Ready to move from my current residence now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area now or in the near future, Ready to move from my general area within the next few years
Resource sharing:
Car share, Garden (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Time bank, Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment)
My socioeconomic status:
Low income
Leisure and lifestyle:
Somewhat frugal about leisure and entertainment expenditures
Leadership availability:
I'm willing to join as part of a core leadership team
Roles and responsibilities:
In a reciprocal relationship you give about as much as you get, but it happens without keeping track, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities"
Common practical skills:
Cooking for groups, Gardening or crop cultivation, Group facilitation, Organizing & labeling, Permaculture
Experience or schooling:
Carpentry & construction, Computer science, Electrician, Event planning & management, Experience teaching adults, Travel, Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation
Languages:
English & German
Occupation(s) and expertise:
trained carpenter as well as IT consultant
Years lived in an IC:
Less than a year in IC, Lived with sibling(s) or other non-parent relatives
Experience in community:
visited several communities and lived there for up to three months
Professional certifications or degrees:
carpenter journeyman's certificate & IT engineer
Generation:
Younger boomer (60-70)
Generations intended in IC:
Gen A (born 2013 – 2024), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964)
Number of working adults:
2
Alcohol (tolerable rules):
Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated indoor areas, Should only be allowed outdoors
Cannabis (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated areas only, Should be regulated by group decision only if it becomes problematic
Psychedelics (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes
Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):
Should not be policed by the community, as long as no minors are involved and others are not negatively impacted
Overnite guests (tolerable rules):
Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic, Should not be a concern of the community, as long as everyone's privacy is respected
Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):
Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should require that community is informed of planned visits
Nudity (tolerable rules):
Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub), Should be welcome and discussed through the governance process, to consider each individual’s preferences
Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:
No mandate of adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices
My religious beliefs or practices:
Christian (evangelical), Christian (universalist), Shamanic or indigenous animist, Spiritual but not religious
Practices welcome in IC:
12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.), Agnostic, Atheist, Bahai, Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Jainist, Jewish, Kabbalah, Mediumship, Muslim/Islam, Native American / First Nations, Near-death experience or out-of-body, New Age (mix), New Thought (law of attraction), Pagan, Sikh, Spiritual but not religious, Spiritualist, Taoist, Tarot, Theosophical Society, Wiccan, Zoroastrian
Ecological preservation ethics:
Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Composting toilet, Gray water recycling where permitted, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind
Wisdom sharing:
To successfully live with others judgement of others as good or bad needs to stop and a basic understanding that we all (humans and non-humans) belong and are deeply connected and find ways to coexist in a peaceful and mutually supportive fashion.
Size of community:
11 to 20, 21 to 50, 6 to 10
Sense of togetherness:
An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings
Gender + number:
Non-binary pair
Genders welcome in IC:
Female, Male, Non-binary
My current couple situation:
I'm available, I'm in committed partnership
Couple situations welcome in IC:
Available somewhat (e.g., in open relationship), Single (not in a committed closed partnership)
My sexual orientation:
Non-monogamous, Polyamorous
Sexual identities welcome in IC:
Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Heterosexual (straight), LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved), Polygamous (married to more than one spouse)
Sex & intimacy norms in IC:
A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture
Physical affection:
I am a big hugger; I’m affectionate even with people I don't know well, I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side
Other ICmatch members in my household or IC:
Deborah
My availability for physical intimacy:
Consensual recreational sex is okay with me, depending
Mobility accommodations:
We would like to park our two vehicles on the property
Gender and sexuality:
definitely celebrating gender and sexuality diversity. Looking for an overall sexpositive attitude.
Children in IC:
Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)
Children present in household:
No dependent children
Other people’s children:
I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community
Behavior correction:
Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them
Children sheltered from:
Drug use, Guns, Sexual behavior or images, Violent images or lyrics, Vulgar language
Dogs:
Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers
Cats:
Indoor cat(s) okay, Outdoor cat(s) okay
Special food needs:
Celiac's or gluten sensitivity, Strongly prefer a high quality of food preparation
Plant-based or not:
Cage-free eggs okay, Certified-humane meat okay, Conventional meat products okay, Conventional milk products okay, Fish okay, Small local dairy products okay
Organic:
Commitment to all organic, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO, Organic non-certified is okay
Shared meals (acceptable norms):
Shared meals are necessary community glue
Medical risk bubbles:
I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category, I can live with or work physically close to people who do not take precautions against infection, allergy, or injury
Pandemic norms:
Keep good health practices for good immune function, Masks only when in public and mandated, Unvaccinated, Vaccinated
Noise level:
A quiet serene living space should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet, Parents with children shouldn't have to constantly keep them quiet
Sleep:
I’m a late riser, My sleep is easily disturbed so I need quiet at night
Comfort & convenience:
I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures
Tech savvy:
I’m pretty good troubleshooting tech
Internet connection & phone signal:
I can work without consistent internet connection, I'm concerned about the effects of constant wifi exposure
Off-grid:
Is not the plan if it doesn't work for others I want to be in community with, Is the definite only plan, Is workable for a part time location
Leisure time:
play guitar, tinker in the workshop, talk/communicate/engage with others
Political orientation:
Progressive left
Culture influencers:
Dieter Duhm, Charles Eisenstein
Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):
20 percentile
Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):
98%
Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):
83 percentile
Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):
84 percentile
Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):
80%
Enneagram type:
9
Astrological sign(s):
Aquarius
A note about me/us:
Love Language = sensual and energetic :-). I am looking for people who are not just open to personal growth, but are well on their way and have learned to accept diversity and variety, even strive to even embrace it.
Dealbreakers:
trust, "gut-feeling"/intution
Dealmakers:
a strong sense of someone truely being authentic and open goes a long way for me