Terms of Use

User Agreements

By registering at ICmatch.org and maintaining a profile, you accept the Terms of Use. You should read the Terms of Use carefully before starting to use ICmatch.org. If you do not agree to be bound to the Terms of Use, you must not access ICmatch as a registered user. We need registered users to make the following commitments:

  • Use caution about your identity when creating a member profile. We prefer that you use a newly created display name and memoji to maintain privacy. For privacy, we prefer that you not include social media links or other identifying information in your individual user profile. We prefer that you reveal your identity and contact information only thru chat after you feel comfortable with another member. Our safety precautions recommend meeting them thru zoom or in person in a public setting, accompanied by at least one other person you know well. Remember that scammers can be persuasive, charming, and may present exaggerated or faked credentials. All members should proceed cautiously when extending past the one-on-one private chat function. While you may have the potential to be in a long-lasting mutually beneficial collaboration, it’s important to build trust gradually.
  • Provide accurate information about yourself. You may choose to not respond to a question, but do not misrepresent yourself. Contact the help desk if it appears we have not provided you a profile response option that represents your perspective, or choose the option that most closely matches your perspective.
  • Do not share your password. Do not give access to your individual ICmatch account to others.
  • Create only one user account (your own) and use it for personal purposes that match the intent and stated values of ICmatch. This service is intended to be used for identifying others with compatibility for creating shared residence, intentional community with separate residences, or sharing economy projects. An exception is that if you live part time in different locations, and the communities you are building or wish to build have different vibes and requirements. In this case, you may make an additional profile that reflects the values and interests of the other community.
  • Your member profile is not a place to post advertisements or detailed descriptions of your business or services. Ask us about registering for a consultant account if you have a paid service that would be of interest to users. The private chats should not be used for advertising. A more appropriate platform would be ic.org ads or the events page on their forum.
  • Profiles must not contain profanity, lewdness, or content that is sexually provocative.
  • Profiles must not contain bad grammar and punctuation to an extent that the content is unclear or misleading.
  • Report to [email protected] any communications that are in violation of ICmatch Terms of Use. This will help ensure that users can enjoy the services for the intended purposes.

Requirements of Completed Profile and Maintained Activity

Users expect that those they message are active on the site and will provide a useful amount of information in their profile in a reasonable amount of time. Those who register but then take no steps to complete the matching questions and post an image will eventually receive a warning about an inactive profile. By deleting incomplete and inactive profiles, we can ensure that users will more likely be responded to by users who they match with.

The system automatically sends an email update if a new text message remains unread. You can set a filter to block these communications, but these reminders may be useful. With these updates, you don’t need to keep checking your account to see if there’s a response or new chat.

Although recent chat messages will be visible, individual messages will disappear after 6 months. Please copy and save those that are important to you. It’s necessary for us to limit the data load in our system.

Age Requirement

We try to make ICmatch broadly available for its stated uses. You are invited to be a registered user of ICmatch if:

  • You are 18 years or older.
  • You are between 13 and 17 years and have the permission of your parent or guardian.

While we feel extra protective of young users, we also understand that some youth can benefit from increasing their regular access to stable supportive adults and teens who they trust. Access to community mentors who have attributes they can relate to could give them an important boost. We urge younger users to be extra cautious. At times you may feel at odds with your primary caregivers. If this happens, before you reach out to friendly strangers, seek the help of school counselors, community youth services, local service clubs, church affiliates, or trustworthy neighbors. These adults could help you evaluate whether or not specific opportunities on ICmatch seem trustworthy or suspect.

Teens may value the opportunity to discuss with like-minded peers the potential to apply to the same colleges, work opportunities, or extracurricular programs where they can room together to feel more confident in a new environment after moving out of their primary caregivers’ home. They may also co-create or join service projects that could give them valuable experience and show leadership potential as they apply to colleges or work.

Limits of Liability

ICmatch is not responsible for any unfortunate circumstances that may result from your use of this online service. The users of ICmatch enter into agreements directly with each other and are expected to hold each other accountable to the best of their ability. ICmatch is not responsible for any false statements, mistakes, or misconduct of any individual users, group coordinators, consultants, or others that you may come in contact with as a result of using our website. It is your responsibility to be sensible about what information you share and what risks you take in initiating in-person interactions. We urge you to read and follow all safety precautions throughout the website.

By using ICmatch, you agree that your posted profile information is available for others to view. Other registered users may contact you thru ICmatch messaging. See also the Privacy Policy.

User Rights

  • Using your email server’s filter functions, you can block ICmatch emails about new profiles that match yours, but this may prevent ICmatch from being able to send notification when someone sends you a chat message.
  • Right to erasure (“right to be forgotten”): You have the right to erasure of your personal data. If you delete your profile, we do not retain a copy except in backups of the entire site content, which are not accessible to the public. If you have engaged in problematic and unauthorized activity on ICmatch, we reserve the right to keep the associated email address on file. The delete button is at the end of the profile page.
  • Users with a profile payment (optional) can cancel the automatic renewal function of their subscription at any time. A prepaid amount will not be reimbursed.

ICmatch Rights

  • We reserve the right to delete a registration that has few or no profile questions answered and no image uploaded.
  • For profiles of members who are unresponsive to requests to add an image, but that have several profile questions answered, we reserve the right to add some type of image related to their display name. This is to benefit others who in searches will more easily remember that they already clicked into that profile.
  • We reserve the right to send one email per month to announce an event or some other offer that we believe will be of interest or benefit to members.

How Services Are Funded

  • We don’t charge you to create or maintain a complete and active ICmatch user profile. Members or consultants who wish to boost their visibility can subscribe to be listed on a IC types page.

Why We Offer Paid Visibility Boost

  • Without income from the site, we cannot effectively maintain a support staff, website upgrades, and repair. The way we can offer the user profile service for free is by offering related services at a fee.
  • While we are in favor of a sharing economy, we participate in the current money-based economy in order to support the development of viable alternatives. We need to partner with services that ask to be paid thru conventional means.
  • We funnel income back into outreach efforts to keep the IC movement growing, because we believe the world needs it. We strive to be a company that you feel good about supporting.

Group or Team Coordinators

These guidelines apply if you identify as a group or team coordinator, which shows up on the Team Up page.

  • If you use as your member photo a multi-person photo, it must be of your family or group, with permission of any persons identifiable, and not stock photos or representations of an idealized community setting or activity.
  • Links at your group page, if it includes offers of visiting, volunteering, working, or residing with your group, must define the contribution requirements accurately, without misrepresentation.
  • Links at your group page, if it includes offers of joint rental or co-purchase, must accurately indicate the housing type your group is contracted to acquire or is considering for rent or purchase, without misrepresentation.
  • Links at your group page must not lead to pages that contain profanity, lewdness, or content that is sexually provocative.
  • Group descriptions must not contain bad grammar and punctuation to an extent that the content is unclear or misleading.
  • Group coordinator profiles must not consist solely of generic terms or locations to an extent that avoids providing information needed by users to make an informed decision about your group.
  • Group coordinator profiles may not link solely to your business or services if it is not a site at which you intend to or currently have a shared residence or residential intentional community. A consultant profile is the place to post advertisements or detailed descriptions of your business or services related to ICs.
  • Group coordinator profiles must not lead to pages with postings that violate laws applicable to your area about housing or employment opportunities. This is further described in the following sections. 

Work Opportunities or Work Obligations

IC match group coordinators may indicate that they are looking for members who can fill certain work roles in their intentional communities. They may point to pages that state the availability of a partially paid position or a volunteer position that (a) is genuinely a trial run of membership, so that both sides can determine whether the person is a good fit for the community not just the work, and (b) carries with it the expectation of some type of compensation in the form of housing, meals, or shares in community resources. These must avoid violating federal or local regulations regarding job postings, such as are described in the Discrimination section of this document. The following policies are meant to assist ICmatch group coordinators in creating a clear and ethical agreement.

  • ICmatch group postings must not offer opportunities that are misleading.
  • ICmatch group postings must indicate willingness to negotiate compensation prior to visiting, to prevent the opportunity cost and burden of time and travel cost from falling exclusively on the visitor.
  • ICmatch group postings must not offer work opportunities that involve illegal activity, illegal products, or illegal services.
  • ICmatch groups must be as accurate as possible in describing opportunities that are currently available versus those expected to soon become available.
  • Work opportunities that are open to foreigners must be clear about who is responsible for checking on the legalities and costs of travel. Arranging permissions and paperwork can be dauntingly complex and could require significant investment of time and funds.

Cost Disclosures for Group or IC Membership or Events

Group coordinators, in the materials they point to from their profiles or group pages, should provide clear and up-front disclosure for any costs associated with joining, visiting, or being considered for acceptance to a group, event, or their planned intentional community. ICmatch will investigate complaints of members about the following expectations. Clear violations could result in deletion of your profile and group page if we request changes and you fail to reply and/or fail to make corrections. ICmatch is not responsible for ensuring compliance with these mandates, but reserves the right to refuse service to members or groups that appear to be knowingly and/or continuously misrepresenting themselves. ICmatch does not intend to be an adjudicating authority in these cases. We make these rules to ensure that users of ICmatch will feel confident that known exploiters will not be tolerated. In the event of mistakes and misunderstandings, ICmatch recommends using mediators who can assist with a reconciliation, as a first step before contacting ICmatch about a complaint against a group coordinator.

  • Any joining fee must be stated in the group description so that the cost is known before time investment is made by potential joiners.
  • Changes to a group event that is intended for in-person introductions must be reported to paid attendees immediately.
  • Full refund must be made for expenses that were collected by the group coordinator if an introductory event is cancelled by the group or substantially changed from the stated description of the event. Failure to meet this requirement could result in deletion of your group coordinator profile.
  • Planned group events must not give a misleading sense of having met requirements for joining. Provide clear descriptions, well in advance of the meeting, about the purpose of an event and how decisions will be made afterward about joining.
  • Members who pay ICs for services should be provided receipts for payment within a week of payment, unless an electronic transfer record states the purpose and amount of the transaction.

Consultant Agreements

These guidelines outline the policies that apply if you offer or use consulting services thru ICmatch.

  1. Profiles on the Consultants page are not employees nor contracted workers of ICmatch.com. ICmatch makes no guarantee of their availability or the outcome of their services. Those who utilize services of these consultants agree that we are not responsible for the actions, services, content, or data of third parties (e.g., consultants) and you release us from any claims and damages, known or unknown, arising out of or in any way connected with any claim you have against any such third parties.
  2. Consultants must respond to inquiries in a timely manner. ICmatch reserves the right to archive or delete a profile if, after notifying the consultant of complaints about their non-responsiveness, ICmatch receives no response.
  3. Consultants agree to ensure that any third party on whose behalf they access or use any ICmatch service for any business or commercial purpose will not violate the applicable terms of use.
  4. These Consultant Agreements require the resolution of disputes between you and us by mediation or binding arbitration on an individual basis.
  5. We may need to update these Consultant Agreements at times. We will inform you by email about substantive updates. By continuing access or use of ICmatch for business or commercial purposes after notice of an update, you agree to be bound by them. If you do not agree to the updated terms, we ask that you contact us to determine whether your understanding of the changes is correct. You are free at any time to delete your profile and/or cancel your listing subscription.
  6. If you collect content and information directly from users, you must make it clear that you (and not ICmatch) are collecting it, and must provide notice about and obtain user consent for your use of the content and information that you collect. Regardless of how you obtain content and information from users, you are responsible for securing all necessary permissions to use their content and information.
  7. If there is a conflict between these Consultant Agreements and the general Terms of Use, these Consultant Agreements will govern with respect to your access and use of the ICmatch platform for business or commercial purposes.
  8. If any portion of these Commercial Terms are found to be unenforceable, then (except as otherwise provided) that portion will be severed and the remaining portion will remain in full force and effect.
  9. If we fail to enforce any of these Commercial Terms, it will not be considered a waiver.

Communication Guidelines

ICmatch wants users to be able to discuss honestly their preferences about who they share their lives and resources with, even if some may disagree or find their criteria objectionable. However, we need content guidelines to (a) alert you to legal consequences, (b) promote a positive culture, and (c) prevent misunderstandings or exploitation as far as we can do so. These guidelines apply to private chats and content of any type of profile.

  • Authenticity: We want to make sure the content people see on ICmatch is authentic. We believe this creates a better foundation for building the trust needed for long term community. We don’t want people using ICmatch to misrepresent who they are or what they’re doing.
  • Honesty and openness by ICmatch group coordinators: We expect you to reveal information that if not revealed could cause distress, wasted time, or avoidable expense. If multiple users report misinformation, this should be corrected immediately in order to maintain your listing.
  • Prosocial language: We encourage ICs to be honest about their intended membership preferences while at the same time avoiding potentially hurtful language. Here are some tips to help you word your membership criteria respectfully. State what your community focus is looking for, rather than stating who you might exclude. For example, you might state, “We prioritize prospective members who are parents of children of grade-school age for the purpose of encouraging youth activities and friendship in our somewhat remote location.” State whether there are limiting features of the residence. For example, “This historical residence has many stairs. Upgrading it for wheelchair accessibility is currently outside our budget and would significantly detract from the historical design features. We regret that we do not have current plans to make these upgrades.”
  • Inclusion: We do not support discrimination against any type of person; we do support individuals’ need to find compatible characteristics in those they plan to live closely with.
  • Safety: We’re committed to making ICmatch a safe place. Content that threatens people with bodily or financial harm or has the potential to exploit, intimidate, or silence others should be reported to the ICmatch help desk.
  • Respect: We expect that users will not engage in spam or harassment, including continued solicitation after requests are declined.

Legal Prohibitions in General

Communications thru and involving ICmatch must not

  • promote congregating around hateful messages or intent to harm, such as encouraging violence or bullying of any individual or type of person
  • contain misleading or fraudulent information
  • promote opportunities for business models that offer quick compensation for little investment, including multilevel marketing opportunities (the Federal Trade Commission defines pyramid schemes as promising consumers or investors large profits based primarily on recruiting others to join their program)
  • infringe or violate someone else’s legal rights
  • impersonate a brand, company, entity, or public figure, which includes falsely representing an association with a business or non-profit organization
  • promote employment opportunities that involve illegal drugs, illegal products, or illegal services
  • treat recruits and/or members in a way that exploits anyone’s vulnerability due to age, socioeconomic status, or belief system

Legal Prohibitions Regarding Offers of Housing and Work

In the sale and rental of housing: No one may take any of the following actions based on race, color, national origin, religion, sex, familial status, or handicap:

  • Refuse to rent or sell housing
  • Refuse to negotiate for housing
  • Make housing unavailable
  • Deny a dwelling
  • Set different terms, conditions, or privileges for sale or rental of a dwelling
  • Provide different housing services or facilities
  • Falsely deny that housing is available for inspection, sale, or rental
  • For profit, persuade owners to sell or rent (blockbusting)
  • Deny anyone access to or membership in a facility or service (such as a multiple listing service) related to the sale or rental of housing

Since the 1988 amendments, for housing for those 55 years of age and older, “familial status” is not a protected class. In the Housing for Older Persons Act of 1995 (HOPA), requirements to get the exemption were relaxed. Communities of elderly can set a limit of age 55 or older. It is also legal to have men-only or women-only retirement homes.

ICmatch does not intend to offer listings to advertise specific existing housing; instead it helps users to identify ways to organize themselves to pursue housing opportunities. ICmatch recommends posting existing room rental offers at friendsmates.com and posting IC housing offers at IC.org, which can put your housing on their maps. ICmatch is for helping people form personal relationships with the intent to create future households or ICs together. This is an important distinction. Because ICmatch asks about demographic characteristics that are considered within a “protected class,” listing a housing option with ICmatch could lead to charges of discrimination.

The same demographic characteristics are protected in employment by U.S. law. Canadian law similarly prohibits discrimination in housing, employment, and other situations. See also the section that follows, regarding discrimination.

Discrimination

It is important that both ICmatch and groups forming communities ensure that they not be accused of using ICmatch for the purpose of identifying and choosing potential renters, buyers, or employees based on protected demographic characteristics. Therefore we recommend other platforms to advertise work and residence (ic.org and friendsmates.com). These platforms do not ask questions about characteristics that are legally protected from discrimination (see the prior section on Legal Prohibitions Regarding Offers of Housing and Work). ICmatch does not authorize users to advertise on ICmatch (a) rental or purchasable residences nor (b) job opportunities. However, after finding others who seem compatible for forming a group to establish an IC, housing and shared work responsibilities will be a necessary topic of discussion. For this reason, profiles contain a question about skills being sought by an IC or forming group.

ICmatch group coordinators can look for profiles with the type of skills that would be useful additions to their group. It may be reasonable to seek independent contractors with unique skills who might live on site at a remote location while working. There may be sufficient justification that prevents the majority of potential applicants from having the unique interest and qualification for such positions. In many U.S. jurisdictions, independent contractors do not have the same protection from discrimination, and thus you would be less vulnerable to such charges. Similarly, if a member of an established intentional community is using ICmatch to search for new members that have particular skills while offering temporary housing during a community membership trial, having a contract for a limited time gives both sides time to evaluate the people and situation. Both sides should be protected by the contract.

Charges of discrimination come into play in situations of power imbalance, where the law attempts to prevent prejudice in the selection process for a housing or work opportunity. Here’s how power balance or imbalance could affect ICmatch interactions.

  • Balanced power: For relationships where power is typically considered balanced, and there’s not much credibility to a charge that one side is at a clear disadvantage, ICmatch is a good way to find group members who might become part of an intentional community. These relationships include the following: co-purchasers of property, business partners, non-profit project partners, independent contractors, religious adherents, friends, love interests, volunteer assistants (as long as they are not overly dependent on the IC and thus could be taken advantage of).
  • Imbalanced power: Power is typically considered imbalanced if one member has few options or funds and thus may accept dangerous working conditions or substandard housing as part of wages. Such vulnerability should be given attention, but it shouldn’t cause one to avoid negotiation. People with few other options may be those who most could benefit from membership in an IC, with a work-trade for example. We suggest you ask a legal consultant to review or help you write a contract that describes exactly what is being offered and what is expected in return. This contracted position could be described as a temporary volunteer, independent contractor, or business partnership that can be terminated by either party under conditions that do not advantage either side over the other. See the section Contract Templates link to for suggestions on how to structure these agreements.

Finding potential community members thru ICmatch is more than a transactional relationship of offering or seeking housing or work. Yet cohousing and work-trade agreements can create some gray areas between personal and transactional agreements. We want to help you make your postings legal and workable. Here’s how the issue of reciprocal versus transactional agreements could affect ICmatch interactions.

  • Personal reciprocal agreements: These are what ICmatch is made for.It is intended for helping individuals find others with characteristics they find compatible for long-term living and resource sharing. If people want to share their lives or living space with others who have similar beliefs, experiences, backgrounds, and/or practices, we want to help them find each other and take the time to develop trust. It’s not discriminatory to be selective about who you consider sharing your life with or creating a business partnership with. For friendships, couple relationships, or business partnerships, your consideration of demographic characteristics is no one else’s business.
  • Transactional agreements: ICmatch is risky for standard transactional agreements, because of the potential for accusations of discrimination. The profiles share demographic information about protected classes, so it opens the possibility that selection was biased.Transactional relationships that have been most litigated for discrimination include renters, property buyers, and employees. Even independent contractors who are on-site, working under supervision, and/or working a number of hours that qualifies as full time work may be considered legally as employees.

Based on the discussion above, this summary of offer types may help clarify some nuances for determining when ICmatch is a good fit for matching people with the jobs and housing they seek.

 Personal reciprocal agreementsTransactional agreements
Balanced powerThis combination is the best fit for ICmatch, especially when a cooperative business and/or residence is not yet formally established.Many market-based alternatives exist; if needed, use ICmatch with caution and clear signed contracts under professional legal advisement.
Imbalanced powerProceed with caution and clear written and signed agreements; make an effort to ensure that exchanges of goods and services have some approximation of market value; make extra effort to keep the relationship friendly.Do not use ICmatch because of high risk of alleged or actual unfair treatment.

In Canada, independent contractors, subcontractors, and volunteers have been found to be protected by anti-discrimination legislation. Generally in the United States, workers in these categories are not allowed to make complaints regarding discrimination because they are not regarded as employees.

Disclaimer: This information does not constitute legal advice. It is meant to alert you to potential risks, which you are advised to discuss with a legal professional who practices in the relevant jurisdiction.

Updates or Changes

We may need to update these Terms of Service at times and may need to change the site functionality to meet the overall mission more effectively. Substantial changes will be emailed to all users prior to them taking effect. Your continued use will signify acceptance of these terms.

Disruption of Service

We make no guarantees that these services will always function without disruptions or delays.

We reserve the right to refuse service to individuals or group coordinators that are not in alignment with the stated values and intended uses of ICmatch as indicated within the Terms of Use.

Reported Violations

To help support our users, we encourage you to report communications that you believe violate these policies. We will invite reported users to explain or rectify a situation, unless it is a blatant violation. We reserve the right to delete specific content or an entire profile, without warning and without reimbursement of a monthly listing fee. If we find it necessary to suspend or delete a paying account, we will also cease to charge the account.

Disputes

We wish to support well-intentioned individuals and groups that act in good faith. Mediation should be the first recourse in disputes or accusations involving ICmatch users, ICmatch group coordinators, consultants, site administration, or others affiliated with the site.

We try to provide clear rules so that we can limit or avoid disputes between ICmatch and members, group coordinators, and consultants. If a dispute does arise, you agree to settle the dispute with a mediator or binding arbitration.

If any portion of these Terms of Use are found to be unenforceable, the remaining portion will remain in full force and effect. If we fail to enforce any of these Terms of Use, it will not be considered a waiver. Any amendment to or waiver of these terms must be made in writing and signed by us.

Intellectual Property

If you use our information or services for non-commercial purposes, cite the source in writing, and acknowledge our authorship verbally if the presentation is verbal, and in any accompanying written information. You can only use our content for commercial purposes if you have (a) our prior written permission or (b) a subscription as a consultant, and reference our sources when used.

Definitions

User: anyone accessing the ICmatch.org website for information or services

Member: anyone who has registered at ICmatch.org and has an active profile

Group member: any user who is a part of a forming or established group intending to found or join an IC

Group coordinator: an ICmatch member who self-designates as representing and managing communications for a forming or established group intending to found or join an IC

Consultant: those offering services on the consultants page

ICs: Intentional communities that have a bounded location (building or land parcel) that is a primary residence for those who define themselves as members, agree to a written and practiced governance process, and who would not be more accurately described as a family or an extended family unit

Safety Precautions for Intentional Community

There are some common sense safety precautions for intentional community that idealistic types are likely to ignore. We’re here to encourage you to learn from other’s mistakes, because we don’t want you to lose your enthusiasm by running into the same problems yourself. Be a little skeptical.

photo by Etty Fidele

Warning

Actually, be a lot skeptical. If you’re pretty street smart, you can probably skip this section. If you’re under 30, an idealist, or a trusting type, you need to take a look at this. It’s not to scare you away from investigating intentional community, because idealists maybe more than anyone can benefit from the perspectives and support of trusted others. We’re sharing this because it is inevitable that some who use this site will meet people who take advantage of them. I want it to happen never, or as little as possible. This information can keep you appropriately cautious. See this page of warning that includes how to avoid scammers as well as identify cult-like situations and unhealthy relationships.

Getting to Know Group Members

  • The Start page has a number of quick tips to start with. These go into a bit more detail.
  • If you have met several times and feel you have good compatibility, try a group weekend project or trip together to get a sense of each other’s habits and reactions to challenging situations, with each of you bringing along someone else you know well.
  • Decide on regular times and formats to discuss how it’s going—both good and bad—and to make decisions. Otherwise, unresolved issues can build up and create resentment. 
  • Communicate openly and avoid making assumptions. It’s easy to put off difficult conversations by telling yourself that you need to first establish rapport first. The Gottman Institute’s 5:1 ratio may be a helpful guide. Their research found that for maintaining relationships during times of conflict, each negative interaction should be balanced by at least five positive. They also found that if there were almost no negative interactions, a relationship was less likely to last, because it signaled that difficulties were being swept under the rug. During times of conflict there should be at least one negative interaction (such as questioning intent or avoiding closeness), for every 11 positive, because the alternative is that conflict doesn’t get resolved except by leaving the relationship. Unasked questions can create misunderstandings. Consider creating your meeting agendas with one challenging topic for each five that seem to be easy to discuss. In a less formal meeting, you might agree to spend a set amount of time discussing a topic you disagree on. Our consultants can help you work thru challenging issues.

Cohousing with Shared Living Space

  • Whether renting or long-term leasing, make clear written agreements and get legal advice about any non-standard arrangement before money is exchanged.  
  • If you are considering sharing a living space, don’t sign a lease together until you’ve tried out a week in each others’ space to see if your lifestyles are as compatible as they seem. See https://www.coabode.org/resources/ebook
  • Try renting together for a year before you get serious about buying property together. People can be on their best behavior for quite a while, but after a year, you’ll likely have seen the not-so-impressive sides of each other as well.

Trial Run

Trial runs for community living could take several forms, including the following:

  • One member staying for free as a work trade with a group in the forming stage of community
  • One member renting month-to-month from another member
  • Both members renting a residence or work space together
  • Spending a vacation or season in adjacent RV spaces
  • Camping together for recreation or volunteer work
  • See the trial run in the IC types pages for more details.

Prohibitions and Rules Create Safety

Profile questions in the Prohibitions category touch on several behaviors that can be challenging for families and any group of people who live together: drugs, alcohol, unrestricted access to the home by non-members, and criminality, among other habits or preferences that have some degree of stigma. Communities that choose to be inclusive are serving an important social role, yet they need to preserve the safety of members of the community who might be vulnerable to harm from lack of precautions. Read more on this topic at our page on the importance of boundaries.

This page discusses internal group safety. For security from external intruders, see the page on physical security.

Purchasing Together

After you’ve formed a solid group with similar ideas for co-housing, see the Consultants page for possible realtors or legal consultants in your area who have experience in HOAs or joint property ownership. It is important to ensure your legal agreements are consistent with local laws and your financial and work contributions are recorded. Always keep your own duplicate of contracts and records. When filing business documents, fill out and send the documents together with your partner(s)/group to ensure all names are on the forms. This sounds obvious, but people have been cheated out of their business by sending someone to file forms who changed the names before filing. Read our Contracts page.

Evaluating Established Intentional Communities

Living in an established community is an excellent way to learn about and practice coliving. The Inside Community podcast has an episode on how to visit communities in a way that will be helpful and satisfying to you as a visitor and to the community. Diane Leafe Christian’s book Finding Community: How to Join an Ecovillage or Intentional Community also has many tips on how to be a gracious and welcome guest, such as contributing volunteer time. It is easy for intentional communities to fall briefly into typical organizational dysfunctions such as in-groups and out-groups, bullying, and gossip. What’s more important is to determine whether those dysfunctions are constant. If you look for established intentional communities, carefully evaluate their governance structure and membership structure, and google them for reviews. Find out the number of residents that have been there long term. Ask for at least two long term community members to talk to, or even better, past residents who have left the community. Ask them what the challenges are. Look for records of disputes and lawsuits.

Avoid Legal Hassles

Even if you’ve done nothing illegal or mean-spirited, you still may get hassled at some point. It may be just because you’re trying something the neighbors don’t understand or agree with. Try to get to know your neighbors in the area where you are planning to create your community. This can go a long way toward preventing others from complaining to the authorities. Also, see the page how to stay legal and fair with housing.

Contracts: Recommendations for Intentional Communities

Community-minded people often prefer to simply trust that others will act fairly. Many believe they can work things out later if and when problems might arise. Unfortunately, this can lead to misunderstandings of what the initial agreement was. You may have heard disheartening statistics about failure rates of residential intentional communities; what you may not know is that a similar number of business start-ups fail. Knowing the risks should be a motivation to be careful in discussing details of your agreements, to give your venture the best possible chance of succeeding. The information that follows should not be construed as legal advice. It is meant to alert you to potential opportunities and risks, which you are advised to discuss with a legal professional in your jurisdiction. Don’t let this information discourage you from realizing the many benefits of coliving with trusted others. Legal consultants listed on ICmatch can help you make workable legal agreements to succeed in creating an intentional community. Unless otherwise stated, the following sections mainly refer to the U.S. legal system except where otherwise noted.

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Make Written and Signed Agreements

We understand why so many people don’t make written agreements. People interested in community are often the type who want to create relationships based on trust and good will, not transactional relationships where you are keeping score and insistent on exact reciprocity. Sometimes in the beginning new friends are confident that their good will is going to carry them thru any challenges. Family members or love interests might even feel it would be an insult to ask for a written contract. While the good will is often genuine on both sides, the lack of a clear written agreement can often lead to misunderstandings and feeling taken advantage of later on.

Brene Brown reminds us that “clear is kind.” Hashing out the details in writing is an important step. It makes sure you are on the same page about important issues, not operating from different assumptions. You might have found wonderfully compatible people, but unanticipated situations and serious disagreements can still arise. You can save yourself a lot of hassle by talking thru the difficult topics in advance, while you still are in an optimistic frame of mind. Working out a written agreement can either set you up for success or help you recognize a need to reconsider the plan. Still not convinced? Here’s more about clear agreements.

Contract Templates and Examples

Signed contracts allow you to refer back to the written agreement when your memory of the final decision doesn’t match someone else’s. For large or ongoing financial interactions, make signed and dated written agreements, with a copy for each party. Consult a lawyer for specifics on your situation. Make sure the legal advice is relevant to your state or province. Especially if it involves housing and zoning, make sure you know local jurisdictional requirements and limitations. When filing business documents, fill out and send the documents together with your partner(s)/group to ensure all names are on the forms.

Some ICs form an LLC for buying shares, with joint responsibility for mortgage, tax, and insurance. Others simply offer rent or time-share contracts. Here are a variety of resources for further understanding your options and contracts templates for a variety of options:

  • Templates by the Sustainable Economies Law Center give a head start in legal documents for a wide variety of organization types, including co-ops and co-owned LLCs.
  • Co-operative ownership descriptions and examples by the NW Communities Association (serving the Pacific Northwest) (external website)
  • Shared equity mortgages: The Canadian company Key describes innovative ways to resolve common challenges around the timing of buying and selling.
  • Tenancy in Common: templates and sample agreements where ownership can be passed to inheritors.
  • You can find additional contract templates of specific kinds by searching online. Try a search with the words business partnership, agreement or template, or joint venture agreement. Include your state or province to find those that take into account specific legislation that may apply.
  • IC Bylaws Example: This page has IC bylaws established January 1996 and still functioning. Using these as a template or as a guide can help your founding community cover essential topics.
  • Emergency Timeshare Contract: an example of an intentional community adjacent to a metropolitan area, offering disaster relief and temporary shelter as a contracted prepaid service

Importance of Legal Ownership Structures

Legal Structures for Intentional Communities: This page lists pros and cons of a variety of ownership structures.

Legal frameworks won’t completely protect you from those with unethical intent, or even from those with ethical intentions whose plans fail; however, getting a legal agreement in place can help you and the others involved to take a clear-headed look at risks. It is important to discuss how to fairly part ways if a partnership or project fails. If you stand to lose substantial time and resources from an allegation of wrongdoing, you’ll need to be quite cautious. You may stand to gain a lot from intentional community relationships too, so it’s worth the due diligence to get clarity up front. Our contract templates and legal consultants can help.

Many who are interested in intentional community have counter-culture attitudes and may underestimate the benefit of living in a society where the rule of law is prevalent. Some aren’t aware of the struggles that lawless societies have, and many forget that the sometimes annoying regulations help create a framework for prosperity. However much we may notice and have a grudge against unethical practices by which people can be taken advantage of in business dealings, the same motivations can be present in informal agreements, and with no recourse. We want to help you find resources to set up your legal structures in a way that gives you the best chance of success. Modest legal fees up front could prevent the need for much higher legal fees to resolve a dispute later, as well as possibly preventing painful losses.

Business Partnership

This format offers a great amount of flexibility and is fitting for the egalitarian aspects of intentional communities. A partnership agreement, also called a general partnership or partnership contract, is a document used to dictate the terms of a business partnership between two or more partners. It includes information about capital contributions, management, and profit and loss distribution. It is important to include terms of dissolution in the partnership agreement. You will need to designate which rules you will follow if any of the partners wish to exit the agreement. This means setting terms for: (a) how much notice a partner must provide prior to exiting the partnership, and (b) whether one partner’s withdrawal will cause the partnership to dissolve for other members.

Bachman analyzed past legal cases about whether a partner should be deemed an “employee” and thus could legally file a complaint of discrimination. The following are indicators of the worker being a partner rather than an employee. Not all of them need to be met; for example, adding a partner to your group for a trial period shouldn’t require that they take on liability for the group’s debts nor share equally in all profits. They could share in the profits that are accrued for the specific period of time in which they are under contract as a partner. A group member is likely to be considered legally a partner if

  • they are part of a small company in which they may have relatively more control over their work and compensation
  • they have the same voting power as all other equity partners and no other partner owned a greater share of the firm or had a greater voting power
  • they have equal authority to hire and fire others
  • they take share in the profits of the company and are personally liable for its debts
  • they have a high degree of independence in discharging their duties; although their work could be reviewed by other partners, the same is true of all partners’ work
  • they have signed a partnership agreement
  • they receive a K1 tax form rather than a W2

Employment Agreements

For Paid Positions: Navigating Traditional Employment

To ensure your hiring process is fair and to steer clear of discrimination claims, focus on outlining the job requirements rather than describing your ideal applicant. This means avoiding any mention of protected characteristics like race, gender, age, religion, or disability. For example, instead of saying “we need a strong young man,” you can say, “This job requires repeatedly lifting 75 pounds (a standard two-string hay bale) while standing.” This clearly describes the task without making assumptions about who can perform it.

Here are a few key guidelines:

  • Use action verbs, not descriptive adjectives. Focus on what the person will do, not what they are.
  • Opt for gender-neutral job titles.
  • If applicable, instead of requiring citizenship, state that applicants will need to verify their eligibility to work in your country.

When you’re looking to hire for a traditional employment role, Idealist.org is a great platform to consider, assuming the posting fee is manageable.

For Community and Project Collaborators: Beyond Traditional Employment

If you’re seeking community members or project collaborators with specific skills and attributes, ICmatch.org is an excellent resource. The key here is to frame your invitation as a volunteer opportunity or a business partnership, not as paid employment.

Once you’ve found someone you believe is a good match, you can then present a contract for their review. You might even collaborate with them to refine the details of the agreement. It’s crucial to document all agreements and contributions to ensure clarity. Always keep a copy of all contracts and records for your own files.

Independent Contractors

The U.S. National Labor Relations Board classifies an independent contractor thru a broad range of factors, such as what type of relationship the parties believe they are creating and the degree of control the company exercises over the work schedule. If you hire an independent contractor, make sure you do so with explicitly defined terms of compensation. If their schedule is tightly prescribed and they work 40 hours per week or more, they may be considered an employee.  

In Canada, self-employed contractors are defined as setting their own terms and deciding how and when to perform the required work. They don’t have anyone overseeing their activities or mandating when or for whom they work. They may provide services to different payers at the same time.

Volunteers

Know the rights of volunteers and risks assumed by those who accept their contributions. In the U.S., a volunteer performs services for the organization without compensation, other than reasonable reimbursement or allowance for expenses actually incurred, or “any other thing of value in lieu of compensation, in excess of $500 per year.” Thus, housing that might be considered a value of $500 or less could be afforded to a volunteer to assist their participation, without their qualifying as an employee.

Housing (Lease or Rent Agreements)

If you are looking for a residential intentional community member with certain characteristics, and wish to discuss membership opportunities with users of ICmatch, your invitation to join the community must be something other than a rental agreement. This is because ICmatch profile questions ask for information that is not legal to request from prospective tenants. Make your agreement for a time period that, should the situation not prove workable, you can tolerate the presence of those who accepted the agreement thru the duration of the contract, and give them enough notice that they can find an alternative situation before they leave. You might frame the offer in a number of ways, such as a partnership or a learning opportunity and volunteer position. The crucial point is to have a clear agreement and signed document, then be sure you have the capacity to provide the opportunities agreed on. If the trial period goes well, you might then decide to enter into a business partnership with shares, to structure your planned housing arrangement and to protect all parties if the planned venture fails.

For housing, if you request a credit check, require a deposit, and contract for a certain length of stay, then you’re likely to be seen by the law as framing the relationship as a transactional one that meets a typical landlord/tenant definition, not a personal agreement, even if you are establishing a roommate or housemate situation with yourself as part of the household. If you have not yet established trust, it’s best to use an intermediary service such as Airbnb, where agreements and accountability are built in. You then won’t need to create and sign your own contract or take the risk of a dishonored contract.

If you intend to post housing for purchase, IC.org advertises cohabitable properties, as do some cohousing consultants. You can advertise your rental thru friendsmates.com. It’s a setup similar to Airbnb, but emphasizing a community environment. See the pros and cons of various advertising platforms. Setting up your advertisements as a search for community, not simply housing, will help you avoid allegations of discriminating against applicants based on any protected characteristics, such as those demographic characteristics listed in the Terms of Use page in the section Legal Prohibitions Regarding Offers of Housing and Work.

See also the Groups page for a list of property financing options. The Safety Precautions page accessible thru the footer links to a warning about professional tenants who misuse rental laws to avoid paying rent.

See also How to Stay Legal and Fair With Housing while creating like-minded community.

Buying Land

Guidelines for buying land: A group named We Are Humanitarians links to lists of crucial legal considerations.

Collective ownership: Describes the benefits of cooperative land ownership over deed-based traditional ownership.

Exit Strategy

People need a way to buy in so they feel motivated to give it their all. They also need a way to cash out (without depleting the value of the IC) if there comes a time it’s no longer a good fit.

Companies that Mediate Property Purchase Contracts

There are online companies operating as platforms for facilitating joint property purchase as an investment. These presumably manage many of the contract issues thru pre-set agreements: Cobuy, GoCo, Mortgage Mates, Paradime, PairGap, Proppie, Shartini, Key (in Canada), and TicXListed. Search for “joint home ownership” and “shared home equity,” adding your location to the search terms.

Marriage and Prenuptial Contracts

Marriage is a relevant topic in intentional community, both from a personal and economic standpoint. Marriage and couple-forming has traditionally been at the core of community life. It’s a legal agreement that offers strictly defined benefits and obligations, as other forms of partnerships do. Because of the costs of dissolution of such agreements, and the failure rates, many millennial couples have increasingly chosen to avoid these “legal trappings.” Before you dismiss marriage as old-fashioned and unnecessary, take a look at statistics about marriage, the pros and cons, especially the legal benefits offered if children are planned or are already in the picture. Keeping separate bank accounts doesn’t necessarily protect you from divorce, or from separating joint possessions in a common law marriage, especially in community property states. A prenup may allow you to avoid becoming responsible for your spouse’s debts if they die. Also, as unromantic as prenuptial agreements sound, financial consultants state a prenup could actually make your relationship stronger. Instead of seeing it as “planning for failure,” it forces couples to discuss the details of their finances and how they think about money. Unfortunately, many who think of themselves as nice and generous people can be easily taken advantage of. When it comes to money, your capacity to ensure the well being of those you care about, including yourself, depends upon insisting on being a fair-minded person when it comes to finances.

Mediation

Unfortunately, even people who consider themselves a good judge of character find themselves scammed sometimes. Remember that humans are complex. None of us are all good or all bad. Sometimes people will feel justified in going back on an agreement when unexpected circumstances arise. Some people who seem blatantly unethical see themselves as justified because of past perceived injustice, or see themselves as simply protecting themselves in a way that won’t necessarily hurt others. Mediation is best engaged in from a stance of recognizing that none of us sees the complete picture. Seeking mediation as a first resort can save on costs and expand the options for resolution. Often in court, monetary damages are the only type of compensation that can be awarded, and it may not be collectible if the one charged is destitute. Mediation, on the other hand, provides an opportunity to resolve a dispute through means other than immediate distribution of assets. An immediate financial obligation, which is the only recourse for standard court procedures, could actually be the worst outcome for those in litigation, as well as others they care about. While ICmatch lists some mediators familiar with intentional community issues, many more mediators can be found locally.

Agreements Are Not Mediated by ICmatch

Please read the Limits of Liability section in the Terms of Use page. Our service is to connect you with other users, services, and information sources. If you feel uneasy about an offer or situation related to intentional community, we urge you to consult sources you trust for advice, preferably legal counsel. If legal help is unaffordable, you would do well to consult several trustworthy adults including family members, long-standing stable friends, mentors, clergy, or community service organizations. We post listings of legal consultants, but the agreements for counsel are between you and the consultants. They are not ICmatch employees. Except when they might be contracted by ICmatch to serve in a grant-funded program, we do not claim any responsibility for their work.