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BuildItandTheyWillCome

Older boomer

Male

otto, nc

Speed of commitment:

Slow: Open to a situation where trust can build over time, In between: Open to a commitment after a defined time for a trial run

IC types I would live in or am forming:

Small farm or ranch, Retreat or event hosting as community, Artist collective & live work space, Spiritual commune, Resource-sharing commune, Off-grid commune, Activist commune supporting shared work, Shelter for homeless

Food production:

Working toward a mix of producing our own food and buying groceries

IC seeker or founder/resident:

IC founder: I am seeking members to join a core group in founding a new IC. We already have a clear vision and established norms.

ICmatch group or IC I'm part of:

www.coweetaheritagecenter.com

Service-based IC (population):

Physical disability, Learning disability, Low income families with children, Low income ethnic minority, Refugee resettlement, Chronically homeless, Addiction recovery, Escaped from sex trafficking, Aged out foster teens

Service-based IC (description):

Long term shelter, Permanent residence, Provides school or vocational training for the selected group(s), Provides support services possibly including paid work opportunities for the selected group(s), Provides housing while attending college or vocational training

Vulnerable population as a proportion of residents:

Less than half

Residential proximity:

Separate units (separate apartments but some shared common areas with shared resources), Shared land (separate houses possibly with some shared buildings), Multi-house collective (shared resources, but IC houses might be scattered within a traditional neighborhood)

Ownership types:

Co-operative (collectively owned separate houses or apartments), Whatever the group can agree on

Reasons for shared housing:

Ecological sustainability to reduce carbon footprint, Lower cost of living, Sharing resources (spaces, equipment, tools, vehicles, gardens), Sharing meals and chores, Helping each other with childcare, Having social interaction while limiting the amount of influence or interaction with society, Having a “chosen family” to share good times and support each other thru hard times, Friendship and sharing activities, Traveling frequently and wanting a home base that’s maintained

Clutter level of shared living areas or work space:

Tidy in shared spaces, with a designated place for things, Average level of "lived in" look, Creativity in progress (translate: not tidy in designated work space)

Cleanliness level (germs & crumbs):

All food counters & tables wiped down after each use, All food counters & tables wiped down daily to not attract pests, Disinfectants must be ecologically safe products (chemical sensitivity), Dishes washed (or loaded into dishwasher) daily to not attract pests

Current city/town and state/province:

otto, nc

Preferred regions:

Southeast U.S.

Population density:

Rural

Resource sharing:

Car share, Garden (share work and produce), Farm or food forest (share work and produce), Joint business (share work and profits), Tool share (maintenance and use of expensive equipment), Emergency preparedness efforts, Meal preparation

My socioeconomic status:

Not applicable or prefer not to say

Leisure and lifestyle:

Current work or personal demands leave little time for leisure

Leadership availability:

I'm currently in IC leadership

Roles and responsibilities:

Transactional relationships are more fair; to a reasonable extent there should be accountability through written agreements, In a small family-like group, the saying applies, “to each according to their need, from each according to their abilities", Clear responsibilities are important to minimize conflict

Practical skills:

Gardening, Permaculture, Carpentry & repair

Experience or schooling:

Ecological science, Horticulture or permaculture, Natural building, Carpentry & construction, Waterworks, plumbing, sanitation, Electrician

Languages:

Spanish un poco

Occupation(s) and expertise:

teacher, farmer, woodworker, builder, designer

Years lived in an IC:

Over 20 years in IC

Experience in community:

hosted volunteers and interns on my farms

Professional certifications or degrees:

Bachelor, Masters, Specialist (Industrial arts, technology education

Generation:

Older boomer

Generations intended in IC:

Children (born 2013 or later), Gen Z (born 1997 – 2012), Millennial (born 1981 – 1996), Gen X (born 1965 – 1980), Younger boomer (born 1955 – 1964), Older boomer (born 1946 – 1954), Pre-boomer (born before 1946)

Alcohol (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises

Tobacco smoking (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises

Cannabis (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, even if its legal in our location

Psychedelics (tolerable rules):

Should be allowed only in a legal supervised therapeutic setting, Should be allowed by those authorized to use them for ceremonial purposes

Illegal recreational drugs (tolerable rules):

Should not be allowed on the premises, Should be dealt with by group decision in a manner to support non-use

Overnight guests (tolerable rules):

Should be permitted in limited circumstances as decided by the governance process, Should be allowed in designated guest areas, Should be subject to group decision only if it becomes problematic

Daytime visitor access (tolerable rules):

Should be restricted to guest areas or residence of host, Should require that community is informed of planned visits, Should be discussed and limited by the IC agreements

Nudity (tolerable rules):

Should be limited to private rooms or private residences (as is the norm outside the IC), Should be permitted within designated areas of the IC (e.g., a gated hot tub)

Required disclosures:

Past felony conviction, On sex offender registry, Current addictions even if under treatment, Credit check, Background check for landlord/tenant disputes

Religious or spiritual practice-based IC:

No mandate of strict adherence to shared religious beliefs and practices

My religious beliefs or practices:

New Age (mix)

Practices welcome in IC:

Atheist, Agnostic, Spiritual but not religious, Christian, Muslim/Islam, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jewish, Bahai, Spiritualist, Pagan, Wiccan, Taoist, Jainist, Astrology, Pantheist, Native American / First Nations, Shamanic or indigenous animist, Zoroastrian, Kabbalah, Theosophical Society, New Thought (law of attraction), New Age (mix), 12 steps (from AA, NA, etc.)

Ecological preservation ethics:

Local food commitment for low carbon footprint, Eating vegan, vegetarian, or certified humane meat, Use of alternative power such as solar or wind, Commitment to reduce, re-use, recycle, Gray water recycling where permitted, Composting toilet

Belief-related practices:

tbd

Wisdom sharing:

tolerance, effective communication, voluntary simplicity, ecology, and more.

Size of community:

11 to 20

Sense of togetherness:

An IC should have regular opportunities to encourage all to share their feelings, An IC should have regular mandated “group work” to resolve conflicts as they arise, An IC should foster close interpersonal relationships

My gender + number:

Male

Genders welcome in IC:

Non-binary, Male, Female

My current couple situation:

I'm in committed partnership

Couple situations welcome in IC:

Not applicable

My sexual orientation:

Not necessary for others to know

Sexual identities welcome in IC:

Heterosexual (straight), Cisgender (gender aligns with natal sex), Monogamous (committed to a single sexual partner), Non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ (non-normative gender identity and/or same-sex attraction), Polyamorous (in more than one physically intimate relationship with consent of all involved)

Sex & intimacy norms in IC:

Primarily left to the individual to determine, with the understanding that personal choices can impact community culture, A topic discussed with curiosity and respect, allowing for experimentation around what works for the community, Other

Physical affection:

I enjoy hugs and lean toward the easily affectionate side, I selectively enjoy hugs; I lean more toward the physically reserved side, It depends

My availability for physical intimacy:

Prefer not to share at this time

Children in IC:

Children are welcome but not a necessity (not a dealbreaker issue)

Children present in household:

No dependent children

Other people’s children:

I want to be in a setting in which all feel a responsibility for well-being of children in the community, Children are the responsibility of their parents, so any shared care needs to be agreed on between individuals

Behavior correction:

Parents shouldn't be offended if other adults respectfully question their child(ren)'s behavior, Parents shouldn't have to micro-manage their child(ren) for the benefit of adults around them

Dogs:

Indoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay, Outdoor dog(s) okay if not frequent barkers

Cats:

Outdoor cat(s) okay, Not applicable, with separate residences each household decides

Pets or farm animals I have or want:

cat

Organic:

Commitment to all organic, Organic non-certified is okay, Commitment to local-grown as much as possible, Commitment to non-GMO

Shared meals:

Prefer shared meals weekly or monthly, Shared meals should be optional, Shared meals are necessary community glue, Shared meals are necessary for efficiency and low cost

Medical risk bubbles:

I can commit to taking extra precautions for others in a high-risk category

Pandemic norms:

Maintain strict social distancing and masks outside the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in the IC, Sanitize hands frequently in public, Only normal hygiene within the IC; no extra precautions, Masks only when in public and mandated, Keep good health practices for good immune function, Whatever results from group decision-making process

Noise level:

A quiet serene living space should be the norm, One quiet space should be reserved for those who need to focus on work, One space should be available for those who like to have videos or games on frequently, A lively social environment should be the norm, Different noise tolerance can be managed by having designated times for noise and quiet

Sleep:

Not applicable (e.g., not planning to share living space that's close to sleeping space)

Comfort & convenience:

I enjoy a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate in a rugged life and hard physical work, I can participate with others who do not tolerate rugged life or extreme temperatures

Tech savvy:

I’m in need of help for troubleshooting or figuring out new tech

Wifi:

I must have wifi on 24/7, I can work without consistent internet connection

Off-grid:

Is the plan

Leisure time:

reading, Netflix, walking, exercise

Films, books, music, podcasts, shows:

Braiding Sweetgrass, Joni Mitchell,

Political orientation:

Progressive left

Culture influencers:

democracynow.org

Civic, political, or activist groups or movements:

sierra, sunrise, my cat

Extroversion (under 50% means more introverted than average):

Emotional even keel (under 50% means more ups & downs than average):

Agreeableness (under 50% means less compliant or more contrary than average):

Conscientiousness (under 50% means more easygoing than average):

Open to new experiences / imagination (under 50% means more traditional than average, sticks with "tried and true"):

Tendency for dealing with others' expectations:

questioner

Myers-Briggs (& Keirsey-Bates) temperament type:

I refused to pay for the test results

Enneagram type:

1 plus 1w9 or 4w5

Astrological sign(s):

cancer

Weaknesses and superpowers:

I am somewhat perfectionistic as I feel it is important to do things right the first time. I expect others to be competent in what they do. I tend to be anxious about others meeting expectations. I am working on being more relaxed and accepting of others differences or approaches to working/dealing with problems.

Dealbreakers:

The first deal breaker if I am going to work with someone is effective communication. I also expect that they keep their promises or commitments, especially if I am counting on them. I am accepting if things change but I would like to know ahead of time. I'm not usually comfortable with things being up in the air. Commitments are important to me and I feel these need to be based on agreements made through effective/non-violent communication.

Dealmakers:

Effective communication, willingness to help others, showing up, making commitments, etc.